We are all in some sort of a rat race. In life, we all are working hard towards achieving different goals. For most of us, going to college and working two jobs is normal. Everyone, at some point in their life, struggles to get that big break. Once that goal is achieved, there is a personal transformation; instead of being approachable, people become distant.

However, is that a perception or is it a statement drenched with judgment?

I have been looking back on my own life and wondering, "Have I changed?" As I reflect back, I feel that I have made changes within myself. As an example, I was oversensitive over almost everything. Any negative comments would easily get to me and I would be hurt for a very long time. I was timid and shy, and speaking up was not easy for me.

Even now, I feel uncomfortable confronting people but I have learned to speak up and talk right back. If something bothers me, I talk it out and, in return, it actually helps in making any relationship stronger and better.

I have also learned to keep myself away from negative people who drain my energy and decided to stop being friends with toxic personalities.

A few years back, after a great deal of struggle, I was able to get a great job and I noticed my life getting a lot busier. I had no time for family or friends. I had fifteen people working for me and work had become my second home. My close friends believed that I was always making excuses, working for a big-branded company made me invincible, etc.

Well, the truth is, because I got this job after a lot of hard work, I just wanted to prove myself to my managers. The drive to stand out kept me on my toes. Personally, I never tried to distance my self, nor was I feeling superior.

In fact, in my heart, I always wanted to help my friends and family.

In the end, I realized that, with circumstances, people have to change in order to move forward. It is upon their inner circle to acknowledge that change. And, if in doubt, just ask if all is well and offer help if needed.

Instead of perceiving, admit that life is full of different phases and each phase requires a different level of commitment.