Words Can Break My Heart

Sticks And Stones May Break My Bones, But Words Can Break My Heart

Wise words from a fourth grade teacher.


I will never forget the day I first experienced being bullied. I was in fourth grade, I got along with all of my classmates and I loved my teachers, and I especially loved to laugh. While this is not surprising in the slightest, a couple of these classmates wanted to "bring a problem to light." After class, they told me that my laugh was "annoying" and that I should "learn when to stop." I remember getting into my sister's Jeep in the carpool lane, sobbing the moment the door closed.

Now, while it may seem like a minor inconvenience, to a little girl in fourth grade it was the end of my world. I had just moved to the school and making friends came naturally to me, the majority of the time, but I still wanted everyone to like me. Of course, after my mom found out about the incident, we went to talk to my teacher. She was incredibly upset for me and assured my mom that she would not only talk to the students but create a lesson for the rest of the students.

I don't remember everything about the lesson, but I do remember these words written in black ink on the board: "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can break my heart." My teacher dived into talking about how bullying doesn't have to be physical, that words can hold as much power like a sword if you let them.

It's been nearly 10 years since this incident occurred and I sometimes forget that it happened to me. Both of my now friends apologized, and of course, I got over it. But, a lot has changed about me in 10 years.

I have learned a very valuable lesson over the course of high school and into college: if you spend so much of your time worrying about what people say about you, to you, or even simply what they think of you, you're wasting a lot of time being unhappy.

There is a very short list of people whose opinions I care very much about, including my parents, friends, teachers, and future bosses. But, everyone else? They can take me as I am.

You shouldn't change yourself for other people, not to make them like you or to try and fit in. You'll attract the people that God places in your life by just being yourself.

So while sticks and stones can break my bones and words can break my heart, calling me a b*tch is NOT going to hurt me and neither will telling me my laugh is annoying won't hurt me either.

Be kind, always.

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It is more than just biscuits and grits.

These unwritten rules separate the people that move to the South and were born and raised in the South. If you were born and raised in a small southern town, you either are a southern belle or hope you get to marry one. Their southern charm is hard to dislike and impossible to be taught.

1. Adults are to be answered with "Yes ma’am" and "Yes sir."

Whether it’s your parents, grandparents, or the person that checks you out at the grocery store, always say yes ma’am.

2. Always write a thank you note.

For any and everything. No gesture is too small.

3. Expect a gentleman to hold the door open and pull out your chair.

Chivalry is not dead; you just need to find the right guy.

4. All tea is sweet.

Below the Mason-Dixon Line, tea is made no other way.

5. Don’t be afraid to cook with butter.

I’ve never met a good cook that didn’t giggle a little.

6. “Coke” refers to all sodas.

Here in the south, this means all types of sodas.

7. Pearls go with anything — literally anything

And every southern belle is bound to have at least one good set.

8. "If it’s not moving, monogram it."

9. Pastels are always in fashion.

And they look good on almost everyone.

10. And so is Lilly Pulitzer.

11. Curls, curls and more curls.

The bigger the hair, the closer to Jesus.

12. If you are wearing sandals, your toenails should be done.

13. Never ever ever wear white shoes, pants, dresses, or purses after Labor Day or before Easter.

Brides are the only exception. Yes we actually do follow this rule.

14. Never leave the house without lipstick.

A little mascara and lipstick can work miracles.

15. Always wear white when you walk down the aisle.

Weddings are taken very seriously here in the South, and they should be nothing but traditional.

16. Southern weddings should always be big.

The more bridesmaids the better.

17. Saturdays in the fall are reserved for college football.

Whether you spend it tailgating in that college town or watching the big game from your living room. You can guarantee that all southerner’s eyes will be glued to the game.

18. Sunday is for Jesus and resting.

19. Learn how to take compliments curiously.

20. Have class, always.

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It's 2019, And I Can Confirm One Size Does Not Fit All, At All

I'll take feeling good over meeting your standards. Thank you.


We live in a society where being yourself and expressing who you truly are is something that is becoming more and more accepted and is actually trendy. Left and right, people are coming forward and declaring who they are and want to be in life and there is a crowd of people there to cheer them on.

There is also always that small percent sitting in the corner, ready to throw derogatory comments and taint the self-love, respect, and acceptance that's flowing.

Every single time this happens, the internet breaks and feuds form in the comment sections. How many times does this fight have to be had before people just mind their own business? How someone looks is frankly none of your concern. Whether you think the person is too fat, too skinny, too girly, too rough, too whatever, it's none of your business.

I'm a firm believer that one should focus on their own life instead of living to tear others down. You should be more concerned with feeling good in your own body than wasting your energy trying to make people ashamed of theirs. It's not your place to comment on someone's appearance.

We should work on building up confidence and feeling good in our skin. Exercising, working on your mental health, and surrounding yourself with good energy will improve your life exponentially. DO NOT do this to achieve an aesthetic or try to look like an Instagram model. Only do it to feel good about yourself internally. What you look like on the outside should only matter to you.

I would be lying if I said I didn't fall victim to countless beautiful women who post their swimsuit photos looking like they stepped out of Vogue magazine. I would be lying if I said I didn't struggle with my own body image and have to remind myself daily that it's okay to not fit their mold. I won't lie to you. We live in a world that feels the need to comment on every inch of our skin rather than focus on more important issues. Shut off the noise and ignore the words that are given in hate. You have better things to do than focus on their negativity.

Make your own mold.

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