As women, regardless of what race you are, there are certain things that we naturally have. Beauty, grace, emotions, and competitiveness. Yes, we have a tendency to be competitive towards one another, but is there a line that tends to be crossed when it comes to competition? I would honestly say yes.

The reason being is because for hundreds and hundreds of years we as women have had targets on our backs. We have these stereotypes about us that we're all the same. Meaning that if one woman seems to disagree on something that means that ALL women should disagree regardless of what our mindset is.

I believe that everyone should be their own individual no matter what. Just because one woman doesn't agree with someone's actions doesn't mean that we should force all women to. As women, we should be spending more time coming together instead of being against one another. Unfortunately, especially in this day and age people love to see women picking each other apart one by one. The media is especially good at that one.

I watched a YouTube video that was titled 'See these two go head and head' when the reality is that the video was just the two women simply having a discussion. These were also women of color. After watching this it made more sense as to why the video had this type of title. There is this unfortunate stereotype that men love to see women picking each other apart daily. Especially if it is fighting over them.

That certainly gets them going. I for one have no time and never did have the time to fight over any guy that was never worth it, to begin with. In middle school and high school, I always used to roll my eyes when I would see girls fighting over guys. The same in college. At the end of the day I would love to tell all of them, 'Do you realize what you're doing right now?!' By giving the guys what they don't need it's only creating more of an ego for themselves and making each women's self-esteem less than what they deserve. I will NEVER have any reason to fight with another woman over a guy. The WORST way to fight over anything for that fact.

Unless it is a family member or close friend, don't catch me fighting over any of that nonsense. Now am I sitting here saying that I'm perfect, NO. It's a waste of our time and should be focused more on the important things. As women, we need to put our pride aside for important issues that matter instead of always trying to find something wrong with us. All jokes aside this whole woman vs women thing is annoying as hell and needs to be discontinued.

Of course, we're going to disagree on certain things, but not to a point where we need to be against each other all the time. Just recently I was catching up with one of my guy friends and somehow I guess his lady friend wasn't too fond of me catching up with him since she gave me no eye contact, no type of interaction whatsoever…just silence. At that moment I just walked away thinking 'Some women really need to practice what they preach.'

If you're all about women empowerment it's time to stop 'talking' through social media just for likes. Instead, why don't you actually do something about it rather than just showing off online? You can't say you're all about fighting for women's rights if you're constantly trying every effort you have to pick apart another woman.

There's a difference between a woman that keeps her guard up and a woman that continues to let her pride takeover who she is. I for one continue to keep my guard up no matter what. I will never let someone try to describe me without even knowing me. How sad is it that in order for a certain type of women to be respected, she has to be seen as a 'bitch'. I've had my moments where I've had to be a bitch simply because I wasn't trying to let anyone define me. No one can step on me or read me as long as I let them know what the deal is. The same goes for my fellow women of color.

Start practicing what you preach instead of saying that we should all be together. It's a given that we should all be together especially since we are given the most hurdles through life. Unfortunately, we as women tend to be our own worst enemies. We fight and judge one another to no end until it's too late. So instead of sitting there and continuing to compare yourself to someone, realize that they've probably dealt with things that you would have never known about. Start sucking up your pride and come to grips with reality. NO one is born perfect.

As much as you tend to look at someone and think that they have it all together guess again. No one has it together. Especially myself considering that I'm in my twenties. We need to go out there and show them that WE can put everything aside to work on the goals that we have set for ourselves. Sure all the reality television stuff is all fun and games, but how much of it is actually real? We deserve to have women to look up to besides all these women that are in the entertainment business. They have their lives and so do we. Never settle for less and never let go. You are not better than any woman out there. The bathroom shouldn't be the ONLY place we set our differences aside. Start putting it aside NOW!!