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Women Have Had Enough of Washington, And Their Voices Will Be Heard

November 6th is coming, and women will be voting for change.

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In this last week, it has been expressed by President Trump that this era of time is "scary for men."

While Trump and his supporters believing this is their perspective– my perspective is that even though the conditions may be changing for men, women have always lived in fear– it's always been scary.

While men have the slight possibility of being falsely accused... being a women means that you have a 1 out of 6 chance of being a victim of sexual violence in their lifetime– which I think is terrifying.

Men could believe this era is scary because since the rise of the #metoo movement, men that are disrespectful, creepy, and cause harm to women, are finally being called out.

Men now need to take the extra time to think: "Is this wrong?" "Am I being inappropriate?" "Maybe she won't like it if I do or say this?" when speaking and interacting with a woman... a huge inconvenience, I know.

They may no longer feel comfortable doing what they think is right.

I've had guy friends that think they are helping a girl out, but in the perspective a female, it could actually be very uncomfortable, out of line, and be doing more harm than good. In the words of one friend, "It sucks that we can't do what we think is the right thing anymore, because it really might not be."

I understand that many men would never dream of intentionally harming women, but it's the ones that do, and get away with it, that you should be angry with– not the women pushing for change within society to protect themselves, and the generations of women to come.

In today's society, women have begun to come forward with stories of survival, stories of harassment, stories that may jeopardize the reputations of the men involved.

The accused will be the first to say that the accusation is an ill-motivated, false account of events. Some men have issues trying to understand how behaviors or words could be inappropriate or wrong– some men are completely reluctant to try and shift their perspective.

This is because the mistreatment of women has become normalized throughout history, and now in our modern society.

Looking back on history, women have had to fight for every right and every privilege they now have in America– while men, specifically white, upper-class men, have always been given them at birth-right.

The voices of brave women are the reason women are where they are in society. Women have demanded, fought, and yearned, to be equal to men. Women have had to use their voices to prove they can be just as intelligent, brave, strong, capable, qualified, and worthy, as men– which is something many men have never been doubted on.

Women have had to use their voices to be louder than the men talking-down on them, belittling them, and disregarding them, just to prove that they matter in society.

And now, women are using their voices to fight against the discriminations, harassments, and violations, that is done to them on a daily basis.

I think that is what's scary to men. Women's voices are beginning to be heard, taken seriously, and valued.

And I think it's especially scary to the men that are used to walking all-over women. The men who are used to having the ability to take advantage of women– harass, abuse, violate, without any previous consequence because of their status– they knew women were more likely to stay silent than to say something.

But women don't want to stay silent anymore.

An army of women's voices is emerging– communicating they will no longer stand by and let men continue their bullshit.

Women now have the resources, the platform, and the urgency to stand-up to men– and that's what's scary to men.

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This Is How Your Same-Sex Marriage Affects Me As A Catholic Woman

I hear you over there, Bible Bob.
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It won't.

Wait, what?

I promise you did read that right. Not what you were expecting me to say, right? Who another person decides to marry will never in any way affect my own marriage whatsoever. Unless they try to marry the person that I want to, then we might have a few problems.

As a kid, I was raised, baptized, and confirmed into an old school Irish Catholic church in the middle of a small, midwestern town.

Not exactly a place that most people would consider to be very liberal or open-minded. Despite this I was taught to love and accept others as a child, to not cast judgment because the only person fit to judge was God. I learned this from my Grandpa, a man whose love of others was only rivaled by his love of sweets and spoiling his grandkids.

While I learned this at an early age, not everyone else in my hometown — or even within my own church — seemed to get the memo. When same-sex marriage was finally legalized country-wide, I cried tears of joy for some of my closest friends who happen to be members of the LGBTQ community.

I was happy while others I knew were disgusted and even enraged.

"That's not what it says in the bible! Marriage is between a man and a woman!"

"God made Adam and Eve for a reason! Man shall not lie with another man as he would a woman!"

"Homosexuality is a sin! It's bad enough that they're all going to hell, now we're letting them marry?"

Alright, Bible Bob, we get it, you don't agree with same-sex relationships. Honestly, that's not the issue. One of our civil liberties as United States citizens is the freedom of religion. If you believe your religion doesn't support homosexuality that's OK.

What isn't OK is thinking that your religious beliefs should dictate others lives.

What isn't OK is using your religion or your beliefs to take away rights from those who chose to live their life differently than you.

Some members of my church are still convinced that their marriage now means less because people are free to marry whoever they want to. Honestly, I wish I was kidding. Tell me again, Brenda how exactly do Steve and Jason's marriage affect yours and Tom's?

It doesn't. Really, it doesn't affect you at all.

Unless Tom suddenly starts having an affair with Steve their marriage has zero effect on you. You never know Brenda, you and Jason might become best friends by the end of the divorce. (And in that case, Brenda and Tom both need to go to church considering the bible also teaches against adultery and divorce.)

I'll say it one more time for the people in the back: same-sex marriage does not affect you even if you or your religion does not support it. If you don't agree with same-sex marriage then do not marry someone of the same sex. Really, it's a simple concept.

It amazes me that I still actually have to discuss this with some people in 2017. And it amazes me that people use God as a reason to hinder the lives of others.

As a proud young Catholic woman, I wholeheartedly support the LGBTQ community with my entire being.

My God taught me to not hold hate so close to my heart. He told me not to judge and to accept others with open arms. My God taught me to love and I hope yours teaches you the same.

Disclaimer - This article in no way is meant to be an insult to the Bible or religion or the LGBTQ community.

Cover Image Credit: Sushiesque / Flickr

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Why The Idea Of 'No Politics At The Dinner Table' Takes Place And Why We Should Avoid It

When did having a dialogue become so rare?

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Why has the art of civilized debate and conversation become unheard of in daily life? Why is it considered impolite to talk politics with coworkers and friends? Expressing ideas and discussing different opinions should not be looked down upon.

I have a few ideas as to why this is our current societal norm.

1. Politics is personal.

Your politics can reveal a lot about who you are. Expressing these (sometimes controversial) opinions may put you in a vulnerable position. It is possible for people to draw unfair conclusions from one viewpoint you hold. This fosters a fear of judgment when it comes to our political beliefs.

Regardless of where you lie on the spectrum of political belief, there is a world of assumption that goes along with any opinion. People have a growing concern that others won't hear them out based on one belief.

As if a single opinion could tell you all that you should know about someone. Do your political opinions reflect who you are as a person? Does it reflect your hobbies? Your past?

The question becomes "are your politics indicative enough of who you are as a person to warrant a complete judgment?"

Personally, I do not think you would even scratch the surface of who I am just from knowing my political identification.

2. People are impolite.

The politics themselves are not impolite. But many people who wield passionate, political opinion act impolite and rude when it comes to those who disagree.

The avoidance of this topic among friends, family, acquaintances and just in general, is out of a desire to 'keep the peace'. Many people have friends who disagree with them and even family who disagree with them. We justify our silence out of a desire to avoid unpleasant situations.

I will offer this: It might even be better to argue with the ones you love and care about, because they already know who you are aside from your politics, and they love you unconditionally (or at least I would hope).

We should be having these unpleasant conversations. And you know what? They don't even need to be unpleasant! Shouldn't we be capable of debating in a civilized manner? Can't we find common ground?

I attribute the loss of political conversation in daily life to these factors. 'Keeping the peace' isn't an excuse. We should be discussing our opinions constantly and we should be discussing them with those who think differently.

Instead of discouraging political conversation, we should be encouraging kindness and understanding. That's how we will avoid the unpleasantness that these conversations sometimes bring.

By avoiding them altogether, we are doing our youth a disservice because they are not being exposed to government, law, and politics, and they are not learning to deal with people and ideas that they don't agree with.

Next Thanksgiving, talk politics at the table.

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