10 Reasons Being A Woman Is A Blessing And A Curse

10 Reasons Being A Woman Is A Blessing And A Curse

"9. Questioning our existence CONSTANTLY"

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Ladies lest face it, sometimes we all hate and love being a woman! We love to be women because we do get a lot more leniency than men. But, we also have to deal with emotional and physical problems that men don't have. So sit back, relax, and learn about the good the bad and the ugly.

1. PERIODS

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Alright ladies and gents, you knew it was going to come up and I made it the first topic on purpose. Women are emotional creatures, but it doesn't get any worse then when it is "mother natures" time for us. That's right... PERIODS. We are allowed to be emotional because we are are fertile and our uterus is still in check. END OF STORY

2. The need for attention

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We crave for attention. Even when we say we want to be alone we are wishing that someone was with us that could comfort us in our times of need. When girls say "I'm fine" we REALLY aren't and that's coming from a girls point of view. So men, next time a girl comes up to talk to you and is engaging in a conversation either talk to them or let them down easy... we don't want to wait for nothing!

3. Getting things that we want... and fast

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Whether these "things" be materialistic, emotional, or even physical. WE WANT WHAT WE WANT... AND IMMEDIATELY! We are very impatient, even though we might say we aren't. We definitely use the female card when we can, especially when it comes to free drinks, discounts, and men!

4. Falling in love fully

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Women are suckers for love. We love romantic movies, simple gestures, cute caring people, and falling in love with the right person! We tend to use every part of our body when we fall for someone that we are and love for. It is very draining for us, but we overcompensate because we would rather experience this chance in life.

5. Knowing your body and emotions as you get older

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I feel like your mom is always the person you went to as you grew and your body changed. She helped you shave your legs, with your period problems, cramping, heartbreaks, and love. I still to this day, at the age of 23, text or call my mom and ask her for advice about a guy or if I am thinking something is wrong with my body. They will always be there for you but, at the end of the day, you're the one who knows your best!

6. Crying... all the time

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When we get periods, we are always emotional. Even when we aren't though we still cry and that's totally okay. I cry over romantic movies, dog movies, school, homework, boys, girl drama, work struggles, and everything else in my life that I am forgetting. Just except yourself for who you are. Be raw and one with yourself; never apologize for being emotional.

7. Close friendships with your girlfriends

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You need those amazing girlfriends around you that hype you up and give you badass compliments! They are always going to be there for you even if you have a silly fight or decide you want to "be alone" some nights. Close friendships are a must, especially in your 20's, because we have so many emotions and s#!t happening.

8. Getting hurt easily

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No woman ever wants to hear the cliche "we need to talk" or the breakup conversation. It hurts our hearts to see others in so much pain, sometimes. But, in this situation we never want the other person to be held up in something that they don't want to be in. As my mom told me, "You want be with with the other person because they make you happy, but you are not in charge of their happiness".

9. Questioning our existence CONSTANTLY

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I can relate to this number more than any other, Girls are very self-conscious and are always on our own asses to be the epitome of "perfect". Girls lets face it, we always judge ourselves and will never stop, even if we are happy. "My thighs are too big, I have acne, I'm getting fat, He's too good for me". Stop thinking these things because confidence is sexy, stop questioning it!

10. Kicking the world's ass one day at a time

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Although we are faced with all of these setbacks in the world we are still able to wake up in the morning and kick the world's ass. Everyday is a new days and we have the chance to impact our lives for the better. Think positively, love yourself (emotionally and physically), and to just be a bitchin' chick!

Even though being a girl is difficult we are still some of the strongest people I know. Somedays can be difficult but like I said above be grateful to be alive and healthy. Fight for who you want to be and what you think a woman deserves to be known as. Be proud to be a woman even though we have a lot of crap to take in on a daily basis. I hope this empowers you to go out into the world with a positive attitude.

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I'm A Christian Girl And I'm Not A Feminist, Because God Did Not Intend For Women To Be Equals

It is OK for me to not want to be equivalent with a man.

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To start off, I am not writing this to bash feminists or get hate messages. I am simply writing this to state why I do not perceive myself as a feminist.

March is International Women's Month and that is what has got me thinking about how I view myself as a young woman in the 21st century. I enjoy every day getting to soak up the world as a young lady, particularly in the South.

If you know me, then you know that I love and utterly adore Jesus. He is so perfect. He is everything. He is my whole life. Some people might say that I am a "Bible-thumper" or someone who has had too much Kool-aid and maybe I am, but I know who my Creator is and that He died for me, and that is all that matters.

In my young age, I loved to just sit in church with my parents and absorb all that God would deliver. As I have grown up, I have ventured off and joined a church that is different than my parents, so the responsibility falls more on me, but I love that. Since this era of independence began, I have thoroughly enjoyed taking ownership of my faith.

I spend a lot of time chatting with God, worshipping Him in all kinds of ways, and just diving deeper into His Word. Through all of this growth as a Christian, I have learned a lot, but something I have learned is a concept that some may not agree with, which does not surprise me.

I do not believe God meant for women and men to be equal.

There, I acknowledged the elephant in the room.

It is a shocker, I know, but I have some Biblical evidence to back up this belief that I have.

Let us begin in Genesis. God created man and then he created woman. This was two separate occurrences and order is key. He created Adam and then Eve.

Jesus treated women with grace and kindness, do not get me wrong. I mean just look at how He treated the woman at the well, the one who used all of her expensive perfume to cleanse His feet and not to mention His own biological mother! He has a truly unique place in his heart for women, but He also has special intentions for us in the world and in the family setting.

We are to submit to our husbands.

We are to be energetic, strong, and a hard worker.

We are to be busy and helpful to those in need.

We are to be fearless.

All of this is explicitly laid out by God in Proverbs 31.

We are not to be equal to our male counterparts. Jesus does not lay out the Proverbs 31 man, but He rather lays out the Proverbs 31 woman.

A husband or man is to be the head of the household as Christ is to the church.

A man is to love a woman so deeply that represents how he loves himself.

A man is to leave his father and mother.

Women and men are not equal in God's eyes, but they each represent Him in their own ways that the other needs.

If we were all equal, we would not need one another and therefore we would not need God. I am so thankful that we were not created equal. I am so thankful that God is so great that He could not just create only man or woman to represent His image. He is so perfect.

So, you see I am not a feminist, and it is OK.

It is acceptable for me to have this belief that God intended for men to lead women. It is also okay for people to have differing opinions. Writing this was not easy, but I know that not all people agree.

To feminists and those that are not, you are allowed to believe whatever you wish but have evidence to back it up.

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The Ins And Outs Of Imposter Syndrome And How It Affects Women Of Color

We're taught by older generations that we always have to work twice as hard to get half as far as white peers.

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First things first I want to tell you what Imposter Syndrome is not. I know there are plenty of articles that discuss self-confidence through body image but I can guarantee you that's not what I'm talking about here. That could be another article for another day, perhaps. It's also not just a feeling of "oh, dang, I could've done that better" or "I wish I'd done that differently." It must also be noted that this is less of an actual disorder and more of a condition if you will.

What Imposter Syndrome actually is is feeling like nothing you accomplish is actually worth anything and that everything you've achieved is because of luck, not because of the work you put into it. It's always feeling like you're going to be exposed or found out for not actually being as intelligent or successful as you seem or as you say you are.

But how does this manifest in everyday life you ask? Well, of course, I am here to provide some examples.

Whenever I have a project due in one of my journalism classes, I make sure to listen to the instructions when it's being introduced. I always go back and read over the syllabus when completing my projects. I take the tips and tricks into account. I follow all of the guidelines I was given and I always try to put my best foot forward. Yet, I still always feel like I'm doing everything incorrectly or that I'm forgetting something. I feel like no matter what my professor is going to hate it and I'm going to get a bad grade.

Or it can manifest as whenever I try to apply for a job I have a hard time describing my skills or past work experience because I feel like I haven't really done anything relevant. I also don't really feel like I have many skills if any. I always remember that someone is going to have more experience or a better portfolio or a better resume. Whenever I remember that it can leave me feeling inadequate and like I don't belong. Like everyone else is a hireable employee and like I'm a poser.

I think this has a lot to do with the fact that, as a woman, you're socialized to put other people's needs and wants before your own whether that be celebrating other people's accomplishments or helping other people bounce back from failure. But you never really gain the skills to be that same support for yourself, at least not without years of work and undoing the internalized misogyny you've faced. Also because we've been socialized this way it can leave you feeling like you don't deserve anything good because the people around you haven't gotten there's yet. And that can be extremely difficult to break through.

As for people of color, because we're taught by older generations that we always have to work twice as hard to get half as far as white peers, we're always so used to exerting so much energy. But the moment you actually get recognized for your hard work can be jarring because you might feel like you weren't working as hard you could be and don't deserve it. Or that you got lucky this time but soon everyone is gonna find out the truth and you're gonna be exposed as a fraud or an underachiever.

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