I have officially reached the point in my college career when all my friends are either ending serious long term relationships, or getting into them. But recently, it seems like everyone I care about is getting their heart broken. And I don't know about you, but watching someone you love have their heart ripped out and stomped on really makes me upset. But what makes me even more upset is not knowing how to help the ones you love remember that they are loved.

I've been through my share of heartbreak, my share of messy break ups. I've hit those low points, I've felt un-wanted, betrayed, you name it. But what I'm realizing is everyone deals with things differently. Even though I handled similar situations with more anger than sadness or even though I may have bounced back differently, I know a lot of people who don't do that.

I think the hardest thing for me when someone comes to me for advice in the break-up department is how much I try to stress that they are going to be okay. Because you are going to be okay. You're going to go through what seems like hell for a few weeks or a few months. You're going to cry randomly, and sleeping is going to be tough. You're not going to know what to do with yourself. Dying your hair black may seem like a good idea (and if you're me, you actually dye your hair black), but each week you make tiny strides toward your independence and your own happiness.

And I promise, it's going to be rewarding. It's rewarding to get through something, to get through something that seems like it's never going to stop hurting. It's rewarding to actually turn out okay (in actuality, better than okay). It's rewarding to work through it, to end up where you could never see yourself. But you have to get through it. You have to get through what seems like hell to reach your own kind of heaven.

So, to everyone out there with a broken heart who may come across this article, I know it's one thing for me to tell you, "you're going to be okay," but it's another thing for you to actually believe me. You're going to get through your break up and I challenge you to embrace the roller-coaster ride of emotions because nothing is more rewarding or more of a learning experience than when you finally get off that ride.