don't mistake
salt for sugar
if he wants to
be with you
he will
it's that simple
- Rupi Kaur

The other day, a good friend of mine sent me a quote from Rupi Kaur's book "Milk and Honey." It was so brilliantly honest and simple I had to share.

People have often told me that actions speak louder than words. Although I hesitate to fully agree, I think there's a lot of truth behind that statement. Lately, this statement has resonated with me in the sense that sometimes people's words can just be too confusing. Humans communicate in a variety of different ways: words, body language, eye contact, hand gestures, intended meaning, etc. Often times what I have found is that words in someone's mouth can mean something completely different in someone else's mind. Paths get crossed, intentions misinterpreted, and miscommunication runs amuck. This can be solved very easily—I'll give you a little hint: don't mistake salt for sugar.

Some might argue that Kaur is trying to say not to confuse people's words with what they really mean. When someone is telling you something, regardless of what you think is being said or what you want to be said, the only thing to be understood is the literal. The truth hurts. Often times we do whatever it takes to hide from it, whatever it takes to stop the pain we know is eminent. We overanalyze a situation and look at only the things we want to see and hear, but in the end, no matter how far we run, the truth always finds us.

I've tried for so long to understand the thought processes going on in other people's minds, but since that almost made me crazy, I have decided to take a step back and analyze only the things I know to be true, rather than what I want to be true. Too many times we run from the truth. For some reason this generation has trouble dealing with reality. Rather than accept the literal, we do whatever manipulation we can in our mind to stop ourselves from hurting. We justify our contradiction of thoughts by their contradiction in actions, and somewhere along the way we lose the truth.

So stop justifying his actions. Stop making excuses for her. All you can do is take the salt for what it is, and that is just salt. Don't mistake salt for sugar. If he wants to be with you, he will. It's that simple.