In the past 2 years of college, I've gained about 10 or so enemies. These people blocked me on social media and pretend my existence is nothing. They used to be best friends, good acquaintances or boyfriends of mine. I am the type of individual who enjoys having friends and no drama involved. When I receive that nasty text message, or terrifying call - it sends me into terror. I break down emotionally, and it sticks in my skin for a few days. It just....hurts to call a former friend an enemy. When you see that person at the local on campus dining hall, you want to run away and pretend you didn't just see them. It's okay. It's okay to have enemies and to stand up for yourself.
Standing up for yourself is not always easy or fun. It's important to make boundaries with people, so they don't take advantage of you. I want to also point out that it is okay not to be liked by everyone. This is a thing that happens in life. It is normal, and it is okay. I know what my morals and beliefs are:
-To give back to those in need.
-To treat others how you would want to be treated.
-To smile, laugh, and be happy.
If someone breaks those rules, cut them off. You don't need unhappiness to crawl back into your life and eat you up. Say no, toot your horn, wear that shirt from your favorite show (whatever it may be): Just stand up for you and what you believe in.
There are many things you should say to your enemies, or your haters:
-You are hurtful and unhealthy in my life.
-You are negative, it is unnecessary.
-Jealousy and insecurity are ugly traits.
By standing up for yourself, you are giving power. Not only are you rising above the immaturity, you are a strong, confident person. You do not need the approval of everyone. Those who you care and care about you, should matter to you. The haters are irrelevant.
You got this.
