A couple days ago I was babysitting for a family who has 5 kids. We'd done a lot and had a good time but then it came time for bed. The younger girls went to bed pretty easily but when I was telling the older girls a story they kept asking me to stay in their room so they wouldn't be alone and get scared. I stayed in their room but tried to get them to lay down and stop talking. Their brother, hearing the girls talking came in to check on his sisters. Although I didn't realize it at the time, this was a picture of something almost every human deals with, the fear of being alone. In Genesis 2:18 God said "It is not good for that man should be alone, I will make a helper fit for him." God created us to be around others and desire company. But we have taken it to a whole other level. Now you hear this term FOMO, which is the fear of being left out. Not only do we want to be around people so we are not lonely but we know have to be included all the time. Now do not get me wrong being left out of things is not fun, but we also have to realize that it's not possible to always get included in everything. You will miss out on things, whether it's because you have to work or go to school or just don't get invited to something.

While this is very hard, learning how to deal with the disappointment is a very valuable lesson. One thing we all have to realize is that we are never truly alone, as Christians God is always with us whether we know it or not. A couple of years ago I missed an airplane flight and ended up stuck in an airport all day by myself. What got me through it was realizing I wasn't really alone because God was with me, he provided people for me to talk to and gave me a sense of peace when I was scared. Another thing to remember is that when you are lonely a great thing to do is to help other people. When we are lonely it is easy to only think about ourselves and dwell on how bad our lives are. By helping others we can take the focus off ourselves and put others first. Doing this can also show us how blessed we are and instead of feeling sorry for ourselves we are counting our blessings. It is also important to remember that it is great to spend time with God when you are lonely. It might sound cliche but it's true.

Lots of times we have so many distractions in our lives that we forget that God is the most important person,and the help he will provide will be more lasting than the time you spend surfing Facebook. When you are feeling lonely or left out your should not turn to social media, it just confirms what you are feeling by showing you what all your friends are doing. But what you do not see behind those pictures from his beach trip or her party is what else is going on in their life. We can get so obsessed about what we are missing out on that we forget no one's life is perfect. God places us in our situations specifically and he wants us to make them best of the lives he's given us, even we are lonely.