I'm sure whoever wrote the article To The Real Christian Men In 2017, I'm Sorry had a lot of good intentions. As a Christian myself, I could understand where they were coming from and found myself trying to nod in agreement.
Key word: trying.
The problem is, I'm not sorry. I can't be. I don't know these men personally. I haven't done anything to them directly that I should apologize for. So why should I?
I know that the world we live in isn't always conducive to living a wholesome Christian life. But that's not just for men.
Women have just as many struggles as men do, and I don't see anyone writing apologies for us.
Me saying I'm sorry for wearing leggings to class or for rocking a bikini is the same as a guy apologizing for wearing a well-fitting suit, or going shirtless. Kinda ridiculous.
The problem with apologizing to men for women's action is that it's a one-way street. Women's bodies and sexualities have been exploited for millennia, yet somehow we're the ones responsible for men's lust issues.
Women are attacked for having sex, or we're prudes for being virgins; men are praised for having sex, and weird if they don't.
No one can win in this version of sexuality.
I'm not saying that we, as women, should be running around naked all the time – just as much as men shouldn't. But we have to get a little bit of perspective. Women's bodies will always be more "sexual." I'm pretty sure I could be wearing a full-length potato sack and still get catcalled. It's not about what people see or don't see on my body, it's the fact that I'm a woman. You can thank society for that!
There's no cookie-cutter way to be a Christian. I wear red lipstick, occasionally cuss at people in traffic, and wear bikinis – but I still love Jesus. And I'm not going to apologize for any of it.
