Why It's OK To Be Selfish In Your Late Teens
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Why It's OK To Be Selfish In Your Late Teens

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Why It's OK To Be Selfish In Your Late Teens

So, before you know it you've graduated high school and all of a sudden you're supposed to have your life together...right? Wrong. College is not for everyone. Your first major may not be your last major. Your choice of college may not end up being the right fit for you. The boy you thought you were going to be with forever, might not even end up being the boy of your dreams. Your late teens and early twenties are not meant for having it all together. It's about finding yourself, and what is going to make you happy for the rest of your life. We are so quick to think that we need to do certain things, or be at a certain position in our lives by a certain age, that how many of us are truly content? Sometimes we just need to remind ourselves that it's OK not to have it all together.

Here are a few things to remind yourself of when you're feeling a little lost and overwhelmed.

1. You do not need to be looking for your soulmate, or putting up with less than you deserve. There is 7.1 billion people in this world, don't let one person dictate your mood..

2. Don't listen just to listen. Listen with an open mind and to understand.

3. Never let someone tell you that your problems aren't important just because someone, somewhere is going through something harder than you. You matter too.

4. You and your friends will become busy with your crazy lives. This does not mean that they still won't drop everything for you if/when you need it.

5. No matter how hard you try, you will NEVER be able to please everyone. You might as well do what makes you happy in the meantime.

6. You're not missing out on anything just because you choose to not go out. There's a lot more to life.

7. One mistake isn't going to kill you. But, making the same mistake over and over again will.

8. Fight for what you want in life. Nobody said it would be easy or handed to you.

9. Stop comparing yourself to others. You are you and nobody can be you better than you.

10. Learn to enjoy the little moments in life. Rather than constantly waiting for the big things, embrace the small moments just as much.

11. Don't take kind people for granted. There are a lot of shitty people in the world, so keep the good ones close when you come by them.

12. Trust yourself. Deep down you know what is best for you. Don't let someone convince you otherwise.

13. Focus on becoming the best version of you; the rest will fall into place.

14. Don't be afraid to go outside of your comfort zone. This is how you grow and change.

15. Always keep an open mind. You'll be surprised on what you learn when you give different people/ideas the time of day.

16. Don't be so quick to judge someone based on what you've heard. People do change, and you'll never know what you could be missing out on simply because of "something" someone told you along the line.

17. Most importantly...don't forget to take time for you. Your late teens and early twenties are a time to be selfish. A time to figure out who you are and who you want to be.

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