Why Telling Your Loved Ones You Care Is So Important.

Why Telling Your Loved Ones You Care Is So Important.

Better to tell them a thousand times now, before it's too late and you regret it.

If there's one thing that I've noticed, especially lately, it's that life is incredibly fleeting. With all of the sources of tragedy out there, someone can be gone in the blink of an eye.

Often, when someone leaves us, one of our biggest regrets is that we didn't get to let them know how much we loved them. However, when it comes to who we still have, we never learn, never change.

The problem is how often we take the people around us for granted. We go through our whole lives interacting with people certain that they will always be there when we want them to be. But unfortunately, the fact of the matter is they won't always be there.

It doesn't even have to be a tragedy that takes people away from us. Anything from different life plans to a lack of feeling appreciated can push someone away from us as well. No matter how much time has passed between interactions, letting someone know you care can do wonders for them.

It only takes a few seconds out of your day to make sure someone feels valued. Something as simple as a "hey, how are you doing" check up text can make someone feel cared about and turn their whole day around. You may not realize it at the time, but simply letting someone know you care may be a huge help to them, even if it doesn't solve their original problem.

With the busy hustle and bustle of life and other stressors, it can become easy to forget how much other people care about us. Small little reminders can turn your entire day around, even if you haven't forgotten; it's always nice to hear someone cares.

I know that being sappy can have a negative connotation. We don't want to tell our friends we love them because the second we do that one too many times, we can feel clingy and overbearing.

This has never stopped me. Sure, sometimes I have to tone it down a little bit, but I always tell the people that are important to me I love them; usually at least 5 times a week.

Whether it's a direct "love you" or just a simple, "hey thanks for doing that you're the best" I never let too much time pass without passing along appreciation for those who do so much for me.

It may seem excessive, but it's something I've believed in since I was a little girl. Every single end of a phone call or "goodnight", always brought with it an "I love you" to my family. It was like an impulse I couldn't pass up.

Sometimes this seemed silly to me; I knew that they would be there the next morning, or later after the call. But each time I had that thought, I reminded myself you never actually know. This carried on well throughout college, and with the passing of my grandmother, I'm glad it was a trait I have always kept. There are a lot of things I regret about losing my grandmother, but at least I know for certain she always knew how much I loved her, and vice versa.

My point is, you never know when it's going to be too late to appreciate what you have. Why wait until you have to regret losing the chance? Life happens, and along the way I'm sure your loved ones could use to hear you care at one point or another. You may not always know they do, but even if they don't in that moment, with all of the hate that gets spread on a daily basis, who does it really hurt to spread appreciation?

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I'd Rather Be Single Than Settle – Here Is Why Being Picky Is Okay

They're on their best behavior when you're dating.

Dating nowadays described in one word: annoying.

What's even more annoying? when people tell you that you're being too "picky" when it comes to dating. Yes, from an outside perspective sometimes that's exactly what it looks like; however, when looking at it from my perspective it all makes sense.

I've heard it all:

"He was cute, why didn't you like him?"

"You didn't even give him a chance!"

"You pay too much attention to the little things!"

What people don't understand is that it's OKAY to be picky when it comes to guys. For some reason, girls in college freak out and think they're supposed to have a boyfriend by now, be engaged by the time they graduate, etc. It's all a little ridiculous.

However, I refuse to put myself on a time table such as this due to the fact that these girls who feel this way are left with no choice but to overlook the things in guys that they shouldn't be overlooking, they're settling and this is something that I refuse to do.

So this leaves the big question: What am I waiting for?

Well, I'm waiting for a guy who...

1. Wants to know my friends.

Blessed doesn't even begin to describe how lucky I am to have the friends that I do.

I want a guy who can hang out with my friends. If a guy makes an effort to impress your friends then that says a lot about him and how he feels about you. This not only shows that he cares about you but he cares about the people in your life as well.

Someone should be happy to see you happy and your friends contribute to that happiness, therefore, they should be nothing more than supportive and caring towards you and your friendships.

2. Actually, cares to get to know me.

Although this is a very broad statement, this is the most important one. A guy should want to know all about you. He should want to know your favorite movie, favorite ice cream flavor, favorite Netflix series, etc. Often, (the guys I get stuck on dates with) love to talk about themselves: they would rather tell you about what workout they did yesterday, what their job is, and what they like to do rather than get to know you.

This is something easy to spot on the first date, so although they may be "cute," you should probably drop them if you leave your date and can recite everything about their life since the day they were born, yet they didn't catch what your last name was.

3. How they talk about other women.

It does not matter who they're talking about, if they call their ex-girlfriend crazy we all know she probably isn't and if she is it's probably their fault.

If they talk bad about their mom, let's be honest, if they're disrespecting their mother they're not going to respect you either. If they mention a girl's physical appearances when describing them. For example, "yeah, I think our waitress is that blonde chick with the big boobs"

Well if that doesn't hint they're a complete f* boy then I don't know what else to tell you. And most importantly calling other women "bitches" that's just disrespectful.

Needless to say, if his conversations are similar to ones you'd hear in a frat house, ditch him.

4. Phone etiquette.

If he can't put his phone down long enough to take you to dinner then he doesn't deserve for you to be sitting across from him.

If a guy is serious about you he's going to give you his undivided attention and he's going to do whatever it takes to impress you and checking Snapchat on a date is not impressive. Also, notice if his phone is facedown, then there's most likely a reason for it.

He doesn't trust who or what could pop up on there and he clearly doesn't want you seeing. Although I'm not particularly interested in what's popping up on their phones, putting them face down says more about the guy than you think it does.

To reiterate, it's okay to be picky ladies, you're young, there's no rush.

Remember these tips next time you're on a date or seeing someone, and keep in mind: they're on their best behavior when you're dating. Then ask yourself, what will they be like when they're comfortable? Years down the road? Is this what I really want? If you ask yourself these questions you might be down the same road I have stumbled upon, being too picky.. and that's better than settling.

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