Why I Hate Adult-ing

Why I Hate Adult-ing

You'll Be Surprised Why I Just Can't Come To Terms With It
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"OMG I went to the grocery store today by myself! Adulting"

"Adulting is so hard, my mom makes me schedule my own appointments now!"

"Haha, a bunch of kids needed an adult, so I went to look for a adult-er adult!"

Sentences like these, or variations of them, are abound on social media. I have to admit, as someone on the cusp of adulthood (18 and off at college) I don't understand why people in their twenties are getting excited or patting themselves on the back for... surviving and doing what's necessary. Sorry not sorry, I don't think it's a big deal when you figure out how to do laundry on your own and start actually reading the papers you sign. Paying your own bills by the time you're 25 should be a given, not something you feel the need to get a gold star for!

Put forth by millennials in their twenties, "adulting" seems to be the extension of the participation award. Oh, congratulations, you survived, you deserve a long day in bed for adulting so hard! You get a pat on the back just for showing up! No, I don't think so. We're living in a world today where no one wants to work for themselves, and the "adulting" mindset is a huge part of the problem. As a teacher once told my class, you don't get applause for doing just what you are expected to do (credits: Scottie too Hottie).

Any 20-somethings reading this are probably asking what I know, I'm only 18, I don't do anything for myself. To that I would say, you're right! I'm still fairly dependent on my mom. But I'm also not tweeting about going to the grocery store by myself or crying because I filled out a tax form solo. Adulting is stupid, and I hope by the time I am doing a lot more things for myself, I'm a) not 27, and b) not expecting to get 30 retweets and accolades because I figured out how to do it!

To further my concern, and hopefully yours, I learned fairly recently that this isn't just an annoying hashtag, it's a psychological phenomenon that's growing increasingly common: Emerging adulthood is the extension of childhood into the mid to late twenties. While my psychology teacher wouldn't come out and say it's a bad thing (probably because she was faced with a lecture hall full of 18-20somethings) it clearly... just is. What's good about having your parents pay your bill until 27 and asking for congratulations for going to work?

To anyone who considers themselves a victim of "adulting" or even if you just use it as a hashtag on Twitter, I'm now speaking directly to you. Please stop. You're embarrassing yourself, you're hurting how you come off to employers, you're getting on my nerves, and you're setting a bad standard. I give any of you full permission to tackle me if you see me crying or congratulating about "adulting."

My advice if you really can't handle it? Own your adolescence or check yourself in to reality.

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30 Things I'd Rather Be Than 'Pretty'

Because "pretty" is so overrated.
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Nowadays, we put so much emphasis on our looks. We focus so much on the outside that we forget to really focus on what matters. I was inspired by a list that I found online of "Things I Would Rather Be Called Instead Of Pretty," so I made my own version. Here is a list of things that I would rather be than "pretty."

1. Captivating

I want one glance at me to completely steal your breath away.

2. Magnetic

I want people to feel drawn to me. I want something to be different about me that people recognize at first glance.

3. Raw

I want to be real. Vulnerable. Completely, genuinely myself.

4. Intoxicating

..and I want you addicted.

5. Humble

I want to recognize my abilities, but not be boastful or proud.

6. Exemplary

I want to stand out.

7. Loyal

I want to pride myself on sticking out the storm.

8. Fascinating

I want you to be hanging on every word I say.

9. Empathetic

I want to be able to feel your pain, so that I can help you heal.

10. Vivacious

I want to be the life of the party.

11. Reckless

I want to be crazy. Thrilling. Unpredictable. I want to keep you guessing, keep your heart pounding, and your blood rushing.

12. Philanthropic

I want to give.

13. Philosophical

I want to ask the tough questions that get you thinking about the purpose of our beating hearts.

14. Loving

When my name is spoken, I want my tenderness to come to mind.

15. Quaintrelle

I want my passion to ooze out of me.

16. Belesprit

I want to be quick. Witty. Always on my toes.

17. Conscientious

I want to always be thinking of others.

18. Passionate

...and I want people to know what my passions are.

19. Alluring

I want to be a woman who draws people in.

20. Kind

Simply put, I want to be pleasant and kind.

21. Selcouth

Even if you've known me your whole life, I want strange, yet marvelous. Rare and wondrous.

22. Pierian

From the way I move to the way I speak, I want to be poetic.

23. Esoteric

Do not mistake this. I do not want to be misunderstood. But rather I'd like to keep my circle small and close. I don't want to be an average, everyday person.

24. Authentic

I don't want anyone to ever question whether I am being genuine or telling the truth.

25. Novaturient

..about my own life. I never want to settle for good enough. Instead I always want to seek to make a positive change.

26. Observant

I want to take all of life in.

27. Peart

I want to be honestly in good spirits at all times.

28. Romantic

Sure, I want to be a little old school in this sense.

29. Elysian

I want to give you the same feeling that you get in paradise.

30. Curious

And I never want to stop searching for answers.
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13 Taylor Swift Lyrics About Love

“We could get married. Have 10 kids and teach em how to dream."

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Taylor Swift is the only reason I've gotten through every love, and every break-up. Here's a list of 13 lyrics/quotes about love from Taylor Swift's albums.

“Losing him was blue like I’ve never known. Missing him was dark grey all alone. Forgetting him was like trying to know somebody you never met. Loving him was red.”

"Red" from the album "Red." This song perfectly describes every feeling that radiates through your entire being when you love and then lose someone.

“I wish we could go back, and remember what we were fighting for. I wish you knew that, I miss you too much to be mad anymore. I wish you were right here, right now, it’s all good. I wish you would.”

"I Wish You Would" from 1989. Sometimes I wish it was acceptable to just blast Taylor Swift during an argument because I totally would.

“You learn my secrets and you figure out why I’m guarded. You say we’ll never make my parents mistake.”

"Mine" from Speak Now. Let's surpass everyone's expectations.

“My baby’s fly like a jet stream, high above the whole scene, loves me like I’m brand new.” 

"Call It What You Want To" from the Reputation album. Once in a lifetime, there's someone who looks at your scars and calls you strong and brave, instead of damaged.

“My mother accused me of losing my mind, but I swore I was fine.” 

"Dear John" from Speak now. Love makes you do crazy things.

“One night he wakes, strange look on his face. Pauses then says ‘you’re my best friend’. And you knew what it was. He is in love.” 

"You Are In Love" from the 1989 album. Swift gives me chills with this song. Every time you think you're in love, you realize that the last time wasn't even close. True love, happens once or twice, and not for everyone.

“You pull my chair out, and help me in. And you don’t know how nice that is, but I do. And you throw your head back laughing like a little kid. I think it’s strange that you think I’m funny cause, he never did. I’ve been spending the last eight months, thinking all love ever does is break, and burn, and end. But on a Wednesday, in a cafe, I watched it begin again.”

"Begin Again" from the Red album. One of my top five favorite songs. Real love shows you how you should've been treated all along.

“Why would you wanna make the very first scar? Why would you wanna break a perfectly good heart?”

"A Perfectly Good Heart" from the first Taylor Swift album. Some people are only here to take. Never to give or share.

“The rain came pouring down, when I was drowning that’s when I cold finally breathe. And by morning, gone was any trace of you, I think I am finally clean.”

'Clean' from 1989. It can take years, even lifetimes, to finally feel free from love.

“There I was again tonight, forcing laughter, faking smiles, same old tired lonely place. Walls of insincerity, shifting eyes and vacancy, vanished when I saw your face. All I can say is it was, enchanting to meet you.”

'Enchanted' from Speak Now album. Love at first sight?

“Romeo take me somewhere we can be alone, I’ll be waiting all that’s left to do is run. You’ll be the prince and I’ll be the princess, it’s a love story, baby just say yes.”

'Love Story' from Fearless album. This song makes me want to take a chance and escape with a stranger.

“I once was poison ivy, but now I’m your daisy.”

"Don't Blame Me" from Reputation. I'm only better when I'm with you.

“We could get married. Have 10 kids and teach em how to dream.”

"Starlight" from the Red album. Only certain people are worth growing with.

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