Why I Hate Adult-ing

Why I Hate Adult-ing

You'll Be Surprised Why I Just Can't Come To Terms With It

"OMG I went to the grocery store today by myself! Adulting"

"Adulting is so hard, my mom makes me schedule my own appointments now!"

"Haha, a bunch of kids needed an adult, so I went to look for a adult-er adult!"

Sentences like these, or variations of them, are abound on social media. I have to admit, as someone on the cusp of adulthood (18 and off at college) I don't understand why people in their twenties are getting excited or patting themselves on the back for... surviving and doing what's necessary. Sorry not sorry, I don't think it's a big deal when you figure out how to do laundry on your own and start actually reading the papers you sign. Paying your own bills by the time you're 25 should be a given, not something you feel the need to get a gold star for!

Put forth by millennials in their twenties, "adulting" seems to be the extension of the participation award. Oh, congratulations, you survived, you deserve a long day in bed for adulting so hard! You get a pat on the back just for showing up! No, I don't think so. We're living in a world today where no one wants to work for themselves, and the "adulting" mindset is a huge part of the problem. As a teacher once told my class, you don't get applause for doing just what you are expected to do (credits: Scottie too Hottie).

Any 20-somethings reading this are probably asking what I know, I'm only 18, I don't do anything for myself. To that I would say, you're right! I'm still fairly dependent on my mom. But I'm also not tweeting about going to the grocery store by myself or crying because I filled out a tax form solo. Adulting is stupid, and I hope by the time I am doing a lot more things for myself, I'm a) not 27, and b) not expecting to get 30 retweets and accolades because I figured out how to do it!

To further my concern, and hopefully yours, I learned fairly recently that this isn't just an annoying hashtag, it's a psychological phenomenon that's growing increasingly common: Emerging adulthood is the extension of childhood into the mid to late twenties. While my psychology teacher wouldn't come out and say it's a bad thing (probably because she was faced with a lecture hall full of 18-20somethings) it clearly... just is. What's good about having your parents pay your bill until 27 and asking for congratulations for going to work?

To anyone who considers themselves a victim of "adulting" or even if you just use it as a hashtag on Twitter, I'm now speaking directly to you. Please stop. You're embarrassing yourself, you're hurting how you come off to employers, you're getting on my nerves, and you're setting a bad standard. I give any of you full permission to tackle me if you see me crying or congratulating about "adulting."

My advice if you really can't handle it? Own your adolescence or check yourself in to reality.

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I often hear a lot of people complaining about their step-parents and wondering why they think that they have any authority over them. Although I know that everyone has different situations, I will be the first to admit that I am beyond blessed to have a step dad. Yep, I said it. My life wouldn't be the same that it is not without him in it. Let me tell you why I think step dads are the greatest things since sliced bread.

1. They will do anything for you, literally.

My stepdad has done any and every thing for me. From when I was little until now. He was and still is my go-to. If I was hungry, he would get me food. If something was broken, he would fix it. If I wanted something, he would normally always find a way to get it. He didn't spoil me (just sometimes), but he would make sure that I was always taken care of.

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2. Life lessons.

Yup, the tough one. My stepdad has taught me things that I would have never figured out on my own. He has stood beside me through every mistake. He has been there to pick me up when I am down. My stepdad is like the book of knowledge: crazy hormonal teenage edition. Boy problems? He would probably make me feel better. He just always seemed to know what to say. I think that the most important lesson that I have learned from my stepdad is: to never give up. My stepdad has been through three cycles of leukemia. He is now in remission, yay!! But, I never heard him complain. I never heard him worry and I never saw him feeling sorry for himself. Through you, I found strength.

3. He loved me as his own.

The big one, the one that may seem impossible to some step parents. My stepdad is not actually my stepdad, but rather my dad. I will never have enough words to explain how grateful I am for this man, which is why I am attempting to write this right now. It takes a special kind of human to love another as if they are their own. There had never been times where I didn't think that my dad wouldn't be there for me. It was like I always knew he would be. He introduces me as his daughter, and he is my dad. I wouldn't have it any other way. You were able to show me what family is.

So, dad... thanks. Thanks for being you. Thanks for being awesome. Thanks for being strong. Thanks for loving me. Thanks for loving my mom. Thanks for giving me a wonderful little sister. Thanks for being someone that I can count on. Thanks for being my dad.

I love you!

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