After some personal experiences and venting sessions with my friends, I have come to a conclusion: us girls fall for real jerks. I’ve always heard that “nice guys finish last,” and I know so many people who are advocates for that being a false statement. But I think it is becoming true. In high school, in college and even after college for some, most girls don’t always want a nice guy. Weird, I know, but that seems to be the case these days.

Now, I am not saying every single girl believes this and some may have different opinions. But I believe that nice guys really do finish last, and I think I’ve figured out why. Girls think that they’re boring. Not that I don’t appreciate chivalry and a romantic date every once in awhile, but I don’t think girls’ minds are much different than guys’ after all. We like the chase too. It’s all fun and games until he confesses his love for you. Then, it's almost as if it hits a dead end. There’s nothing else to it. You both like each other, he’s a gentleman, and he's planned your wedding already, it’s done. There isn’t any conflict or drama, and that’s what a lot of girls like. So then, where do you go now?

There’s no more playing hard to get, there’s no mystery, and there are no more questions. But that’s what most girls are addicted to. Questions. Why hasn’t he texted me yet? Why hasn’t he wanted to hang out? Does he like me? Once the mysteriousness is gone, everything is settled. I am not saying at all that it’s not possible to settle down in college. I’m just saying that for me, and many other girls I know, already having a husband picked out at 20 is kind of boring. You still go on dates and everything but like, you’re going to be going on dates with him for the next 60 years. I think since most of us are young and dumb, we aren’t chasing guys we want to settle down with, and we definitely aren’t chasing gentlemen. Which brings me to my points. Why do we girls chase after complete jerks?

We like the game.

Ever since we were children on the playground we loved the game of the chase. During recess, when that cute freckled boy in your class would chase you around the swings, we all did the same thing when he stopped running after us. We chased him. When he decided to throw a curve ball and chase after that curly headed blonde girl by the slide, we chased after him, while he chased after her. It’s almost always been like that. We want what we can’t have. When we get attention and get cut off for no reason it drives us nuts. We know we are so much better than that d-bag anyway, but you wonder why he stopped. So we continue to try and pursue him. Sometimes, getting a guy to like us is a game. Some girls want to get a guy to fall in love with them, just to cut them off the next week because they got what they wanted. People say guys are messed up; well I know plenty of girls who are like that as well.

We have to get the last laugh.

No guy can fool us, nope, not happening. We refuse to get disrespected and left behind. So some of us will do everything in our power to get that guy to like us, so we can rub it in his face when we reject him. It is rude and spiteful, but we all have had a guy totally reject us. And we have to get him back. We have to get the last word in.

We want to be the one to change them.

This one is seriously the worst. No 20-something-year old frat star wants to change his ways. Every girl dreams of finding a bad boy just to turn him into a true gentleman. Most of the time, that doesn’t happen. People don’t say, “Old habits die hard,” just because. It’s true, old habits die hard; that is if they even die at all. But we girls see potential in this guy. I don’t know how or why, but we think he could potentially become a good boyfriend. If he did everything we told him to, of course.

We aren’t ready to settle down either.

Girls give guys so much grief about never settling down and not wanting to be tied down, but most girls don’t want that either. A lot of the college girls I see these days want to be just as free as the guys do. If we were ready to settle down with a true gentleman, we wouldn’t be chasing the guys we do. Girls know a good guy when they see him. We girls know what we want in a husband, but most of us don’t want that right now. So in the meantime, we will fill our time chasing jerks, hoping that when we graduate our Prince Charming will fall into our laps. But who knows, he could be a real jerk too.