13 Things That You'll Probably Need To Do When You Don't Like Yourself Very Much

13 Things That You'll Probably Need To Do When You Don't Like Yourself Very Much

You are so valuable and loved – that's a fact, no matter what you feel.
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I'm not going to pretend that this list is going to fix everything or that after doing the things on this list you'll be OK because that's simply not true.

This isn't some kind of easy fix formula for the problems of life, but maybe you'll be a little better.

And better is all we can really ask of ourselves, right? So, here we go. A list of things to do when you don't like yourself very much.

1. Make cinnamon rolls, or cookies or hot tea.

Or all three. Because #selfcare.

2. Listen to music that is actually happy, but muted happy so it doesn't just feel like nails against the chalkboard of your heart.

Personally, I love this song. It makes me feel good. But not too good. Just right.

3. Take a long shower, feel the hot water and shampoo your hair. Be thankful that you can.

Stop going through the motions, and pause to appreciate the scalding water on your skin and the smell of that new shampoo. The fact that we even have access to these things is amazing!

4. Go for a walk, seriously. Doesn't matter what time of day.

Notice the color of the leaves or the snow on the ground. Get outside of your own head. If all else fails, you might even see a dog, and then it'll all have been worth it!

5. Try making someone else happy.

Write a note to a friend and snail mail it. Go play a game with your siblings. Do something to help out your roommate. Switching the focus from yourself to others is life-changing.

6. Clean. Organize. Start small. It feels good, promise.

You may or may not feel purged and ALIVE. Speaking from personal experience here.

7. Look at the first and/or last sentence in all your books.

Don't let yourself get caught up in the progress of your story. It is a work in progress... that's how it's supposed to be. And, believe it or not, this isn't the end. Not even close.

8. Start writing your flow of thought. Maybe it'll turn into something.

OR NOT. That's fine, too. For me, writing helps me to process everything so much better. It also helps to guide my thought life. So, something I've started doing is keeping a gratitude journal of little things that make me happy. Sometimes you have to fight the negativity in your thought life. Pen and paper are kind of powerful weapons. So, use them.

9. Or draw your thoughts. Get the bad ones out. Make the good ones into something pretty, or just something that means something to you.

This is fun because if you don't like it, you can just crumple up the paper and throw it in the trash can.

10. Go to sleep.

Does this really need an explanation?

11. Make art, preferably watercolors.

It doesn't have to be impressive. Just art, because you are capable of creating. How cool is that? Like, you're kind of amazing.

12. Pray. Write your prayers out.

I could probably be hired as a promoter for prayer journals at this point because I just don't know how to shut up about them. Writing my prayers out has seriously salvaged my prayer life.

13. Flip through your Bible. Look at the underlined verses. Write them out. Speak truth to yourself.

See number eight. Same thing here about how the words we write affect the way we think. What better way for us to fight the lies about our worth and value than with the Truth?

And, in case you forgot, if you are His, Jesus loves you just as much in this moment as he did in the moment that he chose to endure the suffering and humiliation of the cross for your sake.

You are so valuable and loved — that's a fact, no matter what you feel.

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An Open Letter To The Judgmental People In My Hometown

Imperfections are what gives a diamond its value.
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Dear judgemental, simple minded people from my hometown,

I am sorry that I have never met your level of perfection.

Coming from a small town, everyone settles to the norm of the people around them. Unlike you all, I have always been a little bit different.

I've never understood why everyone always seems to feel the need to talk down to the next person. People love to gossip about a situation as long as the situation has nothing to do with them. For every move I made, someone was always there to bring out the negativity in the situation. You all are always sweeping around somebody else's doorstep when I know your doorstep is not clean. Maybe it is time to buy a new broom. I know that I cannot please everybody and that I will also not be liked by everybody. However, I deserve respect just as the next person.

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I hope for the sake of the future generations of our small town, you all can learn to be more accepting to change.

I hope that no one judges your children like some of you all have judged me. I hope that the people that you love and care about are welcomed and accepted for who they are.

If we put as much time into being better people or helping others like you put into judging others, the world would be a much better place.

Imperfections are what gives a diamond its value. Pebbles are perfectly round. I'd much rather be a diamond, one in a million, than a pebble that fits in.

Sincerely,

The one whose every move you criticize

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To All The Girls Who Never Felt Like They Mattered

We are all they same, if I'm important, so are you!

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I know that for a couple of my article I have written about boys out there, some that who had inspired me, but mostly some that have hurt me or made me realized different things in my life.

But now, I'm experiencing something new, something foreign to myself that I'm not even sure how to describe it. I met a guy, and at first, it was random, I met him by chance with some of the people I knew, he asked for my Snapchat, I gave it to him and that was that. The next day he snapped me and asked me to go out on a date with him, and at first I was confused, I couldn't even remember the last time I went on a date, so I was a little skeptical about it, but eventually, I said yes.

So, I went on a date with this guy, and it's been so long, I don't even remember how it's supposed to be like, but so far, everything's been good, nothing has been awkward or something like that so I'm giving it a chance. We finish the food, we leave the restaurant, and I know I had a great time, I know I hadn't enjoyed someone's company as much as I had his.

This all felt weird, but at the same time, it felt natural, it felt like it was something I needed to experience and go through to realize the things I been missing.

Now, it's been a couple of weeks since that day, and I'm still talking to him, he still makes me feel better about myself, and most importantly he makes me feel special. Like I'm someone worthy of the attention I'm receiving, and this is something new from how I used to feel. It has taken me a while to accept it, but slowly, I'm getting use it to, use to it in the way that doesn't make me feel uncomfortable with it, and instead I learn to accept it, use to it in the sense that I don't question it anymore, and instead I allow it to boost my confidence up, because now I know I'm better than what I thought I could be.

With all of this going on, it has opened my mind to new possibilities that I never thought possible. So, I'm telling all the girls out there, if I could find someone that made me feel special, so can you. I'm not saying I immediately fell in love with a guy out there, what I'm saying is that I'm allowing myself to feel something again, something that makes me feel special, and something that makes me feel like I matter.

So, I'm speaking to all the girls out there, if I could do it, so can you. Do not tell yourself what you can and can't do, simply allow yourself to feel it.

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