Why Being Nice Makes Me Sad

Why Being Nice Makes Me Sad

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Every day I wake up with a goal to be a better person. Which sounds very cliché, don't you think?

One thing that I have is manners. Manners are embedded in my personality because I was raised with a level of respect. My parents did a fantastic job of raising me, better than any other parents I know, but my mother has always been the real MVP.

My mother always taught me to treat everyone with respect because things are interpreted differently by each person, and being disrespectful to the wrong person could be dangerous. Thanks to my mother’s wisdom, I have made so many friends. I love diversity, and I love everyone. I hardly have conflicts with anyone. This school year so far, I have met more people than I had throughout high school. It’s awesome to have friends. But, my kindness has created blurred vision, especially when it comes to judging a person. You see, when you’re nice and you do things for people, you attract the wrong crowd. You begin to attract disrespectful people who only want to take advantage of that compassion.

By being a nice person, I open my arms to everyone because that’s what a nice person does in general. But, being nice has also lowered my standards for friends and relationships. Over time, you become a product of your environment, so I want to surround myself with people who will encourage me to make good decisions and do great things. But, it’s hard for me to reject someone because by being nice, sometimes I forget to consider my own happiness.

I care more about making others happy than I do myself. In addition, I am not happy. But that doesn’t make sense, right? I like making others happy, so seeing them happy doesn’t make me happy? No. Sometimes I don’t want to do things, but I make sacrifices to see other people happy. Now, it is beginning to exhaust me. I can’t be myself if it makes others unhappy. I feel pressured by my close friends to make stupid decisions and it’s hard for me to say no. If I stand up for myself, I will lose my friends. Nobody likes being put in their place, especially by a “pushover.”

Two of the most important things to remember about life, especially when judging a person, is:

- You are a product of your surroundings.

- People will never change for someone, they will only change for themselves.

I have gone through many personality changes in the past month, to the point where I realize just how terrible I am letting myself be treated. I have been so nice to the wrong people who now feel as if they can say or do whatever they want to me. I have done so much for those people, and it’s hard for me to let them go, but toxicity is toxicity and I should not continue to sacrifice my well being to please them.

I hate being nice, but at the end of the day I will not change. True kindness is a rare thing in this new millennial.

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As A Victim Of Sexual Abuse, Painting '#MeToo' On A WWII Statue Is Taking The Movement TOO Far

There is a line you should never cross and that is it.

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The famous picture of the sailor kissing a woman was taken right on V-J Day, when Japan surrendered to the U.S. in World War II. For decades it was seen as a representation of how excited and relieved everyone was at the end of the war.

The picture touched the hearts of thousands as you could feel the overwhelming amounts of joy that came from the snap of the camera. While the woman in the picture died back in 2016 due to a struggle with pneumonia, the sailor just recently died on Feb. 17, 2019 at the age of 95.

Most people saw it as both a heartbreak and heartwarming that the couple that was once photographed were now together.

Other people saw differently.

There is a statue made of the picture that resides in Sarasota, Florida. Police found early Tuesday morning of Feb. 19, two days after the sailor's death, that someone had spray-painted #MeToo on the statue's leg in bright red.

As a woman, I strongly encourage those who have been sexually assaulted/abused in any way shape or form, to voice themselves in the best way they can. To have the opportunity to voice what they went through without being afraid. As a woman who has also been a victim of sexual assault and has been quiet for many years...

This act of vandalism makes me sick.

While the woman that was kissed by the sailor was purely kissed on impulse, she had stated in an interview with 'The New York Times' that, "It wasn't a romantic event. It was just an event of 'thank God the war is over.'"

People were celebrating and, as a sailor, that man was so over the moon about the war being over that he found the nearest woman to celebrate with.

While I don't condone that situation, I understand both the reason behind it as well as the meaning behind the photo. I understand that, while it wasn't an intended kiss, it was a way of showcasing relief. To stick #MeToo on a statue of a representation of freedom is not the right way to bring awareness of sexual abuse.

It gives those the wrong idea of why the #MeToo movement was started. It started as a way for victims of sexual abuse to share their stories. To share with the world that they are not alone.

It helped me realize I wasn't alone.

But the movement, soon after it started, became a fad that turned wrong. People were using it in the wrong context and started using it negatively instead of as an outlet for women and men to share their horrific experiences of sexual assault.

That statue has been up for years. To wait until the sailor passed away was not only rude but entirely disrespectful. The family of that sailor is currently in mourning. On top of it, it's taking away from the meaning behind the photo/statue. World War II was one of the darkest, scariest events in — not just our American history — but the world's as well.

Sexual abuse is a touchy matter, I encourage everyone to stand up for what's right. But to vandalize a statue of one of the most relieving days in America's history is an act that was unnecessary and doesn't get the point of #MeToo across in the way it should. If anything, it's giving people a reason not to listen. To protest and bring attention to something, you want to gather the right attention.

This was not gathering the right attention.

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Bernie Sanders Is Running For President In 2020 And Dems Just Handed The GOP The Election, Again

Being a rich white male won't get you far in the Democratic party nowadays

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After months of speculation, Bernie Sanders has officially announced he is running for President again in 2020. After losing to Hilary Clinton in the 2016 Democratic primary, Senator Sanders is now the twelfth candidate to run for the 2020 Democratic nomination along the likes of: Sen. Amy Klobuchar, Sen. Elizabeth Warren, Sen. Cory Booker, Sen. Kamala Harris, ex-San Antonio Mayor Julian Castro, Rep. Tulsi Gabbard, former W. Va. state Sen. Richard Ojeda, former Rep. John Delaney, author Marianne Williamson and former tech executive Andrew Yang.

While many are excited to see Senator Sanders back for another round, realistically the man has no shot at the nomination in 2020.

In 2016, he was the only candidate with extreme leftist views as he proudly proclaimed himself to be a "democratic socialist". His anti-establishment views, Medicare for all mindset, $15 minimum wage, and tuition-free colleges ideas made him well known in both the Democratic and Republican parties. At the time, Democrats were hesitant to back these socialist views of Senator Sanders in fear of being too extreme by party supporters. This is part of the reason why Hilary Clinton won the Democratic nomination because in comparison to Senator Sanders, her views were seen as less extreme and coming from a woman was a huge plus as well.

Cut to 2019 in America, the socialist ideas that Senator Sanders preached about in 2016 are now alive and thriving rapidly. The only bad thing for Senator Sanders is now he is not seen as the ideal candidate to further these ideas. Recently, a new wave of Democrats in the House of Representatives have tried to counteract President Trump's agenda with a lot of socialist backed ideas. These new socialist ideas have gained a lot of media attention due to the now-famous representatives who have backed them. Representatives Ilhan Omar and Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez have both been very popular in the media and sadly with American citizens even though they are well-known socialists. Due to their popularity, it is quite clear that people are okay with candidates who are women and minorities to run with socialist ideas openly but now not so much with men.

This is why Senator Sanders does not stand a chance for even the Democratic nomination anymore because:

1. he's a man

2. he's white.

This is where it gets fun.

For the longest time, Democrats have proclaimed they are the party that does not discriminate against race, status, or gender but yet that's exactly what they will do when it comes time to select a candidate to be the Democratic nomination. Since Senator Sanders is a white man that is worth an estimated $2 million dollars, he won't get the nomination.

If they put forward a rich white male, it will contradict everything their party now stands for and everything they have said against President Trump for the entirety of his presidency for the exact same reasoning. Another reason why Senator Sanders will not get the nomination is the Democratic party has to win over swing voters and Senator Sanders views are too extreme to win over people who are not necessarily Democrats but voted for President Trump in 2016. The Democratic Party needs to find someone who will not appear too extreme to voters but with the candidates announced so far for the Democratic nomination, good luck with that.

Senator Sanders missed his one and only shot for a nomination in 2016. Democrats will not put forward a rich, white, male and that is guaranteed at least for the 2020 election. It is fair to say the Democratic nomination in 2020 will more than likely be a female, a female of a minority, or a male of a minority.

Despite everything that is said in the news, President Trump still has a strong chance of winning a second term. The GOP proved they are strategic and there is no chance they will not go down without giving it there all. With the rise in socialism becoming acceptable in America, there is no doubt conservatives will fight this effort once again during the 2020 election. President Trump has recently been making some bold decisions that have not only paid off for America but have also paid off in his polling. After his State of The Union Address, polls showed President Trump's public approval got a large boost and pushed him over the 50% marker.

Like it or not, President Trump has a real shot at winning but Senator Sanders does not.

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