When Your Mouth Speaks Only What Your Eyes See

In today's society, we, especially millennials, have grown up being taught that all that matters is what's on the outside. While some may disagree, please go take a look at your social media and see how many selfies you have posted or how many selfies of other people you have liked. It's honestly ridiculous how shallow people really are if you think about it. Now don't get me wrong, in no way am I pointing fingers and excluding myself from this when I too am just as guilty of this accusation..

Here's the thing though, if looks fade (which um reality check they definitely do) and all that should matter is what's on the inside, how come all we focus on are what people look like on the outside? From considering a potential partner, even to having friends, or choosing between that gorgeous picture of the sunset (basic, I know I know I just had to) that you took vs that selfie that you got all glammed up for to take an hour ago, usually the first thing we spot in any situation is the exterior aspect of such. And if I haven't made it clear already, it's crazy that we do this when we all have so much more to offer.

Could this be because we're so used to "compliments" such as "Oh you look pretty/handsome," "You're pretty cute," or even "You're hot," that we've forgotten what truly matters? Not only are comments like these and those unnecessary "rate, date, hate" Facebook and Instagram posts completely out of line but they're also brainwashing and misleading. Due to comments and situations like these we have grown accustomed to the idea that beauty is what's only on the outside when that shouldn't be the case.

Now I understand that when you feel the need to compliment someone you're going to do it but instead of saying "You're eyes are pretty," or "You have a pretty smile" try thinking a little harder about what's about to come out of your mouth or appear on the other person's phone screen.. So instead here are a few compliments that I would personally rather receive and I'm sure others can agree with me:

1. You have a kind heart.

2. You're humble.

3. The passion you have inside of you for (insert comment) radiates. You can really tell that you love it.

4. You've inspired me to be a better person/do better/work harder/be kinder, etc.

5. Your soul is gentle and your heart is full of love for others.

6. You're persistence, determination and dedication will carry you far in life.

7. It's clear that the energy you give off lifts others up.

8. You're a caring person, you're always there for others.

9. You've always been one to never give up.

10. Your laughter reminds me of a clear-blue-skied day at the beach, freeing and joyful.

11. You don't need anyone else to push you because you've got it in you to inspire yourself and push yourself everyday, which in turn, inspires others.

12. You're carefree like the wind, going wherever your heart desires and life takes you.

13. It's easy to tell by the way that you speak that you're overwhelmed with gratitude for life.

14. You're confident.

15. You're servant-hearted.

16. You're independent.