Ever feel like you're just stuck? There you are on cloud nine and have everything you ever wanted out of life and then BOOM! Just like that, you can lose everything. Maybe it was your choice to lose it, or maybe it was taken from you. Either way, you're now sitting there like, “What the hell just happened?”

Some may call it “The Quarter Life Crisis,” for us younger people. You see, I'm in my late twenties and I can relate to this. My twenties have been a roller-coaster, which I've been told it would be. Even though we are told this, we never really believe it until it happens. I mean, your twenties are supposed to be your best years, your fun years, the years you figure everything out. Here I am hitting thirty and I still feel like I haven't figured it all out.

Most people know what they want to do with their lives and know their passion. Being as though I'm someone who was never truly passionate about one thing, I've always been on the fence about what I wanted to do with my life. I've always admired people who are born with talents and they follow that dream. I'm not one of those people who was born painting, or drawing, or singing, etc. I wish I was, though because it's a lot harder trying to figure out what you're good at when you didn't grow up really interested in anything.

I'm sure I have a talent in something and my passions are really hard to think about but I have a few. It's when we don't know what to do with our passions and we don't know where to start. So, instead, we just exist and get jobs that we're not really interested in or thoroughly enjoy, then we find ourselves on the floor depressed about where the hell our lives are going. So now, you're stuck in the in-between. Do I pick myself self up off the floor and find my passion and go for it? Or, do I stay here, where I'm unhappy and just roll with the punches of life because it's less work?

It's hard when you lack the motivation to do it all, everything you ever wanted. It takes work and we get lazy because we think it's too hard. Maybe you keep failing at it so you feel like just giving it up. See, that's the easy way out in my opinion and yes I should take my own advice when it comes to this. You may be on the floor now, but nothing will ever come of it if you don't pick yourself up and keep trying.

I may not be where I want to be in life right now, but what I've learned is this. There is nothing out there besides “society,” that says we need to have these “certain things,” by the age of whatever. If I would go by “society's rules” and what I see all of my friends doing, I would have my career, a house, and married with children by now. But you see, none of that is in the cards for me right now. My life is on a different path and I will not allow society to make me feel shitty or unworthy because I do not have all of those things right now at the age of twenty-eight.

I was frustrated about being stuck in the in-between but I've finally realized that it's OK. I'm here for a reason and that reason is to find myself, like really find myself. I need to do that first in order for me to figure out everything else. Once I do this, I truly believe everything will fall into place. Although my twenties have been hell, I came out knowing a lot about myself and for that I will regret not one year of it.

So if you're here, stuck in the in-between with me, do not be upset. Fuck society and what they think your life should be like right now. Find YOU and pay no attention to what everyone else has around you that makes you feel crappy for what you don't have right now. Once you find yourself and who you truly are, you will have more than what the average person has. People tend to just live and be like everyone else, not really getting to know themselves and just going with society's image. You, however, have a chance to know the real YOU, and once you have that you are golden, you stand out and you're on the path to true happiness and having everything you ever wanted.

So, cry, pray, over-think, anything you have to do at this moment because one day soon, believe me, you are going to wake up and be ready to pick yourself up off the floor and start listening to your inner-self and what you want. The day that happens is the day you will feel free from everyone's judgments, (including yourself) and you will be ready to embark on the journey of finding who you are and receiving everything you ever wanted after that.

Enjoy the beautiful struggle.