I've always had this vision of how my life would go. From middle school and beyond, I turned into a planner and I felt like it helped me keep control of my life. I'd set plans for the day, for the week and eventually for my whole life. Things didn't always go accordingly, but I was flexible enough to have a back up plan or even just shift some things around; however, as I've gotten older, I realized there's just one thing that I haven't quite planned out perfectly: boys.
Of course, I know that college is the time to meet guys; however, I kind of just assumed one would always show up. I figured that somehow, God would slip this perfect match into my life and I could just continue on with the rest of my plans. Unfortunately, so far, that doesn't seem to be the case. Quite frankly, I've been single for 4 years. Granted, I'm only 19, but in a college world where it seems as if everyone's got someone, it can be disheartening.
What this has taught me is that sometimes plans turn into lessons and sometimes Prince Charming is late. My plans are most certainly not always going to work out and along the way they may teach me a thing or two. My life has been blessed in ways that my plans could not have provided and I've learned some valuable lessons along the way.
Being single is okay
When I used to tell people I was single, I felt a sense of shame. I felt as if I was supposed to have a boyfriend and because I didn't I wasn't worthy. That's probably why I'm still single. Learning to be okay alone can be difficult, but it is so crucial that we understand that being just us is nothing to be ashamed of. Sometimes it's hard and I have by no means mastered this, but being single is okay and don't let anybody tell you different.
Being single does not mean you're alone
I always joked about being forever alone. What I've come to realize is that just because you are single does not mean you are alone. I am surrounded with friends who mean the absolute world to me and to still say I am alone would be insulting to them. The people in your life are so valuable and they will still be valuable throughout your future relationship. Hold tight to them and never let them go.
Standards are important
I'll admit, I'm picky. I have standards and expectations that have just always been there. Sometimes I think if I remove a couple of them, I'll have an easier time getting a boyfriend. That's such a dangerous way to think. I think often we lose sight of the purpose of dating. The end goal is marriage. Not all 19 year old's think this way and at times, that can be challenging. Some may say it's way too serious to think about marriage now but dating is practice for marriage. Don't date a guy you wouldn't marry. Don't date a guy who wants you to change or compromise your values. You are important and one day a guy will come along and treat you like the princess you are.
Prince Charming will arrive in God's timing
The most difficult part of almost anything is the waiting. I've been waiting on my prince charming for a while. I know he's out there and I hope he's doing well. For my timing, my Prince charming is a little bit late; however, he will get here in God's timing and when that day comes I'll never look back. I know he's worth the wait.
