To my boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend(s),

For some reason, society leads us to think we are supposed to hate each other. You dated him first, and now he’s my boyfriend. But really, I appreciate you, all of you. You all helped shape him into who he is today, some more than others. Together, you helped him to figure out what traits he does and does not like in a woman.

My not wanting you and him to spend time together is not because I hate you. Frankly, I don’t have the time of day to hate you. I will keep it that way so long as you respect mine and his relationship.

You and I don’t have to be in any kind of competition, but if it comes down to that, I will fight for him. Don’t get me wrong, I will not become the woman that asks him to choose one of us. I have before and grew to learn that if I’m not his immediate decision, I don’t want to be an option at all.

I can’t say for certain that he and I will last forever, though I hope we do. I have built up a genuine love for him, but there may come a day when we find that we aren’t meant to be. If that day comes, who knows, maybe he will end up being back with one of you.

I hate that we are supposed to think it’s okay to talk about one another behind each other’s backs when we don’t even know each other. I don’t think you did him wrong, so long as you respect me, my relationship, and keep my name out of your conversations, I will return the favor.

I only wish you the best in life and that you find someone that makes you as happy as I am.

Best Wishes,

His New Girlfriend