What No One Ever Tells You About Being Single

What No One Ever Tells You About Being Single

It can be one hell of a time.

When you're in your 20s, it seems like new relationships are popping up all around you like groundhogs, or better yet, your friends are starting to get engaged. If you're that one single person in a sea of little guppies happily in love, it's more than likely that as happy as you are for these people, you'd like to hit those relationships back into the ground like Whack-a-Mole. But, that would be the naïve thing to do, now wouldn't it? There is such a negative connotation around being single, that you have to be in a relationship and you have to be in love and you have to go on dates and you have to make sacrifices and compromises. It's not "okay" to be single, and as your old Aunt Betty always says to you at your Christmas Eve dinner, "When are you going to find yourself a handsome, rich man?"

Well, Aunt Betty, maybe I don't want a handsome, rich man right now. You know what, as a matter of fact, I actually don't need a handsome, rich man, ever. When I choose to be in a relationship, it will not be because he is handsome or rich, but for who he is on the inside, but that's beside the fact. The point is, there's so much societal and familial stress put on being in a committed relationship with someone, when little do these people know how much you can truly learn about yourself while you're single.

Since I've begun my adventures through Singleville, I've found the most profound happiness I have ever known. Want to know why? Being single has allowed me the time and space to learn how to love myself. I don't have anyone to depend on to tell me that I look beautiful or that I'm actually not fat or that my pimple really doesn't look that bad. I don't have anyone to pride me on my accomplishments or pick me up from my failures 24/7. All I have is me, myself and I. I've had to depend on myself to look in the mirror and love who I see. I've had to depend on myself to push myself to work harder towards my goals and lift myself up after every single time I fall down. Maybe that sounds horrible to you, but you see, you can't fully love someone else until you are completely and wholeheartedly in love with yourself.

In Singleville, I'm on my own time. I can sit down and read the ten books I've been putting off in a matter of a week if that's what I really want to do. I can research a cool science project I've been dying to try or buy brand spankin' new camera equipment or maybe even get that furry little friend I've wanted for so long. I have all the time in the world, and that time is all my own. I can do what I want, when I want, without having to worry about someone else's agenda.

Now, there's absolutely nothing wrong with being in a happy, healthy, loving relationship with someone else. Coming from someone who has been in one, I can say that it was one of the most influential experiences of my life. I learned so, so much from it, but I didn't learn how to love myself and be my own person, and that's what being single has taught me. So embrace your time being single, don't knock the giddy lovers back in to the ground, but be a giddy lover yourself, with yourself.

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.

Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.

7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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Newsflash! It's Time For Everybody To Love Everybody

Come on, people, get it together.


I, personally, think it's time for everybody to just start loving each other. Now listen, this doesn't mean you need to actually love everyone, but at least accept them. Acceptance is the closest thing we are gonna get to loving each other.

Let me tell you a little something: politics at the moment are very messy. No matter which side it is, it's messy. There is no denying that. If you try to deny that, then good for you, you're not helping anybody. If you really want some change, you need to start being the bigger person. Change isn't about who can yell about something louder or who has the "better" argument, it's about being respectful.

Just because someone has an opposing view does not mean you need to yell at them. Does yelling solve anything ever? Maybe temporarily, like for 2 minutes, but that's about as long as you're gonna get. There's absolutely no need to indirectly say something about certain individuals on social media. Yes, there is freedom of speech, but everybody should keep in mind why they have that right and why they still have it.

I do not understand why it is so hard to be respectful of one another. If someone goes after another person talking about how absolutely terrible it is of them thinking something should be illegal, the person who's being yelled at should respectfully ignore the other individual's disrespectful remarks. If the individual does not stop, then they are not aware that they are making no difference in the world.

What I'm trying to get at here is that in order to love each other, we really need to accept all our differences. If we really want change we need to go right to the sources, not just yell at each other from across the street. If everyone learned to accept each other, life would be a whole lot easier. Is this ever going to happen? Of course not. This is the solution though, whether you think so or not.

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