The best parts of a relationship is always the beginning. Nonstop talking, telling each other how perfect they are, always reminding them everyday how lucky and amazing they are. Each time you get a text from your SO, butterflies take over your body, and you just cant stop smiling and everything is perfect. No one wants that feeling to go away, but unfortunately it does.
The cute honeymoon phase slowly dies down as couples become more comfortable with each other. No more "good morning beautiful" ,"im so lucky to have you in my life" ,"you're perfect for me" being said on a daily bases. Now the important part of being in a relationship begins. Couples become each other's rock and go-to person, they become best friends, but with a special bond.
After a few months or weeks, of dating a person needs to realize "okay, is this going somewhere? Do I want this to go somewhere? Can i see myself marrying them and being with this certain person for the rest of my life? Is this the person right for me?" When asking yourself this, you need to be honest with yourself. If the answer is no, the right thing to do is to break up with them, because it's honestly a waste of time to just be dating someone who treats you not so great and isn't worth giving a second chance. If the answer is yes, then get ready, because once you come to that realization it gets serious, you're about to *gasp* fall in love.
Realizing that the person you are with is the love of your life and the one you want to be with forever is kind of a slap in the face, because it's "holy crap this is the person I want to marry and have kids with and a future with." But hold on, you first need to figure out if they're in love with you too. This isn't something that can be rushed, all one can do is be patient or say it first. Yet, one must understand the difference of being in love, and loving someone. To love and to be in love is different. You can love anyone, but to be in love with someone is special.
I fell in love with a man i meet 9 months ago and honestly I did not expect it at all. I had just gotten out of a unhealthy relationship before him, and needed comfort. He was there for me the minute I met him. Talking with him made me forget about my awful relationship, it made me feel special again, he made me feel like I can find true love again, and maybe the right person this time. He was there for me and i felt loved again.
5 months later, I fell in love with a guy that i never expected to see ever again in my life. It was a difficult relationship, with us being 6 hours apart but we worked our asses off to make time to see each other and show how much we mean to one other. Being in love with him was the most amazing thing in the world, because he was in love with me too. He showed me what true love was, he showed me how to love, he showed me that I deserved better. I didn't want anyone else, I didn't look at any other guy that came my way. I had found the one i wanted to be with. I felt so secure, so happy, so amazing. But with all those good moments came bad ones.
My relationship wasn't perfect, we had problems, but we did our best to fix them. I put a lot of effort into my relationship, i focused on my SO, more than on myself. Everything i did was for him, he was my top priority because i couldn't bare to lose him. I did so many things that were extra to keep him happy, to constantly remind myself that I have worth.
Eventually that came to an end, when I realized that I wasn't happy, I wasn't focusing on myself and my needs. My needs and wants were not met, like his were. Once again, i felt useless, unloved, like if he never cared about me. But i knew keeping my mouth shut wouldn't help, I wanted to fix things because I love him, im in love with him, and i knew it could be fix. i wasnt giving up on us. When it came to that day to talk, he had given up on us. My heart shattered in a million pieces that night. Things have changed, i mean we agreed to stay friends but its so hard to be in love with someone who doesn't feel the same way.
The feeling of being in love with someone who doesn't love you the same way is honestly the worst feeling in the world. Watching the person youre in love with, be in love with someone else hurts even more. No relationship is perfect, no relationship is goals, no relationship is what you see. Each one has their own problems, every couple fights, every couple struggles. But the important thing is, when troubles or issues occur with each other, is to never give up on the person you love. Never give up on something that can be fixed, never lose hope. But its important to not give up on yourself either.
Focus on your relationship, but never stop focusing on yourself. you over anything/anyone. the phrase "if you love something let it go, and if it was meant to be, it'll be back." It's true, let go, no matter how much it hurts. if It was meant to be, then everything will be perfect again. Couples that are meant to be, are the ones who go through hell and everything tries to tear them apart, but come out stronger. But that doesn't mean to wait for all eternity, because everyone deserves to be happy, and find someone new, someone who will give that same feeling, but better. Never give in, never settle, fight for who/what you love because if two people are meant to be togther, there will be a way to work things out no matter how hard it is. Never give up when things get hard, fight through it to be stronger.
