What It's Like To Be Older Than Your Real Age

What It's Like To Be Older Than Your Real Age

Ever feel like your age doesn't reflect you?

Every so often I look in the mirror and ask myself, how am I only nineteen? Constantly I am being told I am wise beyond my years or mature for my age. Not once have I ever felt like the age I actually am, excluding from when I was a little girl. Some people question how I have gotten to be as so, or why it is that way. The real answer is I'm not so sure.

Growing up I have always been by my sister's side. I have played with her, done school work with her, and strived to be like her. We may only be four years apart but four years is a big difference in the matter of a life span. I was always with her friends and learned from her manners and mistakes. I watched how she acted and learned how to be because of her. My parents raised me of course, but my maturity may have begun by having my sister as my mentor.

My parents taught me right from wrong and everything there is to know about living and being a good person in general. From the day I was born, I was treated with love and care and saw examples of good character from all my family. To this day, I learn by example and that is what brought me to where I am now.

I began to be older than my years when I was taught by my sister how to live and do what is right. I began to be more mature when I saw how my parents acted and went about their ways. My education was at utmost importance and I was on the fast track of learning from being a teacher's daughter and granddaughter. Every other child may have been playing dress up, but I preferred to play dress up as being a teacher in a classroom. I grew as a person beyond my age when I experienced the reality of life and death more than once. When you see death at such a young age, there is no choice but to grow up and be older.

Not everyone has been brought up the way I have or been through the same experiences I have. But I can certainly say that all these have been a factor in being older and wiser than the year on my birth certificate. And then, when I try to think of everything that brought me to how I am today, there is still uncertainty. I wish I could explain to someone in a few short words as to why I act the way I do, beyond my years, older and wiser, whatever you would like to word it as such. Although one thing that I can say, is I don't disagree with anyone who labels me as so.

I have always felt older than the year asked for in D.O.B.s and paperwork. Nineteen. It sounds so young yet I feel so old. While everyone enjoys the common actualities that comes with each age, I find them already old and worn out. I have never liked to be immature, a partier, a brat, or a 'millennial' (when you think of the word). I'm the one who thinks before acting, enjoys conversations and literature, spending time with those that matter, and not perseverating on things that just don't matter when it comes down to it. I can be called the mom or the grandma and I can't fully disagree.

I know what I want to do in my future and just want to get there. It's hard to explain to people that I enjoy living in the moment, but know what I want in life and want to be able to get there and not have to wait. I'm only in my sophomore year of college and I'm ready to begin a career and become successful. I won't settle for anything, or anyone for that matter. No need to put myself through that when I know what I want and can clearly see it.

Maybe I have lived before and have already been through this life. Could that be why I feel at least a few years older than my actual age? Or maybe it is just that I grew up differently than others and have my head on right from being with such a great influencing family. All that I know is that I do feel older than what I really am and I am okay with that. It doesn't mean that I don't want to be with people my age and experience what I am supposed to at this point in life. It just is something that will always be so. I know I am not the only person that feels this way, so maybe someone else can explain it better? But for now I can say that a few words will never describe as to why I am "wise beyond my years." There simply may never be an answer to suffice it.

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.

Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.

7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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The 7 Best Pieces Of Advice I Have Been Given About Life

Some of the best advice I have been given over the years...


There isn't a central theme among these pieces of advice or sayings. They are all just random things I have been told over the course of my life–especially in the last week. I find these 7 to be particularly helpful in various situations, and try to keep them in mind when I am in over my head.

1. "Don't be afraid to advocate for yourself because there is nobody who is going to help you more than you."

You are the #1 person who can help your own case. No one knows you as you do, therefore no one will be able to help you more than you can help yourself. A lot of things are mental, so once you can convince yourself that you deserve something (whatever it may be) you can convince anyone. Another saying goes along with this, on the flip side: "No one can diminish you but yourself." You are in control of your own self-perception, and you are very much capable of being your own worst enemy.

2. "Stand behind your reputation because you can never get it back."

My mom sent this to me the other day. Be who you are, and do it proudly. Especially with meeting people for the first time, you can never have a second chance at a first impression. That being said, if people view you in a bad light, figure out why that is and fix it. You may not be able to change someones initial thoughts of you, but you can change the way they view you after that.

3. "The best things in life happen unexpectedly."

"Life is what happens when you're busy making plans," also goes along with this. Trying to plan out every little detail of your life is only going to lead to disappointment. Sometimes you find the best things/what you're looking for when you're not actually looking. Just go through the motions and things will work out the way they are supposed to.

4. "Be proud of your accomplishments, no matter how small."

It's important to celebrate the little things. Did you go to class today? Good for you. Did you decide to drink water instead of a soda? That's awesome. How are you going to work up to doing bigger and better things if you don't have anywhere to start?

5. "Whatever you're stressing about now probably won't matter in five years."

As someone who is often eaten away by their own worry and anxiety, this is a mantra that I try to constantly remind myself. While it may seem like a big deal now, you need to keep in mind the bigger picture. Will it matter in 5 hours? 5 days? 5 months? And so on. If the answer is no to ANY of these questions, it's probably not worth beating yourself up over.

6. "Stop being the 'go to' person for someone you can't go to."

Someone tweeted that their pastor said this to them and the tweet went viral. A friend of mine sent it to me, and it really made me think. Something I have struggled with over the years is making excuses for people who don't show up for me when I am constantly there for them. This is a helpful reminder that if they aren't contributing to you and your life, you shouldn't have to bend over backward to help them out and be in their lives.

7. "Two wrongs don't make a right."

While this is often a saying that parents use on their young children, it is applicable to pretty much any stage of life. My parents, especially my dad, have constantly said this, whether it was in reference to fighting with my siblings or dealing with people at school. Even as a 20-year-old, I find myself saying this when I hear about arguments and problems people are having. Everyone wants to get even, to best those who hurt them. While it's important to stick up for yourself, it is also important to be the bigger person and not stoop to their level (and whatever else your parents told you in these situations).

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