I love to hang with my friends and be social, but I also need my alone time. I love to go to parties but sometimes I just want to stay in. My personality is the contradicting element of my lifestyle because I, like many others, am an ambivert. I am an extrovert on the days where I have lots of energy and the nights when I can’t wait to see friends, and I'm an introvert on the rainy days when all I want to do is avoid human contact and stay in bed watching movies.

Being an ambivert can be confusing and misleading to others. Often times you might be in one mood when you make plans and in another when the plans come around. This means that your best line might be “I’ve got a lot of homework to do.” Spending too much time with other people can be exhausting. We need our alone time to relax and recuperate.

If you know an ambivert you should try to remember these few things:

• Be understanding when they cancel last minute on you.
• Don’t force them to go out if they’re not feeling in the mood.
• Give them time to themselves.

It’s hard to say why humans need alone time, but being with people 24/7 gets mentally tiring and you find that your social life becomes repetitive. When you spend too much time with other people you loose sight of who you are as an individual. To understand how to make yourself happy is so incredibly important. People who aren’t able to occupy themselves cannot do simple tasks alone such as go to the grocery store or take a walk. They get bored easily when they are alone and they begin to crave human companionship like a drug or sugar. On the other hand, ambiverts enjoy being alone just as much as they enjoy going out.

Ambiverts are very adaptable people. This means that they are good at reading new people and situations in order to know when to talk and when to just listen. They prefer a mix of activity and quiet leisure. This means they prefer to have a schedule that isn’t set in stone.

Ambiverts are open books, however, they are always skeptical of new people. They are afraid of getting hurt or being mislead and making mistakes. Therefore, they always try to show others a different side of themselves first before letting people see the real them. They do this to test out different environments before diving into them.

Ambiverts are very good at communicating and making new friends. They tend to be very accepting and friendly towards everyone they meet. Because they know how it feels to be on all ends of the spectrum, they try to always make sure that everyone feels included. It doesn’t matter how hard you try to put yourself in the going out mood when you’re in the staying home mood, it won’t happen.

Are you an ambivert?