Does a gentleman still exist? That is one of the main questions that we – as women – ask ourselves. Women would like for the certain man of their dreams to exist, but sometimes it is not even about that. The way that we portray a gentleman is way different than a man would describe his perfect woman.

I’ve asked two of my friends how they would portray a gentleman and it was half of what I expected. One of my friends feels as though a gentleman doesn’t have to do with just manners or actions. She feels as though a gentleman is someone who can tell her how it is all the time and say what the truth is no matter if she’s willing to hear it or not. She doesn’t think that it’s someone who opens doors for you or anything like that, she think that it’s mostly someone who can care about what the little things are. Maybe one day when she’s sick, he makes her something special or remembers what her favorite color it. She believes that the little things are all that matter.

My other friend thinks just as any woman would think. She thinks that a man that is respectful and taught good manners is what a gentleman is all about. A man that knows how to say yes ma’am and no ma’am and who is respectful to women and not demeaning to them in any kind of way. A man who shows that he was raised properly and who can always put his mother first.

A gentleman to me is a mixture of all the qualities that I just named. A gentleman is someone who knows what a woman needs. A gentleman is someone who knows how to make plans instead of being confused on how to treat his woman. A gentleman knows how to handle a woman when she’s sick, hurt or tired. A gentleman is someone who doesn’t understand what it is like to be a woman and to have periods or babies, but would like to understand and do anything that he can to help.

Describing a gentleman is the same as describing a perfect man sometimes, but that’s not the way that we see it. Gentlemen do exist and maybe right now we are too young to see who that is in our lives or we aren’t ready for that. A gentleman knows how to sweep a woman off of her feet at any and every given moment. We feel as though we have to search for that in certain lights, but that’s not how it is all the time.

Describing a certain man just gets my hopes up and it makes me happy that there might be someone out there for everyone.