The Internet’s Infatuation With 'Soft Boys' Needs To Stop

The Internet’s Infatuation With 'Soft Boys' Needs To Stop

Quick, (before he ghosts you), let me know if this boy sounds familiar!


You know he exists. Your girlfriends have told you whisperings. He's lurking nearby. It's…the softboy. The one who civilly slides into your DMs because he would love to hear your thoughts on philosophy, literature, or his vinyl collection.

Okay, sorry, backing up. In order to understand what a softboy is, you must know some history. Internet 101 is in session. No need to silence your cell.

In the past few years, society has finally come up with a word for a male sl*t: a f*ckboy! In case you don't know this slang, a f*ckboy is a male who is strictly into sexual relationships facilitated by manipulation. You know, the kind of shallow guy who sends unprompted pictures of his genitals. He is typically seen with "his boys" because bros come before h*es. A f*ckboy will tell you that "you're not like the other girls"; this is supposed to be a compliment because he doesn't have any respect for other girls. Quick, (before he ghosts you), let me know if this boy sounds familiar!

Well, ladies and gents, we have a new monster on our hands. Or, rather, the same monster in a sheepskin disguise: the softboy!

The softboy Internet craze is a new trend, created as a seeming pendulum swing from the overt dirt-baggery of the infamous f*ckboy. Finally, American culture has a backlash against obvious jerks! …Only to be replaced by the same guy, but this time, in Doc Martins.

They are imitations of the adorkable, lanky white boys of the month on Twitter such as Noah Centineo, Cole Sprouse, Timothee Chalamet, and Troye Sivan – the guys who are not afraid to express their feminine side in their emotional art. Young people adore them for their androgynous beauty and progressive sweetness. In turn, normal guys impersonate these famous people in hopes of receiving that same adoration from women.

However, what these imitators, these softboys, lack is the authenticity of the guys they're trying hard to look like. It's a façade to get in others' pants. He regurgitates whatever you want to hear and will use that to sleep with you before he moves on to "deal with his journey as a flaneur". Whether you're dealing with a f*ckboy or a softboy, they're both manipulating others based on what they think they like. And manipulation is wrong.

Let me argue further, whereas an out-and-proud f*ckboy will wear a tank-top and listen to SoundCloud rappers, the softboy prefers a thrifted sweater while listening to indie music and calling all other tunes "trash". You know, because he is sensitive.

Whereas a f*ckboy half-jokes about being a meninist, the softboy respects women too much to pay for anything, ever. He calls himself a feminist, utilizing the label to his advantage. The softboy knows he's not going to make any girl swoon by being a total misogynist, so he plays the antithesis. But as soon as the situation gets ugly, he will show his real philosophy, with his patronizing voice calling you a derogatory name when something doesn't go his way.

Everything a softboy does is a ploy, (so convincing, that he may even believe these things about himself). He completes this performance to demonstrate to you that he's the good note in the noise. And that's why you have to be wary of him.

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.


Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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8 Reasons Why Being In A Relationship Is The Same As Having A Dog

I know this one may have kind of an odd title, but if you actually think about it...


It may seem ridiculous to wrap your mind around initially, but don't tell me these 8 ways relationships are like having a dog don't make sense to you.

1. They like sleeping with you.

I mean your dog probably loves you. In fact it loves you so much it most likely wants to sleep with you almost everyday. Nonetheless, you might not always let it because he either shitted in your carpet or did something you didn't want to. However, when your dog does nothing wrong and behaves itself you probably do not abstain from letting it sleep on your bed.

2. You deal with their shit.

Think about it, at times your dog might accidentally or intentionally poop somewhere you don't want them to and you will end up cleaning it up. In your partner's case, they might bring problems to the table every now and then, and unfortunately you gotta deal with those problems and eventually overcome them.

3. They need attention.

Just like your clingy better half, your dog also needs attention. As a responsible dog owner, you need to always think about your dog's necessities; and one of the most important ones is taking them for a walk.

Your boyfriend/girlfriend also has necessities, and as you already might have guessed, that means that they need to go out with you quite a bit, otherwise they'll feel ignored exactly like your dog would if you couldn't take him out for a walk.

4. You talk about them whenever you have the opportunity. 

Every time there's a social gathering with your friends or family it is almost inevitable that someone will ask you about your boyfriend/girlfriend. And even if that isn't the case, you will most likely start to randomly brag about him/her even no one asked you to do so. This is exactly the same thing dog owners do with their dogs, they talk about how cute and well behaved they are or maybe they might show you a billion pictures of it so you can love it as much as they do.

Thus, every time you got the opportunity to share your how much you love your dog or your better half, you will most likely take advantage of it.

5. They're lazy and love watching TV with you. 

Every time you feel like doing nothing or simply feeling down, your dog and counterpart are always the best companions. They share your want to doing nothing and probably enjoy it even more than you do. Plus, I bet both your dog and partner have fallen asleep on you at least once while watching Netflix.

6. They’ll protect you.

Your dog, just like your partner, most likely has a 6th sense or protective instinct that perfectly explains why it may bark at the door when someone unknown comes to your house. And just like your dog, when you both go out, your counterpart is probably always alert of your surroundings.

Both your dog and your partner most likely always look after you, protect you from anything that might appear threatening, and will do anything to make sure you are safe and enjoying yourself.

7. They're pretty high maintenance. 

Okay, don't get me wrong, not all partners and dogs are high maintenance. I guess it depends on the dog's race and your partner's personality; however, you can't deny that regardless of their maintenance level, you gotta do a lot of things for your them when you are in a romantic relationship.

You have to help them when they need help, talk to them when they need someone to talk to, get them special gifts every now and then, and do all kinds of small things when necessary.

8. You’ll slowly stop paying as much attention, but that doesn't mean you don't love them!

Don't know if you have noticed, but when you get a new dog, for the first six months you might be absolutely traumatized and overwhelmed by its cuteness, which might make you do all kinds of things for it with utmost happiness. For example, you might be super enthusiastic about taking them out for a walk, teaching them new tricks, train them and even cleaning up their shits. Well, this applies in the same exact way when you're dating someone. When you're dating someone, the first few months seem almost magical. You only think about being with them and doing all kinds of things by their side 24/7.

As time passes, however, you might slowly lose this feeling of infatuation towards them, but this does not mean by any means that you've stopped loving them. It simply means you've gotten used to being around them, just like you get used to being around your dog and family at home.

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