I'm sure we can all agree that it's extremely frustrating and rather annoying when you're the friend who always has to come up with plans, or always has to text someone first in order for plans to happen.

I'm that friend.

I'm the one who group texts and tries to move around my schedule to see people, the one who texts someone first to hang out, and the one who always has to figure out what exactly we're going to do when we get together.

Well, I got sick of it. Here's what happened when I stopped initiating plans.

The plans stopped. No one reached out, no one offered to make plans, nothing. And you know what? That really hurt. When people stop trying to make plans with you, it's a very frustrating and hurtful thing. You wonder what you did wrong for them not to want to hang out with you, and you wonder if they even ever wanted to be your friend. On my days off from work, if I'm not with my best friend or family, I'm alone.

This is one thing about Millennials that doesn't sit well with me. How are we all going to sit on social media, complaining we have no plans, but not make any effort to plan something? It blows my mind! We're all so preoccupied with what we'll be doing that it becomes a chore to make plans.

"Do you want to go to the mall?"

"Nah"

"Do you want to go out to eat?"

"No, I went yesterday."

What happened to sitting on the couch watching TV and eating snacks? Just laughing and enjoying each others company. That's why I stopped making the first move.

We're all busy, and I get that. But if someone is your friend, you make time for them, regardless of what you do. Making an effort is a part of any relationship, it's a two way street. We all need to learn to take the first step when making plans, it can't be the same person over, and over again, because they'll become like me, and they'll stop.