'Afraid' Is Not Knowing If You Can Openly Be Yourself, NOT Whether You Can State Your Political Opinion

'Afraid' Is Not Knowing If You Can Openly Be Yourself, NOT Whether You Can State Your Political Opinion

You choose your political support. I can't choose what I am.

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Apparently, Republicans and Trump supporters feel "afraid" or "uncomfortable" expressing their opinions and political affiliations in a "liberal" world. I've certainly read quite a few articles on here from college-age Republicans who've stated so.

And it's laughable because they don't really know what it feels like to be afraid.

"Afraid" is not feeling like you can publicly be yourself. That you can't fully own your identity and embrace it, because there are people out there who hate you for everything you are and would harm you without feeling guilty.

"Afraid" is not knowing if it's safe to tell someone your religious identity.

"Afraid" is not feeling like you can come out on your sexuality because people, possibly even your own family, may hate you.

"Afraid" is knowing that you could be hurt or killed because your skin color isn't white. And that would be the only reason. And your assaulter might not even get properly punished for it.

I once had a coworker tell me if I ever came out as bisexual, he'd never speak to me again. Like that was his breaking point. Speaks volumes about this world we live in, huh?

I am Jewish. I fear being attacked for my religion. And considering the rise in anti-Semitic events lately, even on my own college campus, that's an increasingly valid fear. It's currently Hannukah, and I'm scared to have my family's lights visible from the street because someone might decide to attack us since we're openly signally we're Jewish. I work in a kosher coffee place and fear someone may come in with a gun. My sisters attend Jewish day schools and my mother works in one; I fear a school shooting could take place. My father wears a yarmulke and I fear that someone could see and choose to hurt him.

I'm a woman. I live in fear of being sexually assaulted everywhere I go. I'm afraid to go places alone, even if it's the 5-minute walk from campus to the parking garage, because it doesn't take long for something to happen.

I have trans friends. They fear discrimination, hate, physical attacks, and being written out of existence by our transphobic president and politicians. They are goddamn good people who shouldn't have to worry about doing literally anything because someone may hate who they are.

I'm bisexual. I and everyone else in the LGBTQ community are faced with homophobia and hate. We're afraid for our lives, afraid to come out because sometimes we don't know if our own families would be okay with us. I'm blessed enough to have a Jewish family that is okay with LGBTQ, but others are not as fortunate.

I watch my classmates, my white, cisgender, straight classmates, move through life only worrying about college and work. They're not affected by the shit I deal with. They will never fully understand how it feels to live your life in fear of being hurt, attacked, or even killed for your identity.

Because even if they're allies, they may never truly understand.

So to all you Trump supporters and Republicans out there who claim to be afraid to express themselves? You have no idea what fear truly feels like.

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The 17 Best Unpopular Opinions From The Minds Of Millennials

Yes, dogs should be allowed in more places and kids in less.
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There are those opinions that are almost fact because everyone agrees with them. Waking up early is horrible. Music is life. Sleep is wonderful. These are all facts of life.

But then there are those opinions that hardly anyone agrees with. These ones -- from Twitter, Pinterest and Reddit -- are those types of opinions that are better left unsaid. Some of these are funny. Some are thought-provoking. All of them are the 17 best unpopular opinions around.

1. My favorite pizza is Hawaiian pizza.

2. Binge watching television is not fun and actually difficult to do.

3. I love puns... Dad jokes FTW.

4. Milk in the cup first... THEN the bloody tea.

5. I wish dogs were allowed more places and kids were allowed fewer places.

6. "Space Jam" was a sh*t movie.

7. Saying "money cannot buy happiness" is just wrong.

8. People keep saying light is the most important thing in photographing. I honestly think the camera is more important.

9. Bacon is extremely overrated.

10. Literally, anything is better than going to the gym.

11. Alternative pets are for weird people.

12. Google doodles are annoying.

13. It is okay to not have an opinion on something.

14. It's weird when grown adults are obsessed with Disney.

15. This is how to eat a Kit Kat bar.

16. Mind your own business.

17. There is such a thing as an ugly baby.

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Being A Lesbian Sucks

To women who say they wish they were a lesbian; you don't.

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My girlfriend is not a man, obviously so because she is my girlfriend, emphasis on girl. Society has been conditioned with men holding the power. In a world dominated by men being a lesbian has more problems than just homophobia.

There is an automatic assumption that because we are not with a man we are single. Without the dominating presence of a man other men feel safe to come on to women in lesbian relationships, whether they know we are together or not. We aren't always in a safe situation to say we are together so if he doesn't pick up on the social cues it only gives us two options: politely laugh and attempt to remove ourselves from the situation or say we aren't interested. Both options are equal in undesirability and saying we are uninterested can lead to them just pushing harder. The boyfriend card usually works, but lying about our relationship makes us feel terrible.

The fetishizing of lesbian couples and threesomes are a problem because of media and porn. They hyper-sexualize lesbian relationships until they are nothing but sex. From this the winning question, "Do you want to have a threesome?" With the assumption both or one woman in the relationship is a lesbian and not bisexual, pansexual, or etc. A threesome with a man is completely out of the question. The thing about lesbians is that we like women not men, a threesome with a man goes against our identity as a lesbian and makes no sense. And even if both women are bisexual a normal man wouldn't walk up to a straight couple and pop the question of a threesome. So don't do it to us.

We also find ourselves being disrespected as a customer in a professional setting. Men in job positions belittle women who are at the mechanic, the lawyer, the doctors offices, and the bank, for just a few examples. They assume we don't know anything and are ignorant, so they treat us with no respect. They attempt to manipulate us for this and that to achieve their own personal gain. Without a man lesbian couples are even more subject to this because we don't get any respect. A man will be immediately respected and in a healthy relationship he can establish a power balance with his woman partner to the person in charge. Lesbians, (and other single women) don't have these short cuts. We have to establish ourselves then and there for having worth and show we deserve to be treated like full grown adults. Hopefully we also have the knowledge to not suffer from manipulation.

The difference in skill sets is something that can be a problem for everyone in this sexist society. We associate pink with girls and boys with blue. Girls with cooking and guys with tools. Most of us were taught different things and learned different skill sets. Most women I know, including me, don't know how to change a tire. How many young men go off to college having never done laundry in their life? With lesbians we usually don't know an important skill that was specifically taught to men. We might not know cars, or tools, or how to tile a floor. We are set back in our development as fully functional people in a unit. We lack key skill sets that were predetermined for men, unlike straight couples where there is usually a balance of skill sets.

The problems that arise from lesbian relationships are problems associated with a male dominating society and the gender division we face along with it. To abolish these we have to achieve equality and work on teaching the generations to follow that women are just as good as men. It's tough being a woman and a lesbian even harder.

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