What Disabled Students Want to Tell You
Start writing a post
Student Life

What Disabled Students Want to Tell You

As a disabled student, there are a few things that I would like people to know.

24
What Disabled Students Want to Tell You
Jon Han

There's something to be said for being a student in this current economy. The transition into college -- be it beginning an undergraduate career or heading off into the uncharted territory of graduate work -- is a huge leap from the filmstrip memories of high school, or day-to-day of the "real world". Managing a disability on top of all aforementioned factors is a big deal. I should know: I've done it. I'm doing it. I'm still doing it.

There are a few things that I -- and many other students with disabilities -- would like to tell people. I'm positive that I have not covered everything, but this is a start.

1. We may not ask for help.

Even when we really need it. Because of factors both within and outside of our control, there are disabled students who don't want to say anything about their disability for fear of ridicule. There are also disabled students who don't know where to find resources to help them. In my first semester of both undergrad and graduate school, I, for fear of being labeled "retarded", didn't tell anyone about my Aspergers syndrome. Not a peer, a professor, or the campus' disability services office. As a result, I struggled a lot when having to juggle a full course-load and extracurricular activities. It wasn't until my second semester - one panic attack, one severe depressive episode, one panic-stricken bolt out a classroom, and some not-so-great grades later -- that I finally decided to tell my professors and campus office what was going on. The help I received afterward was tremendous.

For professors and peers: If you notice that a disabled student is struggling, but not saying anything, ask them.

2. We may get randomly tired at weird times during the day.

I believe in the Spoon Theory. Developed by Christine Miserandino, the Spoon Theory explains the reduced amount of energy available for activities of daily living and productive tasks that may result from disability or chronic illness. When I say I don't have many spoons left, I say that I've already used a fair share of my energy by 2 p.m. when I still need to be "functional" for at least four more hours.

For peers: Breaks during the day are good for getting energy back, but they're different for everyone. One disabled person might need a longer break than another; keep everyone's individual needs into account.

3. We may forget to remind professors and peers of what we need.

I have a bad memory. I have to write everything down in a daily to-do list, or some form of list, or I will literally forget all of my course assignments. I also randomly confuse the left direction for a right, and up for down. Both handicaps are insanely inconvenient, for me and for everyone within a ten-mile radius. Often I have to wait at least ten minutes to work up the gumption to ask in class about something previously covered in a lecture. Other times, I will keep my mouth shut and stew in my own perceived incompetence.

For professors and peers: Patience is a good, and often underutilized quality. Again, if you see us struggling, offer to lend a (proverbial) hand. If we go to you, do what you can. Any and all help is appreciated.

I debated writing this article. The struggle of managing a disability is one I wouldn't wish on anyone, not even in a far-fetched "It's a Wonderful Life"-esque scenario against that one person in high school who called me a retard, or that one person in junior high who told me I should stop talking when I tried to answer a question in class. The internalized ableism, what I have retained from being teased and mocked in my younger years, is unnerving. My life experiences are not the Richter scales by which to measure all disabled students'. I do hope that there will be, through this article, at least a small start toward more proactive compassion regarding disabled students and their respective needs.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
​a woman sitting at a table having a coffee
nappy.co

I can't say "thank you" enough to express how grateful I am for you coming into my life. You have made such a huge impact on my life. I would not be the person I am today without you and I know that you will keep inspiring me to become an even better version of myself.

Keep Reading...Show less
Student Life

Waitlisted for a College Class? Here's What to Do!

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

83007
college students waiting in a long line in the hallway
StableDiffusion

Course registration at college can be a big hassle and is almost never talked about. Classes you want to take fill up before you get a chance to register. You might change your mind about a class you want to take and must struggle to find another class to fit in the same time period. You also have to make sure no classes clash by time. Like I said, it's a big hassle.

This semester, I was waitlisted for two classes. Most people in this situation, especially first years, freak out because they don't know what to do. Here is what you should do when this happens.

Keep Reading...Show less
a man and a woman sitting on the beach in front of the sunset

Whether you met your new love interest online, through mutual friends, or another way entirely, you'll definitely want to know what you're getting into. I mean, really, what's the point in entering a relationship with someone if you don't know whether or not you're compatible on a very basic level?

Consider these 21 questions to ask in the talking stage when getting to know that new guy or girl you just started talking to:

Keep Reading...Show less
Lifestyle

Challah vs. Easter Bread: A Delicious Dilemma

Is there really such a difference in Challah bread or Easter Bread?

50192
loaves of challah and easter bread stacked up aside each other, an abundance of food in baskets
StableDiffusion

Ever since I could remember, it was a treat to receive Easter Bread made by my grandmother. We would only have it once a year and the wait was excruciating. Now that my grandmother has gotten older, she has stopped baking a lot of her recipes that require a lot of hand usage--her traditional Italian baking means no machines. So for the past few years, I have missed enjoying my Easter Bread.

Keep Reading...Show less
Adulting

Unlocking Lake People's Secrets: 15 Must-Knows!

There's no other place you'd rather be in the summer.

983473
Group of joyful friends sitting in a boat
Haley Harvey

The people that spend their summers at the lake are a unique group of people.

Whether you grew up going to the lake, have only recently started going, or have only been once or twice, you know it takes a certain kind of person to be a lake person. To the long-time lake people, the lake holds a special place in your heart, no matter how dirty the water may look.

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments