What Can You Do To Become A Successful Adult?

What Can You Do To Become A Successful Adult?

What is your weak point as an adult?

Do you ever feel like you are an adult but were not prepared for adulthood? Many students do. Once you hit college, all of a sudden you are choosing your own classes, signing up for loans or battling it out with financial aid. You never knew that school, was, in fact, a business, and free schooling is a luxury.

Aside from school, you are now expected to work and pay taxes and network to find a stable career. You are trying to figure out what a stable career is anyway. That dream you had when you were little of being a doctor now seems like a nightmare when you see how long and intense schooling is for that.

When you are a kid, all you care about is what "Powerpuff Girls" blanket and sippy cup you want for Christmas or whatever holiday you get gifts on. Or maybe not even on a holiday, your parents would spoil you with gifts. But now, all of a sudden, you are thrown into the fire of adulthood and expected to do just fine on your own.

At this age, some people don’t even have parents anymore to help them. Really, being unprepared is an understatement. Nobody really knows, honestly, what it takes to be a successful adult until they become adults. But is there a better way to educate children on how to survive adulthood?

I would start with teaching kids how to get along. Yes, there are many times in elementary school and junior high school you are put into groups with people you don’t like and are forced to work with them. However, it is not the same as teaching teamwork and how to work in a company. Many kids face bullying growing up and are not taught properly how to deal with it. Some kids who have parents that neglect them, or some other type of issue, become bullies and grow up to be resentful adults.

The kids that are bullied and don’t know how to properly stand up for themselves, grow into indecisive adults with low self-esteem. Now, if teamwork was taught properly and honestly, and we were told from day 1 that we need to learn how to network and how to work with people we don’t connect with, we could become more prepared for work as adults.

Another thing many people surprisingly still don’t know about, as adults, is basic health needs. If you are living in a dorm or even at home, and you don’t have proper meals with vegetables, meat, and other food groups and you just have snacks, you gain weight. But, it also can affect your performance at school or work. Health is taught growing up, but it is taught very generally. Once kids become adults and enter college without knowing how to take care of themselves, they often suffer.

Sex education should obviously not be taught right away to young kids, but whenever it is taught- for me it started in eighth grade and continued in tenth)- it should include something that teaches adults to value themselves. By this, I mean, putting your body first and being safe, taking all the tests with your partner to make sure safety is first. While some people DO teach that, they still don’t teach you- let’s say if you actually received a disease- how to go about asking for help without feeling shame. Instead, people play with fire and take their chances blindly. They also make it so awkward, since it is a taboo subject. This is partially why you grow up and are not fully GROWN.

Emotional intelligence should also be taught growing up. We need to know the difference between actual depression and just feeling sad about something. We need to know anxiety is real, and not just for when you are nervous to go up in front of the class. We need to know the proper way to handle a traumatic situation. By this age, many people have PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder). Students and other adults should know how to help people who have it move forward, without making them feel different. Emotional intelligence can help in all aspects of your life.

Many situations in our lives, that we are forced into, help us grow. But if we are not forced to grow by life experience, we should be taught in classrooms. It is a tough life, but with some pointers, anyone can be successful.

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Noisy Neighbors?

4 Appropriate Methods to Get Your Peace Back

Noisy neighbors may be something that is removing the enjoyment from your home. Sometimes noise is just inevitable. You can choose to retaliate or you can take the high road. Here are some methods you can use to help quiet those noisy neighbors.

Talk Over Your Concerns

Sometimes people aren’t aware of how much noise they are making. Your neighbor might have a dog that barks incessantly. They may even be oblivious to this fact. You should always give people the benefit of the doubt. Don’t assume that they are making noise just to disturb you. Before confronting the issue, take a moment to calm yourself. You don’t want the conversation to escalate. This won’t solve the issue. Ask to speak to your neighbor. Try not to be confrontational. When you put people on the defensive, the conversation is rarely productive. Start out by expressing some of the things that you have noticed. Tell your neighbor how this has made you feel. Let them know that you would like their help with this situation. Come up with solutions together. Having this binding agreement can make future issues easier to resolve.

Offer Incentive for Quiet Time

People are generally more accepting of your point of view when you do something nice for them. Bake a plate of cookies or some other type of baked good. This way you can start an uncomfortable conversation on the right foot. You might be able to come to a compromise. Let them know that you would like to have quiet time during certain times of the day. This way everyone can get what they want out of the situation. There may be something going on that you were unaware of at your neighbor’s house. You may find that they were offended by noise that you were making. Be willing to see things from their perspective. Part of being a good neighbor is being able to compromise. Unless you are planning on moving, you will likely see this person every day. You don’t want continued tensions to make you uncomfortable in your own home.

Install a Good Neighbor Fence

A good fence may be the solution to your problem. Some types of fencing can help to reduce the amount of noise that filters into your yard. Consider using wholesale vinyl fencing to make your yard more private. There are a variety of styles available. Vinyl is relatively easy to install. You can put up the whole fence in just one weekend. Fencing can block the sightline of a constantly barking dog. You can enjoy your yard in peace without having to be wary of what the neighbor’s dog is doing. Having a fence also offers your kids a safe place to play. They are contained and you can watch them from the comfort of your home. You can relax in your yard and not be observed by prying eyes. Sometimes fences make the best neighbors. You can get your peace back at a reasonable price.

Utilize Ear Plugs

When all else fails, pull out the ear plugs. You can live in blissful ignorance of all the noise that your neighbors are making. Denial may be your only alternative. While some neighbors are considerate of others feelings, some don’t care. If this is the case, you have two options. Ignore the noise or make it into a bigger issue. Many people choose to report their neighbors for noise complaints. This may be a short term solution. Your neighbors may be resentful of the intrusion. This can lead to bigger issues with your neighbor. Be careful how you choose to handle this situation. Avoidance may be your safest choice when nothing else is working. Ear plugs can let you at least pretend that there isn’t an issue. Consider getting the other neighbors involved to deal with your troublesome neighbor.

Everyone has experienced noisy neighbors at some point. Try these techniques to help you keep the peace in the neighborhood.

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Sharing My Writing Publicly Changed The Way I View My Content, But I Grew Out Of My Comfort Zone

It certainly didn’t discourage me from writing any less.

I have been writing for the Odyssey for a little over two years now, and it’s safe to say I absolutely love it. Having the freedom and ability to write about whatever I want on a weekly basis not only improves my writing abilities but also encourages me to pay attention to what’s going on and stay attuned to the world.

Still, it’s not always fun and games. This past year, it was made known to me that every time I write an article, I have to ensure that it is shared on several social media platforms, one of which is Facebook. Initially, I didn’t find this to be much of a problem, that was until I wrote my article for the next week.

There’s something so freeing about being able to write whatever you want, and part of that stems from the fact that you get to choose topics that interest you. Additionally, part of what I loved was not just writing what I wanted, but when I wrote something that could prove to be controversial amongst some, I didn’t have to share it.

That all changed a few months back, and it greatly influenced how I thought about my articles moving forward.

I wish I could say that I don’t care whether people like my articles or if my content sparks heated discussion, but I do. When you manage any kind of social media content, whether it’s a blog or writing for a website ,you care about your viewership and how they receive your articles, and you should! Part of the reason why you do it in the first place is because this audience is so important to you, and you don’t want to let them down.

One of the greatest benefits about being a writer is that you have the opportunity to help, encourage, motivate, educate, and support other people. When you write a public article, you open up the possibility for people to read that article and resonate with it in some way. Whether it’s learning about a new sport or feeling supported about a person struggle, your aud ience views you as a confidant in as little as 500 words.

But what happens if you write something that not everyone will love? Does that mean you shouldn’t share it?

I spent a great deal of my time the first year writing for Odyssey sticking to anything I was interested in, and once I was encouraged to make my writing public, my topics changed. I paid more attention to what I was writing about and how it might be received by certain people. I cared more about touching upon the critical points and asking the question of what the big takeaway would be at the end.

When you choose to write publicly, you have to embrace the fact that not everyone will think your writing is advanced or profound, and that sometimes, people will disagree. Still, you cannot shy away from the topics that you feel are important or critical to analyze because words do have the ability to promote change and help people.

For those of you who are writers or are thinking about becoming writers for a public platform, my advice is this:

Do it. Do not shy away from it because you’re worried about the content that you are writing about or whether you’ll have 1,000 social engagements in minutes.

Instead, do it because you are passionate about it and because it allows you to instill passion in others.

Most importantly, remember that being “public” shouldn’t make you fearful of talking about the difficult topics. Rather, view the accessibility of your work as encouragement to proofread, edit, and hone ideas that you genuinely think people will appreciate.

Going “public” may have changed the way I view my content, but it certainly didn’t discourage me from writing any less.

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