What Can You Do To Become A Successful Adult?

What Can You Do To Become A Successful Adult?

What is your weak point as an adult?

Do you ever feel like you are an adult but were not prepared for adulthood? Many students do. Once you hit college, all of a sudden you are choosing your own classes, signing up for loans or battling it out with financial aid. You never knew that school, was, in fact, a business, and free schooling is a luxury.

Aside from school, you are now expected to work and pay taxes and network to find a stable career. You are trying to figure out what a stable career is anyway. That dream you had when you were little of being a doctor now seems like a nightmare when you see how long and intense schooling is for that.

When you are a kid, all you care about is what "Powerpuff Girls" blanket and sippy cup you want for Christmas or whatever holiday you get gifts on. Or maybe not even on a holiday, your parents would spoil you with gifts. But now, all of a sudden, you are thrown into the fire of adulthood and expected to do just fine on your own.

At this age, some people don’t even have parents anymore to help them. Really, being unprepared is an understatement. Nobody really knows, honestly, what it takes to be a successful adult until they become adults. But is there a better way to educate children on how to survive adulthood?

I would start with teaching kids how to get along. Yes, there are many times in elementary school and junior high school you are put into groups with people you don’t like and are forced to work with them. However, it is not the same as teaching teamwork and how to work in a company. Many kids face bullying growing up and are not taught properly how to deal with it. Some kids who have parents that neglect them, or some other type of issue, become bullies and grow up to be resentful adults.

The kids that are bullied and don’t know how to properly stand up for themselves, grow into indecisive adults with low self-esteem. Now, if teamwork was taught properly and honestly, and we were told from day 1 that we need to learn how to network and how to work with people we don’t connect with, we could become more prepared for work as adults.

Another thing many people surprisingly still don’t know about, as adults, is basic health needs. If you are living in a dorm or even at home, and you don’t have proper meals with vegetables, meat, and other food groups and you just have snacks, you gain weight. But, it also can affect your performance at school or work. Health is taught growing up, but it is taught very generally. Once kids become adults and enter college without knowing how to take care of themselves, they often suffer.

Sex education should obviously not be taught right away to young kids, but whenever it is taught- for me it started in eighth grade and continued in tenth)- it should include something that teaches adults to value themselves. By this, I mean, putting your body first and being safe, taking all the tests with your partner to make sure safety is first. While some people DO teach that, they still don’t teach you- let’s say if you actually received a disease- how to go about asking for help without feeling shame. Instead, people play with fire and take their chances blindly. They also make it so awkward, since it is a taboo subject. This is partially why you grow up and are not fully GROWN.

Emotional intelligence should also be taught growing up. We need to know the difference between actual depression and just feeling sad about something. We need to know anxiety is real, and not just for when you are nervous to go up in front of the class. We need to know the proper way to handle a traumatic situation. By this age, many people have PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder). Students and other adults should know how to help people who have it move forward, without making them feel different. Emotional intelligence can help in all aspects of your life.

Many situations in our lives, that we are forced into, help us grow. But if we are not forced to grow by life experience, we should be taught in classrooms. It is a tough life, but with some pointers, anyone can be successful.

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10 Underrated Perks Of Being 5'3" Or Under

Because being average is overrated.

There are so many times where I've wished I was just an inch or two taller, but then I remember that there are some serious perks to being so short and all us shorties should really appreciate what we have going for us!

1. All the leg room

Long airplane rides and long road trips in the back seat aren’t nearly as bad for those of us who need minimal leg room anyway.

2. Squeezing through crowds is your specialty

If weaving through a crowded room was an Olympic sport, us shorties would take the cake.

3. You can save cash on kids clothes and shoes

Nothing is more satisfying than being able to fit into kid sizes that are the same thing as the adult size just $10 less.

4. You instantly look younger

Yeah maybe getting mistaken for 12 at 19 isn’t awesome but soon we’re gonna need some of those extra years back.

5. You’re not limited to tall people for aesthetic purposes of dating

There is no rule that says guys have to be taller than girls, but for those who just prefer to date guys or gals that are taller being short is a bonus.

6. You can make due with any small blanket

The ability to use a large beach towel as a blanket and take a nice nap always comes in handy.

7. Results show up quickly when you start hitting the gym

On a smaller frame losing/gaining weight or muscle is much more obvious than on other people. Though you can see when we start packing on the pounds, you can also see when we’re getting in shape.

8. Every shower head is like a lovely waterfall over your head

People pay big money to install luxurious waterfall shower heads but when you’re short enough, any shower head is pretty much a waterfall for you.

9. Always having a shoulder to lean on

Literally, your head is at most people’s shoulders so it’s like a built-in pillow when you need it.

10. You get to surprise people with your strength

People generally underestimate smaller, shorter people but we’re the same people who get strong to compensate for our size.

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Following the Eightfold Path to Resilience

The ultimate guide to unlocking the door to life success.

I’ve been told that confidence isn’t about being liked by everyone, it’s about being okay when you’re not. It’s about being okay when you fail because you’re confident in your ability to bounce back. This resilience has been the most valuable skill I've learned as a college student and it’s absolutely essential to success in all facets of life.

Confidence Is preached at people as though it’s the single most important key unlocking the door to success, but how can one be confident without having resilience? Challenges are an inevitable part of everyday life, both professionally and personally. The key to success isn't simply how confident one is, it’s how one reacts when confronted with challenges. It’s resilience.

Often times, the most resilient people in the world are people who have faced major adversity and setbacks in their lives. Confident people are not some sort of superhuman species who experience no difficulty or distress, they just know how to deal with it. Just look at the success of people like Nelson Mandela, Oprah Winfrey, and Stephen Hawking. They used their hardships as motivation to push forward and become some of the most successful people in history.

The good news is that resilience is not some inherent trait that some people seem to have while others don’t. Resilience can be learned and developed in anyone. Become mindful of your behaviors, actions, and thoughts in times of adversity and success will come knocking at your door.

1. Surround yourself with those who love you

The sky is the limit when you surround yourself with people who lift you up. You don’t have to take on the world on all by yourself. Accept help from those who care about you.

2. Stop making mountains out of molehills

Life has a way of sneaking up on us when we least expect it. You can’t change the fact that hardships are inevitable, but you can change how you process and respond to them. Try stepping out of your current frame of reference. A problem may seem insurmountable now, but will it really matter in a month, a year? Think about it.

3. Change in life is inevitable, accept it

Spending all of your time and energy on a circumstance that will never change is not only a waste of time, it prevents you from focusing on circumstances that you can change. I urge you to focus on what you have to gain, not what you have to give up.

4. Take baby steps

Rome wasn't built in a day. Set goals. Work towards them every day. Slowly you will have accomplished what you want without even realizing it. Do something every day that moves you in the direction that you want to go.

5. Don't say "why me," say "try me"

Don't waste your time wallowing in self-pity, waiting for others to save you. Snap out of it. Take the bull by the horns. You can run the day or the day can run you. Absolutely nothing changes when absolutely nothing is done.

6. Turn “I can’t” into “I can”

Believe in yourself. You are in control of your own life. There is a strength inside of you that is greater than any obstacle. You just have to use it.

7. See the glass half full

Don’t waste your time on negative thoughts. Cultivate a positive outlook on life. Dark thoughts cloud your mind's ability to recognize what’s important, while positivity opens your eyes to all that is possible.

8. Put yourself first

Do what is best for you. Your body is your temple, cherish it. Resilience requires a great deal of fortitude and strength. Take care of yourself so you are prepared to use it.

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