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5 Ways Being Too Nice Will End Up Hurting You

Being nice and kind is great, but there is a line you draw when it becomes too much.

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Being a nice human in this world is always important. But when does it become toxic and can hurt you. There is a difference between being a pushover and being a genuinely nice person. Here are five ways of being too nice isn't always right.

People will try and take advantage of you

It is good being a nice person at the right times but being too nice can also invite people to use you for their own good. It is often easier to hone in on nice people because nice associated with being forgiving and having a soft nature. It is important that people don't take advantage of you because of your nice personality. Yes, it is good to be polite and a good person but be careful that you are not hurting yourself in the process.

Your perceptions of the real world might change

A grounded and real perception of the world is important to have a good/realistic mindset in life. It can be easy to fall into a false sense of the world if you find yourself with too many nice people. You can lose sight of reality, which can do more harm than good in the end. You will develop unrealistic expectations of others.

You will wind up attracting manipulators and fake people

Nice people tend to attract fake people into their lives because they are naive and are willing to do anything to be a good human being. The nice one will try and help in any way possible, but that only leads to them missing the real picture. You can sympathize with another person, but don't let your emotions and being nice cloud your judgment and make bad decisions.

Your needs are never being met

Nice people tend to attract users friends who are lazy and always have favors to ask. It's okay to be a helpful friend, but when it starts affecting your daily things, that's when you need to stop. It's like you do a lot for them but never get anything back in return other than you hurting yourself.

You will forget about being kind to yourself

When you are busy taking care of everyone else, you will forget to be kind to yourself. Backing off on the constant state of giving, you can spend some time looking within yourself and growing as a person. This can lead to you being more kind and understanding. Not focusing on yourself can lead to a spiral of depression and being anxious. Not everyone can help others all the time.

Being a kind person and all is great but you have to be careful about who you are letting into your life. Be nice but to a certain level.

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