Happy Valentine's Day To The Mother Who Never Loved Me

Happy Valentine's Day To The Mother Who Never Loved Me

Motherhood wasn't for her and it still isn't.


On this day of commercialized love, nothing happy can come from it. Fill your appetite with assorted candy, a fancy dinner and consummate a relationship with acts of true love. One revolution of the sun and the moon, all in celebration of a metaphysical emotion that escapes us, traps us and frees us. To what quota is love true?

I have a mother, you are already up to speed. I would say you do not need to know much about her since she does not care to know you. Unfortunately for her, she gave birth to a boy she did not want to grow up and who would eventually question and enunciate words rather than cute, monosyllable babbles.

She gave birth to a boy and not "the" boy she always wanted. She prayed for me she said, but her miracle came with a double meaning she didn't want to define more than way. Ever since I was four, I could not bring myself to say, "I love you, Mom." When I was told to say it to her by my father, and when I did, it was a moment of conditional love.

The love that my mom grants me is and has been given conditionally. If you do not love her, she does not love you. If you do not agree with her, she does not agree with you. You tell her that it is selfish to expect everyone to do and think as she does. She says that is not true, she never said that or never would say that.

You are supposed to protect her reputation. Anything she would not do or think that you do and think yourself becomes a bad reflection of her reputation. A reputation she does not have since she avoids her neighbors and people she will hold no trust in. Staying at home and sitting in front of a television and tablet looking at home improvement options makes her closer to God and a better person than the rest of us.

Do not even bother asking her why. Her only reason is that she should not and does not have to explain herself. Because she is your mother, the best and only reason your obedient childhood mind needs.

A mother who called me autistic instead of finding out if I really was autistic. A mother who called me a moron when her mother would never have called me a moron. A mother who never loved me because she expected a nuclear family, but all she got was something nuclear, but this is not completely true.

Her intentions can be good but how far do they serve the one with those intentions and not the one receiving them? I do not reciprocate love where love does not dwell. I do not love someone to appease their lack of love for me so that they will love me. I do not love conditionally, but I do not love unconditionally either.

Love cannot be bought or sold. Love is true when you have it in yourself to give.

If you cannot give love for me, Mom, that is okay. I love what you gave me, but I do not love the "love" you gave me.

Cruelty is the mother of kindness.

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.


Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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Motherhood Gives Women Skills That Are Beneficial No Matter Where Life Them

I believe that the impeccable and sublime phase of motherhood is what actually causes a young girl to fully blossom into a vibrant young woman.


Growing up shouldn't necessarily mean moving onto the next level in your life and becoming completely mature for your age. Actually, it should also be a "glowing" phase in your life. Honestly, I have been under the impression that growing only refers to aging physically and the eventual understanding of a person's countless responsibilities/duties.

However, I have begun to realize what the "glowing" aspect of growing actually means. It is when a young girl gets married and then proceeds towards the next phase of life called motherhood. This is exactly when the evolution of the young girl actually begins.

I believe that the impeccable and sublime phase of motherhood is what actually causes a young girl to fully blossom into a vibrant young woman. I'm saying this due to my recent conversation with my mother, aunt, and grandma. I began by asking them what was the most fruitful journey in your life? All of them answered by saying that motherhood shaped their life extensively and further provided them with another full-fledged reason to live.

In other words, they have briefly mentioned that babies are just like flowers that have to be nurtured immensely in order to fully bloom. After hearing this, I have fully understood why women tend to glow the most when they are expecting! In fact, the biological process of creating life and then bringing a couple's symbol of love into the world is indeed an amazing feat.

It is astonishing how motherhood can change a woman's life remarkably. During our conversation, I was able to learn how much hard work is dedicated toward nourishing a child and their overall upbringing. I'm forever grateful for what my mom has done for me and is still doing for me till this day. It takes an enormous amount of stamina and courage to effectively bring up a child and I have carefully observed my mother throughout the years. Essentially, women are no longer completely free to behave irrationally and impatiently. Motherhood exposes them to many life-changing skills, many of which revolve around time management and patience.

On the other side of the spectrum, once a woman becomes a mother, they have to make some important career-changing decisions. Many mothers become working mothers and some become stay-at-home mothers for some time. Some mothers tend to devote most of their time playing and taking care of their children just like my mother and grandma. Whereas, many women are awesome at both balancing work and their motherly responsibilities.

I'm from the school of thought that women are free to decide what they want best and they shouldn't be restrained from venturing out and advancing in their careers. Excelling in their careers is an incredible delight if they have full support from their family and are able to actively balance both responsibilities.

A mother's love is unconditional and we will always be indebted to them for bringing us into the world. Finally, I would like to give a shout out to all the amazing super-women out there who have proved to be affectionate, creative, and impressive role-models for their children!

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