7 Ways To Spend Valentine's Day If You're Recently Single

7 Ways To Spend Valentine's Day If You're Recently Single

Besides bingeing The Office on Netflix. Again.


Valentine's Day can be hard if you're single - reminders of your lack of a love life seem to follow you wherever you go - but what makes it 10x worse is having recently been through a break up.

The supermarket is suddenly someplace you dread going - as if constantly thinking about your break up wasn't enough already, seeing all of the velvet chocolate boxes and flowers reminds you of your extremely inopportune timing and can push you to tears. To combat this, I've compiled some ways to spend Valentine's Day that just might help ease the pain of your recent breakup.

1. Buy yourself whatever you were hoping to get as a gift


That box of chocolates you've been eyeing for weeks is still within your reach! Take the opportunity to treat yourself to whatever luxurious goodies you were expecting bae to surprise you with. It can even still be a surprise! Order something like a Valentine's flower arrangement, your favorite pizza, maybe something that's been sitting in your Amazon cart forever, and have it delivered to yourself. Ignore the notification that tells you when it will arrive and voila! a Valentine's day surprise.

2. Plan a night with friends


Unless literally everyone you know has a s/o, a night out with friends is the perfect excuse to still have fun on Valentine's Day. Use it as an opportunity to reconnect with old friends or finally get to see that one person you've been playing phone tag with. Valentine's Day isn't just about romantic love, it's also about platonic love, so celebrating friendship is just as important as celebrating romance. Galentine's Day is a thing for a reason.

3. Have a spa day


Give yourself the gift of peace and relaxation. Completely decompress and cleanse your body (and mind) of everything you've been through lately. You deserve to take a break to feel rejuvenated.

4. Watch sappy romance movies


This may seem counterproductive, but for someone who has recently experienced a breakup, this can be therapeutic. Sometimes, the only way to solve a problem is to push right through it, and since emotional distress is something we typically don't like to encounter, it can be difficult to dig up all of those very fresh and very unpleasant emotions in order to address them properly. However, forcing yourself to come face to face with your emotions and process them appropriately (i.e. crying a lot) can help relieve some of that emotional strain and allow you to work towards healing just that much faster.

5. Spoil your pet


They deserve to feel loved and appreciated too! Maybe take the extra time to cuddle with your cat, or feed your dog the leftover chicken you're not going to eat. Giving your pet just even a little more attention that usual can make you feel good and it celebrates their unconditional love for you.

6. Visit your parents


It sounds very lame if you tell someone "I'm hanging out with my mom on Valentine's day", but it's actually a great way to show them how much you care. If you have good parents, they love you unconditionally, and since Valentine's Day is about love, it's the perfect opportunity to tell them how much you appreciate them. It's also good for you to feel loved and appreciated by them in return, as it helps you forget how lonely you might feel.

7. Work


For some people, work is a safe place where their personal and professional lives do not mix, so it can be an emotional sanctuary for them. Putting in those extra hours can not only distract you from your break up, but you'll be making money too! Just a different, more roundabout way to treat yourself, if that works for you.

There really is no wrong way to spend Valentine's Day, so however, you want to go about it is totally up to you. The goal is to be okay with being single on the (alleged) most romantic day of the year. And if nothing else you do helps you forget about your lack of a bae, just remember that Valentine's Day is just one day, and there will be plenty of other romantic days in your future that will most likely have nothing to do with Valentine's Day anyway.

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7 Lifestyle Changes That Happen When Your College Roommate Gets A Boyfriend

Skills acquired: third wheeling, photography.


Ladies and gentlemen, we are officially in cuffing season. These are some of the observations I made as my roommate got a boyfriend.

1.You become a third wheeler

Their plans are your plans.

2. You are the couple’s personal photographer

"Can you take our picture" is one of your new nicknames.

3. You play the game, “Who Has Seen My Roommate?”

Sometimes you go days without seeing either of them.

4. You learn when to stay a few paces back and let them have their own space

This skill might take some time to develop.

5. You learn how cringey your roommate can be when it comes to her boyfriend

You love her but also LOL.

6. You get to hear all the details (because accountability is important!!)

Living vicariously is all that you have most nights.

7. You give them your full support, unless she get hurts (then, boy bye)

At the end of the day, as long as she's happy, you're happy.

If your roommate gets a boyfriend, learn what it takes to be a good third wheeler, and get a phone with good camera quality. Good luck to all the roommates who have roommates with boyfriends!

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7 Philosophical Ways In Which Winnie The Pooh Understands Food

Short easy words like "what about lunch?"


Despite being a "Bear of Little Brain," Pooh really gets food. He honestly and wholeheartedly does. His philosophy behind food shines through the entire Hundred Acre Wood.

Here are 7 quotes I have found that prove this "Silly Ol' bear" may not be quite as silly when it comes to food.

1. A highlight of the day is food.

"It is more fun to talk with someone who doesn't use long, difficult words but rather short, easy words like 'What about lunch?"

Pooh doesn't cut any corners with his simple love of food. To him, the highlight of a day is when he eats, what he eats, and with whom he eats it. Food is easily accessible to many of us living in the Western world, and viewing food as a source of joy gives us at the barest minimum several moments of happiness every day.

2. Food brings motivation and joy.

Routines have a comfort and an excitement in their own selves—food can be a consistent bright spot in your day. Having a routine or something you look forward to with your eating habits can make even the most stressful days positive. For Pooh it's honey. For some, it might be a piece of chocolate, or something green, or always eating breakfast. For me, it's a cup of tea.

3. Food eases loneliness.

Friends are important. And food is important. And the two can physiologically be correlated. Studies show that if a person is lonely, holding a hot cup of tea can make them feel less alone.

There will always be times in our life that we are alone, even just physically, even just for a night. Something to smile about can make the difference between being alone, and being lonely—and comfort food is comforting for a reason. When you're feeling a bit eleven o'clock ish, a bit of honey can be just the thing.

4. Food bonds people.  

"What I like best in the whole world is Me and Piglet going to see You, and You saying 'What about a little something?' and Me saying, 'Well, I shouldn't mind a little something, should you, Piglet,' and it being a hummy sort of day outside, and birds singing."

Food is embedded in our lives every day. Our eating patterns form in relation to other people and is integrally linked to social groups. Sharing food with other people is one of our oldest forms of connecting with other people and creates an instant, natural bond.

5. Food has its own spiritual power.

Milne's cognizance of the spiritual nuances behind food is easily seen in this exchange between Piglet and Pooh. This moment, so simple, speaks volumes. Piglet recognizes that food brings comfort to a distressed emotional state, and food offers support to help Pooh find himself again.

Food (or its routines, or its comfort) can help bring us to a balanced, centered, more spiritual state. Also who hasn't been hangry? It's very difficult to be zen when you're hangry.

6. Food feeds the imagination.

The internationally famous chef Anthony Bourdain viewed food as a powerful storytelling tool. Some native American cultures believe food tells you where you've come from and where you're going. It can empower you to reassert control over your own self and your own life; it reunites you with your spiritual or imaginative self. ("For Bourdain," 2018).

Milne here captures the je ne sais quoi behind food—where food has not only a physiological and emotional influence, it also has an imaginative influence as well.

7. Food exists to nourish and fill us.

We need to eat to survive, and it doesn't take a Bear of Little Brain to tell us how wonderful it is that something we need is also something we find so much delight and joy in. Pooh got how beautiful it is to enjoy a good meal--and thankfully, with a yummy snack or a home-cooked meal or a trip out to eat, you can too.

8. Bees only exist for one reason. 

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