Why 'Ugly' Girls Have Confidence And The 'Pretty' Girls Don’t

Why 'Ugly' Girls Have Confidence And The 'Pretty' Girls Don’t

Trying to answer life's biggest questions.

Memes and gifs aren’t to be taken too seriously, but sometimes it becomes personal simply due to life experiences in relation to it. In a world where looks are extremely important (whether we like to admit it or not), a lot of memes do focus on the physical. One of the questions asked is “Why do the ugly girls have all the confidence and the pretty girls don’t?” When I first read it, all I thought was “they have confidence because that is all they have.” The world is a cruel place and it is much worse if one isn’t so “physically appealing,” so if an “ugly” girl has confidence, then she has life. The bigger question in my opinion is so what if an “ugly” girl has confidence, and who said the pretty girls didn’t.

When did a woman’s confidence equal to arrogance and what is so awful about someone feeling good about themselves regardless of the way they were made? It seems as if the quote is misogynistic because no one would ever ask a man why is he confident when he is so “ugly.” In addition, why is it a concern to people that an “ugly” girl could have confidence? Yes, it is a joke, but every “good” joke is taken from reality or one’s perception of it.

Even then, when a "pretty" girl is confident are people satisfied? When a woman know who she is and is confident, wouldn’t she be deemed a bitch? Wouldn’t she be “playing hard to get” and way too high-maintenance? When analyzed it seems to be more of a woman problem than an “ugly” woman issue. Why is everything a woman does have to pertain to her looks? I know, men get judged too, and I’ll cover that another time, but why can’t a woman just be?

As a woman, I have witnessed that women’s looks are always mentioned with their character for some reason and are stereotyped because of their looks. A woman cannot be smart and pretty, and if she is, she is like a Godsend as if women like her don't already exist. A woman can’t be ugly and confident; if she is, she is feeling herself too much and needs to “humble” herself.

Before one asks “why ugly girls have all the confidence and pretty girls don’t,” they should ask themselves why they care if someone finds themselves worthwhile. Isn’t the world harsh enough and would it hurt to have a backbone in an environment where people from time to time try to break each other down? Also why does it matter if she is “ugly” or “pretty,” as if that determines the identity they feel matches them most? Why is it a big deal whether a female is ugly or pretty? These are questions I feel to ask simply because people are more than their faces. The face is just the physical identity of the soul. If one is bothered by the soul not correlating with what the face is believed to represent, the question is not “why the ugly girls are confident.” It becomes: “Why is it not okay in society for someone to know their worth simply because they look a certain way?”

Readers, please feel free to comment on this because I would love to hear your opinions not only on this article, but the question it is asking.

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I'm A Democrat, and I Hear Too Little From Republicans

Since starting college in September, I have not come across a single vocal Republican.

I go to a liberal arts college. The definition of a liberal arts college according to Wikipedia is a college that “aims to impart a broad general knowledge and develop general intellectual capacities.” When I read broad general knowledge, I believe this is talking about having a wide range of topics covered and viewpoints discussed. I have noticed that liberal colleges also focus on having diversity, whether that be in races, sexualities, genders, cultures, or opinions. That is all well and good in theory, but often it does not play out.

One specific voice that I barely ever hear from on my campus is Republicans. Obviously, if you’ve ever read an article of mine, you may have noticed that I am quite liberal. Initially, I loved the fact that everyone around me had the same viewpoints I had and thought the same way about everything. However, recently we had ROTC members visit one of my classes, and they talked about how the military can bring in a voice that is different from most of the other voices in the class. I am definitely not pro-war (and apparently neither are most soldiers, which was new to me), and was annoyed at first that they were even visiting (not that I don’t respect soldiers, because I do). However, while they were talking, I realized that having various voices in class and around campus is incredibly important for discussions.

Since starting college in September, I have not come across a single vocal Republican. I have never had my ideals about the world challenged or questioned. Growing up in an environment like that can actually become toxic. Without opposing opinions conflicting with yours, it never allows anyone to reach further into why they believe what they do. I never thoroughly think about why I am totally against X or totally for Y, and I think that having knowledge about other opinions is critical in understanding your own. Knowing all sides of an argument helps you find the opinion/argument that most aligns with your ideals. Having other voices could even educate you on a topic you thought you were super knowledgeable about, but you actually were fed the wrong information sometime in your life and you never thought to correct it or fact check.

Having ROTC members come to our class and speak to us about their various beliefs made me realize that I had always had this thing against anyone in uniform, but really I just don’t like the act of war. I realized that I still respect and appreciate the soldiers, and the people who fight for this country may even have some of the same views that I do.

Overall, although I may disagree with one political view or another, it is still important to understand and be knowledgeable about all views on a subject to better my own arguments and beliefs! This is definitely something I am going to work on from now on, and hopefully I will come across more diverse viewpoints as I go through college.

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America's Downward Spiral

Why we're suffering from the transgressions by all sides of the political spectrum.

Ever since I was a little boy, just playing with all my toy cars and drawing everything I could think of, I thought the United States of America was the best country on the globe to live in. I mean, we have everything from beautiful coastlines to vast mountains to picturesque meadows, so all the machinations within the nation should be equally hunky-dory, right? Wrong! And as a quick heads-up, if you're offended or triggered by my opinion, I understand and respect that because these are just my feelings on why America's where it is at this point in time.

Since Trump got elected to office back in November 2016, the state of affairs within the government has gone from one that our Founding Fathers are proud to a non-stop terrible episode of the Apprentice. While Paul Ryan did a good thing by leaving, his overall legacy will be a generally negative one, as far as America's concerned. for the Republicans. To make matters worse, James Comey, the same person who has been castigating Trump for being "mentally unfit", is directly responsible for him getting into the White House in the first place! If that's some screwed-up irony, then I don't know what's going on over in our nation's capital.

Truthfully, the way America's been going down the drain isn't solely the fault of Comey or Trump. As far as I'm concerned, I blame it on every side of the political spectrum. And no, I don't care who began what that one time or whatever, the bottom line is, America would have a much better reputation in the world if all of us didn't keep shooting ourselves in the foot.

I'm not shocked by the fact that everyone in politics will be prone to sniping each others' agendas, while unintentionally highlighting their flaws. When you add blind loyalty to the mix, it can turn solving problems within American society into a nightmare.

For the past several decades, the Republicans have tried to do anything possible regardless of American society's best interests, not helped by the fact that their actions are usually anchored by that "old white boys' club" mentality. Don't get me started on how they constantly say they're a champion for the working class, but in reality, they only line their pockets for a lot of stuff they don't even need to survive! The worst of it all is that they lied to us about the cause of a minimum of two wars, and for what? Total control on overseas countries they barely even studied in school and college!

While Democrats are a major influence on much of the progress America makes, they are NOT prone to any slip-ups that the people ended up suffering from. Much of the politicians on this side are campaigning with good intentions, but they're not striking with the intended tone. I agree that policy should come before personal agenda, something that the Blue side has been guilty of in recent years. In fact, all the identity politics, safe space and free speech conflicts on college campuses are mostly their faults, and taking those same concepts into the real world of politics only made it worse for me to support them more.

Independents don't play as much of a role in all this, but their biggest sin is not intervening to stop issues from getting as big as they are! Now, while I was a bit harsh in airing out my grievances regarding the drama surrounding society and politics, I am upset by the fact that we citizens are constantly suffering the consequences of political shenanigans.

As far as us, if we let this continue, the experts say that America will be in shambles by 2050; or worse, we could fall even harder than the Roman Empire. I know we don't deserve this happening to any of us, so, stop the downward spiral. Make a change.

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