Want to know the truth about heartbreak?
We all feel it. Each and every person you see on a daily basis has felt heartbreak. Whether it is because they had to put their dog down… lost a loved one… didn’t get the job they’ve been dreaming of… or just gave all of their energy to a guy who didn’t deserve it. I think what makes heartbreak so horrible is that there is never an explanation. You can try and try to understand what went wrong, but the end all be all, is that we have to learn to accept our hearts being broken from time to time.
Plenty of people would disagree with that statement that I just made. We shouldn't half to bow down to someone or something for breaking your heart, but the truth is in order for us to know something is real and something is meant to be we have to go through that heartbreak.
When I was in kindergarten there was a boy named Sebastian… and I thought he was the one for me. And here I am at twenty-one with plenty of guys in between Sebastian, and now that I have said I thought they were the one. The truth is that something better always lies ahead. When I was eight years old, I told my mother that I wanted to be a “Singing Surgeon.” And here I am, three years into my college career having changed my major from Nursing to Music Business, because the medical field just was not for me. These are things that have broken my heart. I have not yet found the guy I’m going to spend forever with and the career that I thought was meant for me turned out to be one that my brain is incapable of comprehending. And I know that in a moment of heartbreak you can't bring yourself to believe that it's real, that it is actually breaking… but it is and it has and it will again.
The two month relationship that didn't work out and the four year relationship that didn't work out… they are the same. Maybe the memories are not the same or the way they ended is not the same but, both relationships didn't work out because something was wrong. The job that you wanted but didn’t get, that is heartbreak. Something was wrong… whether you didn’t fit the company or you did not have the proper credentials. Something was wrong.
But, do you know what’s really funny about heartbreak? Some people try to make it a beautiful thing. NO. It is not beautiful. There is nothing beautiful about sitting on your bathroom floor full of tears with a half empty bottle of wine trying to figure out why you weren’t good enough.
What I’m here to tell you is that heartbreak is normal. Heartbreak is real, and it is okay to be heartbroken. I’m not going to say that time heals all wounds because I do not believe that to be true. But I will say that I am a firm believer in saying that there are better things to come. So, cry it all out, put your big girl pants on, color a pretty picture, and remember you are not alone.