Heartbreak is never easy. Ever.

We all hear about it or have gone through it ourselves. It’s all hard, but there’s something different about it when you really just didn’t see it coming. One minute everything is fine, and then the next day your heart is in a million pieces on the floor and the one person who promised they would never hurt you is the one who threw your heart down and watched it shatter.

When it gets to that point—I know for me anyway—we want to be angry, but for some reason just can’t be. I replay in my mind everything that person promised me and everything we had planned, and all it does is make me feel like it was a lie. I tell myself that they probably meant those things when they said them, that these things just happen, and it happens for a reason, but you know what? A lot of the time that just doesn’t help heal a broken heart. It helps your mind comprehend the situation, but the heart and the mind are two very different monsters.

You can tell yourself that it’s their loss and that you are better off without them, but no matter how true those statements might be, heartache just sucks. That’s the bottom line. It sucks, and it’s hard to get past it. It’s even harder when you watched the person you love slowly change over time. You have this picture of them in your mind from when you were most happy, and that’s what you try to hold onto. You fight like hell to hold onto that time and try to tell yourself that things will get better. You tell yourself that it’s just a rough patch, but unfortunately you can’t make someone want you back. You can’t make them fight for your relationship. You just can’t, and it hurts.

You are breaking your fingers trying to hold the relationship together, and it hurts to watch it fall apart. You think that letting go of it means you are letting go of a piece of yourself. You think that, but you aren’t. Most of the time, you holding onto that relationship is what has been tearing parts of you away, piece by piece.

Sometimes you just have to let go. It doesn’t mean that you gave up. It just means that you realized that it takes two people fighting for it. It means that you put your well-being first and did what you had to do.

You see, though, that’s the problem. You do what is best for you, but still you feel like the bad guy because you think you're the one who let go. That’s what makes heartbreak so hard. We always blame ourselves, and we need to stop. We need to stop feeling guilty for things that were beyond our control.

One person can’t hold a relationship together. It’s a two-way street, and we need to realize that the person that continuously let you hold onto false hope is really the one who let go. They let it fall apart. They let you fall down.

So pick up those pieces of your heart and put them back together yourself. It’s time you started depending on yourself for your happiness.