If I had a dollar for every time someone told me guys and girls can't just be friends, I'd be about $1,000 richer. I just don't understand the logic behind it. They say at least one of you has feelings towards the other or one of you is going to be disappointed, but that doesn't always have to be the case.
When it comes to my true girl friends, I could probably count them on one hand but when it comes to the guys I'd consider my true friends I need hands and feet. I get along with them better, they're interested in what I'm interested in, and it just works.
Here's the thing, friendship is about having a good time and having someone to relate to and talk to. For some people, like myself, being friends with the opposite sex is just natural and comfortable.
I've had the same guy best friend for almost all of high school and college. He's someone I can text during the basketball game and talk about good and bad strategies, fouls, players, anything sports related. But I can also call him crying at extremely late hours asking for advice or reassurance.
When people tell me that one of us has got to have feelings towards the other I usually just shake my head. Why? That friendship would function the same exact way if he was a girl. There really is no difference except that my girl friends and I wouldn't be talking about sports, it'd be some other girly topic.
I guess I can see where people would argue that feelings are always going to come into place because yes, I've had those times. But out of all the guy friends I've had and still have it's only become a problem once. Typically, it won't crash and burn unless you let it. You're in control of your friendship -- if you're attracted to one of your friends, it's only going to affect the friendship if you let it.
The truth about guys and girls is that they can indeed be friends. Friendships aren't supposed to be about which sex people are. Friendships are supposed to be about the people that are there for you through thick and thin. They're supposed to be about the people you can laugh and cry with. The people you can relate to and talk to. For some, that might be found more in the opposite sex rather than the same -- and that shouldn't be a problem with anyone.
