True Friends Are Worth Your Time

True Friends Are Worth Your Time

You were placed in that person’s life for a reason. Many times, that reason isn't to fulfill your own happiness -- but to help them find theirs.

Without friends, life would be black and white.

That’s because friends light up dull places,

They laugh with you, and sometimes at you, but they help you laugh at yourself when you can’t,

They know all your favorite foods,

They’re the biggest fans of your life.

At the end of the day, friends are the people who sometimes know you better than you know yourself.

Having a friend there for you sharpens who you are as a person and shows you what true love is.

It is the relationship that never ends, because even though time and space can separate friends physically, true friends are with you in spirit forever.

With that being said, I want to remind you that friendships are important.

However, it’s easy to be around your best friends, but because of that, it’s just as easy to take them for granted. We get so comfortable around people that we love that we forget to take time to appreciate them. We forget to celebrate the grand sum of all the little things they have done for us. Worst of all, they may be going through a rough season in their lives, and because of how busy we are, we overlook their problems. Or, we recognize their pain, but we don’t want to spend that much of our time or effort to walk through their trials with them.

“They’ll get over it, they’ll move on. Besides, they know I’m always going to be there for them, so if they ever need me, they know how to reach me.”

Of course we want them to be happy again, but sometimes, we don’t really want to go out of our way to play an active role in helping them heal emotionally.

I’m not saying that you can be there to help solve all of their problems, but I’m saying that you were placed in that person’s life for a reason, and many times, that reason is to not to fulfill your own happiness, but to help them find theirs.

And in helping them find theirs, you will find yours too.

As I write this, I’m reminded of the famous story in the Bible about a paralyzed man who had four friends that heard there was a man named Jesus who could heal their friend. These four friends didn’t just tell their paralyzed friend, “Hey, there’s a man named Jesus who goes around healing people! Hopefully one day, Jesus will walk by and heal you.”

These four friends didn’t pick up their paralyzed friend on a stretcher, carry him through the crowds surrounding Jesus, and then just give up because there was no way to Jesus, saying, “We'll just leave you on the stretcher here, and hopefully when the crowds eventually leave, Jesus will walk past you, notice you, and then heal you.”

No, these four friends wanted their paralyzed friend to be healed and happy again, and they were willing to do whatever it took to make that happen. In order to work their way through the crowd, they tore a huge hole in the roof of the house that Jesus was in, lowered their friend down before Jesus, and watched their friend jump up to his feet once Jesus had healed him.

I’m sure all four of these friends had lives and were busy; I highly doubt that they were sitting idly by, bored stiff, when they decided to help out their paralyzed friend. They took the time to all get together, locate Jesus, planned out how they were going to get their friend to Him, and then finally, put in the hard, manual labor of getting their friend through a roof.

Are you willing to do that for some of your friends who are down and out? Maybe they aren’t physically paralyzed, but maybe they’re paralyzed by fear, by their insecurities, or by depression.

Don’t become so consumed with your own life that you forget about the friend sitting next to you who is going through some tough issues. And don’t wait for them to approach you about their problems, because sometimes, they don’t know how to verbalize their emotions to you. As soon as you recognize it, assure them of your love for them, and prove that love with your actions.

Small sacrifices of your time and care will go such a long, long way, and in the end you’ll establish true friendships that will resonate for a lifetime.

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​An Open Letter To The People Who Don’t Tip Their Servers

This one's for you.

Dear Person Who Has No Idea How Much The 0 In The “Tip:" Line Matters,

I want to by asking you a simple question: Why?

Is it because you can't afford it? Is it because you are blind to the fact that the tip you leave is how the waiter/waitress serving you is making their living? Is it because you're just lazy and you “don't feel like it"?

Is it because you think that, while taking care of not only your table but at least three to five others, they took too long bringing you that side of ranch dressing? Or is it just because you're unaware that as a server these people make $2.85 an hour plus TIPS?

The average waiter/waitress is only supposed to be paid $2.13 an hour plus tips according to the U.S. Department of Labor.

That then leaves the waiter/waitress with a paycheck with the numbers **$0.00** and the words “Not a real paycheck." stamped on it. Therefore these men and women completely rely on the tips they make during the week to pay their bills.

So, with that being said, I have a few words for those of you who are ignorant enough to leave without leaving a few dollars in the “tip:" line.

Imagine if you go to work, the night starts off slow, then almost like a bomb went off the entire workplace is chaotic and you can't seem to find a minute to stop and breathe, let alone think about what to do next.

Imagine that you are helping a total of six different groups of people at one time, with each group containing two to 10 people.

Imagine that you are working your ass off to make sure that these customers have the best experience possible. Then you cash them out, you hand them a pen and a receipt, say “Thank you so much! It was a pleasure serving you, have a great day!"

Imagine you walk away to attempt to start one of the 17 other things you need to complete, watch as the group you just thanked leaves, and maybe even wave goodbye.

Imagine you are cleaning up the mess that they have so kindly left behind, you look down at the receipt and realize there's a sad face on the tip line of a $24.83 bill.

Imagine how devastated you feel knowing that you helped these people as much as you could just to have them throw water on the fire you need to complete the night.

Now, realize that whenever you decide not to tip your waitress, this is nine out of 10 times what they go through. I cannot stress enough how important it is for people to realize that this is someone's profession — whether they are a college student, a single mother working their second job of the day, a new dad who needs to pay off the loan he needed to take out to get a safer car for his child, your friend, your mom, your dad, your sister, your brother, you.

If you cannot afford to tip, do not come out to eat. If you cannot afford the three alcoholic drinks you gulped down, plus your food and a tip do not come out to eat.

If you cannot afford the $10 wings that become half-off on Tuesdays plus that water you asked for, do not come out to eat.

If you cannot see that the person in front of you is working their best to accommodate you, while trying to do the same for the other five tables around you, do not come out to eat. If you cannot realize that the man or woman in front of you is a real person, with their own personal lives and problems and that maybe these problems have led them to be the reason they are standing in front of you, then do not come out to eat.

As a server myself, it kills me to see the people around me being deprived of the money that they were supposed to earn. It kills me to see the three dollars you left on a $40 bill. It kills me that you cannot stand to put yourself in our shoes — as if you're better than us. I wonder if you realize that you single-handedly ruined part of our nights.

I wonder if maybe one day you will be in our shoes, and I hope to God no one treats you how you have treated us. But if they do, then maybe you'll realize how we felt when you left no tip after we gave you our time.

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7 Bible Verses For The Insanely Stressed Out College Student

Bible verses to bring peace of mind as finals rapidly approach.


As finals quickly approach and the academic year begins to wind down, it's easy to find yourself becoming bogged down with stress. Despite your religious background, these verses can provide solace and peace to those most in need of it during this stressful time of year.

1. Matthew 6:34

"Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own."

2. Psalm 34:19

"The righteous person may have many troubles, but the Lord delivers him from all."

3. John 16:33

"I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world."

4. Psalm 42:5a

"Why, my soul, are you downcast? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God."

5. Philippians 4:13

"I can do all things through him who gives me strength."

6. John 14:27

"Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid."

7. Philippians 4:6-7

"Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And in the peace of God, which transcends all understand, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."

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