The extroverted introvert is known by many names. Some call it an "outgoing introvert" or "social" introvert. Others argue that this is ambiversion.
It almost seems like they have the best of both worlds. They can be fun and outgoing when they want to be or just enjoy a night in doing whatever it is that they want. They can pass for full-on extroverts when they want to, but can also suddenly and immediately need to lounge on the couch and watch Netflix when they have hit the socializing limit, which is a distinctly introverted trait.
If you are friends with (or know) this type of person, here are a few things that you should know about them.
1. They love spending time with people, but will need to plan it carefully
Extroverted introverts love socializing and are actually good at making new friends, contrary to popular belief. But, they have to be very aware of how often they're out and about. Otherwise, they could end up hitting a wall.
2. They don't like unnecessary small talk
It just annoys them, and if they are going to spend their time talking to someone, they would rather it be meaningful. However, they can do it, they might just find it a little less than sincere.
3. Their socialization abilities often have a time limit, which can vary from situation to situation
If its a place where they know at least one person (or a few), then they are more likely to spend a longer amount of time there, compared to a place that they don't know anyone.
4. Depending on what the situation in number 3 is, it might take them longer to bounce back
Not every situation is the same, which means the amount of "recovery" time is different.
5. They might leave an event without saying goodbye
Or, even let someone else do it for them. It's not personal, they have just may not want to get into a conversation about why.
6. Their energy level is closely tied to their environment
The ambiance of a place can either energize or drain them, depending on if it fits what they like to be surrounded by or not.
7. Just because they gave a speech or hosted an event doesn't mean they suddenly love crowds
Yes, they might have given a speech or hosted an event or even just went to that party, but I can almost guarantee that afterwords, they are curled up in comfy clothes on their bed (or couch) with some hot chocolate (or tea) and their laptop watching a movie.
8. They don't really like talking to many people at once
Just one or two is fine, and if possible, not for very long. Its just how they are.
9. If they can, they would rather sit alone on a plane
This way, there is no one to ask them questions that they would rather not answer.
10. They can be charming and deeply introspective/reflective
They make small talk when it's expected of them because they know it can lead to a deeper, more authentic conversation. When out with friends, they make sure everyone's having a good time. However, most people don't realize how "in their heads" they really are.
11. They are selectively social
They don't really like to have many friends because for them, trying to keep up with all of them can be draining. Instead, they like to have a few close friends that they can develop a strong relationship with.
