Guys, These 7 Things Do Not Impress Women

Guys, These 7 Things Do Not Impress Women

The best way to a girls heart is to be honest and real, so stop trying so hard to be someone you're not.


Ladies, we can recall at least once in our lives when a boy was trying too hard to impress us.

The funny thing is, most things a boy considers impressive doesn't really phase us. Not saying everything they think is impressive isn't, just most times it's not what we care most about when first getting to know a guy.

Guys, I am going to tell you the things most women don't want to hear about (at least constantly) when you're trying to impress her. Now, this doesn't apply for all women, but I think it's safe to say it applies to most.

What I can say is be real. Girls are usually smart enough to tell when you're lying about something so the best way to a girls heart is to be real and honest. We like to hear you have ambition and that you have a softer side to you. If you're going on a first date or just talking to a girl you like and want to impress her, try to avoid these topics for the best results.

1. How much alcohol you can handle

I can honestly say, most guys I have talked to find this "talent" of theirs to be their most impressive.

Do not tell a girl you can chug 20 beers and do 15 shots and not have a hangover. That may impress your frat bros and guy friends, but most girls will think you're a borderline alcoholic.

Part of the bragging about alcohol tolerance can be blamed on the stigma behind drinking for young people but think about it. No girl has on her checklist of an ideal boyfriend "must be able to chug alcohol like a pro" on their list. Drinking is fun but there is a line between acceptable and excessive drinking.

Also, no drunk story is ever as impressive as you think it is. Sure it can be funny but it's usually more embarrassing than it is impressive.

2. How many reps you can do in the gym

Congratulations on being able to deadlift 200 lbs but unless your girlfriend has specifically mentioned she is into gym stats, she probably doesn't care about how much you can lift or how many reps of a certain amount of weight you can do.

Also, if you're really into the gym she can probably tell by how ripped you are, so I don't think it's necessary to state over and over that you were at the gym or that you did these workouts at the gym today.

3. Faking sports knowledge

As a girl who grew up with a brother and having mainly guy friends, I can tell when a guy knows his sports stats and when he doesn't. You don't have to like sports because you're a guy. In fact, it makes you look kind of stupid when you don't know what you're talking about.

Most girls would rather you talk about something you do know than make something up on the fly. Don't talk about the Michigan State football game and how you feel Rocky Lombardi did during the 4th quarter unless you actually watched the game!

4. Mansplaining topics

Nothing is a bigger flag for me when talking to a guy than when he feels the need to "mansplain" something to me.

Women are usually good at asking you to explain a point further if they are lost, but unless they specifically ask you what you're talking about you don't need to break it down like you're talking to a 4th grader.

If you're an engineer and she's a teacher she may need you to use more common words to describe your field than "Adenosine triphosphate" or "Paramagnetism" as those words would confuse anyone who isn't an engineer regardless of gender.

We want to hear what you're passionate about but please don't speak in a derogatory way if we do ask for further clarification.

5. How many girls you've hooked up with

Again, another topic that may impress your bros but is guaranteed to make most girls cringe.

That's in the past and if you're on a date with a new girl why would you bring up the past? No one likes hearing about how many people the other has hooked up with. In fact, when this topic is discussed I can bet the other is thinking "have they been tested recently?"

If you want the girl to keep talking to you, I suggest you skip this topic until you guys are official.

6. Your exes

No one, and I mean no one, likes to hear about their new person of interests ex or multiple exes.

This just sends thoughts running like "why is he still into her?" "does he still talk to her?" or "was she prettier than me?"

These aren't good thoughts to put into a girls head as she can make them a bigger deal than they really are. Again, another topic for another day when you guys make it official. Also with this topic, don't brag about how you dumped her. That just comes off as heartless rather than you were too good for her or outgrew the relationship because she was "crazy."

7. How you are in a frat

Bravo. If being in a frat is the most exciting thing in your life and you mention it every other word, her eyes may glass over.

That's great you're in a frat but I bet she doesn't want to hear about all the wild parties your frat throws or how many citations it has received from the university for "partying too hard."

Maybe talk about your frats philanthropic efforts instead of the wild alcohol-fueled parties.

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To The Toxic Relationship I Was Afraid To Let Go Of

To my younger self... I'm sorry.

As time goes on the question that echoes in my mind is: "why?" Why did I let someone who was so undeserving have my love, time, and affection?

We all like to think that we have what it takes to mend the damage someone carries, but the fact of the matter is we don't. Hurt people, hurt people – and it was only when I tried to heal a bruised heart mine became the one in trouble. When you're young, vulnerable and under someone's spell you don't realize that you shouldn't have to rip yourself apart to keep someone else whole. I was scared of losing someone I didn't really have and I thought it was better to have someone halfway than not at all.

The irony of it all is that I grew up in a healthy environment. I have two parents who love my sister, each other, and myself unconditionally. They practice the same values they preach, some of which being loyalty, forgiveness, and how important it is to love each other despite the flaws that consume us. Those values were engraved so deep in my heart and soul I couldn't recognize when enough was enough or when to pull back and that just because I displayed these traits didn't mean they would be reciprocated. It took me a while to figure out I had to draw the line of determination from desperation.

It was a bittersweet realization when I looked up from my treacherous journey only to see it led me to a dead end, but I have never felt so liberated.

There's no denying I came out of the storm a different person and most definitely with a different heart. There were so many important lessons learned, both good and bad but the one thing that's for certain is it took me getting lost to find myself. You don't fully understand what you deserve until you experience something you don't. I learned the importance of self-worth and how crucial it is to not beat yourself up over the "coulda, shoulda, woulda's." I learned that in order to love someone, you have to start with yourself.

I know I'm not the only one who experienced this and I know I'm not the only one who wanted to figure it out on my own terms, but what I do know is that no one deserves it. I'm in my twenties now and still unsure of the actual meaning of love, but I know with absolute certainty that what I felt then was not it. I have so much growing, learning, and experiencing to do – and I fully intend on taking only those who deserve to be with me on my journey. No more and no less.

Everyone's story is different but the one thing they have in common is that we get to decide whom we share our stories with and how they make us feel. You never know which page your story will end with, so make sure it would be one you would be happy with. I urge every single one of you to rid yourself of people who do more harm than good. Life isn't forever.

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12 You Should Know About Your Significant Other After You've Been Dating 12 Months Or More

You have multiple food orders memorized.


Dating someone for a year+ means that you are bound to know things you might not have known in the early months of the relationship. You also might act differently than you did at the beginning of the relationship.

Here are 12 things you know when you've been dating for over a year.

1. Clothing size, shoe size

This one you can probably be able to figure out early in the relationship. But, you start to keep in the back of your mind and think of that person when you see clothes or a pair of shoes they might like.

2. You can guess what they are going to text back

Especially if it is just a casual conversation about nothing in particular. You know their go-to responses.

3. You have multiple food orders memorized

Their food orders, of course.

4. You have that one TV show you can put on and neither of you will complain

And that is "The Office."

5. You don't get jealous

How could you have lasted in a relationship for over a year and not have any trust?

6. You know likes and dislikes

And can assume if they are going to like or dislike something.

7. You got a LONG Snapstreak

474 day streak over here.

8. Their successes make you just as happy as it makes them

Seeing your significant other do well and accomplish something great is just as rewarding as if you had done the same.

9. Your friends are his friends and his friends are your friends

And you can all hang out together.

10. You have your favorite restaurants

That we always end up going to.

11. You've met everyone in the family and extended family

And you feel like part of the family.

12. You know extremely personal things about each other

That you would not necessarily share with the public.

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