To the People Who Believe They Need to Fix Everything,
You know who you are, and you can probably name five people just like you. You can't help it, you simply cannot let things go. Let's be honest, it really sucks to be the person determined to help fix everyone and everything. In fact, it blows. Your friends are fighting, so you run straight to the middle of it. You try to fix your significant other and you try to fix your relationships. You try to resolve all of your family's issues. Your friend is struggling with mental illness, you bend over backwards to help them. You're always the person helping the random drunk girl who's crying in the bathroom. You break a glass jar, you sit there for hours trying to glue it together. Then you end up crying because you realize it isn't even going to work after accidentally gluing your fingers together.
My skin will literally feel like it's crawling when I can tell something is wrong and don't know how to fix it. It literally hurts my soul. I send myself into panics and when I can't figure out how to solve a problem, I start crying because I'm frustrated. Math is the worst, we are not friends. I don't do confrontation and I hate arguments more than anything. If you're like me, you know exactly what I am saying.
I feel as though you are raised thinking that anything broken can be fixed. My father is a mechanic and my mother is a nurse. I literally was raised by people who make a living, you guessed it, fixing things and fixing people. If you're a person set on making everything work again after it's broken, you likely watched your mentors fix things all the time. We watch people in our lives help others while we are young then BAM, you're running around lost and insecure trying to help the world be a little brighter.
There is nothing wrong with trying to help people. There is nothing wrong with trying to fix everything. I know you're exhausted all the time. I know you're overwhelmed. You are frustrated that nothing seems to be going right, but it is. Things are going well, you just feel the need to make everything extraordinary. Wondering why you are this way is a waste of time because, quite frankly, you are magnificent.
You are a special breed of human. You are so compassionate it hurts, and you can't do things half-way. You care more about others than you do yourself and you'll do anything in your power to make someone happy. But sometimes, you'll need to be fixed too.
Don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it. When you are broken, ask for assistance and don't worry about being a burden. Admitting that you can't do something alone makes you brave. We can try to fix everything but sometimes helping yourself is the most difficult and frustrating experience.
So here's to you, the strongest kind of people I know. You are wonderful, you are appreciated and you are not alone.
Keep your head up,
Someone who tries to fix everything
