To the "loud" friend,
I know that you put on the facade of not caring about what others say about you, but if we were being honest here, you do care. You actually care a lot. When you hear the whispers of everyone talking about you and calling you the "loud" one, you act like it is no big deal, because, well, you are loud.
I don't mean "loud" like you shout every time you talk, I mean "loud" as in you are bold, you stand out and you stand up for what you believe in. You are the type of person to do the right thing or do what you want, without caring what everyone else says about it.
Like I said earlier, you may pretend that you do not care about what anyone thinks but you do. You want people to like you. You want to be able to change yourself to make more friends or to fit in with the "popular" crowd. You try to change, but it never seems to work. You always go back to who you are, which is loud.
You should know that there is nothing wrong with being loud.
I am loud, I talk a lot, and I know I annoy everyone else around me. Knowing this, I also know I will never change for anyone. I am who I am. It does suck when someone tells me to stop talking because I talk too much, but I love who I am and you should love who you are.
I know it can get tough, especially when you want to be part of the crowd. You want to be the person that they want to hang out with. You want to be wanted and you want to be liked. You find yourself in this cycle of not caring about what they think, to wanting to be friends with them, to caring what they think, to getting upset because you are not who they want and right back to not caring what they think. This cycle is so destructive; it can tear you down.
What you need to understand is that you are amazing and you do not need to change who you are to "fit in." Being different and loud is better than following the crowd. You will find real friends if you be yourself and those friends will love you for who you are. Every friend group needs a loud friend, sometimes they even need two.
Being loud is not a bad thing.
Stop letting other people put you down for who you are.
Embrace your loudness.
Embrace your boldness.
Embrace who you are and use it to your advantage in life. Be the loud friend, be the one who does the right thing, be the one who does not apologize for who you are. Being loud is a part of who you are, it is not a choice you make.
