To My College Friends I Didn't See Coming

To My College Friends I Didn't See Coming

But I'm so glad we crossed paths.

When I was in elementary school, I remember having a big circle of friends. As I made my way to middle school my friend group shrunk, but not by much. And then when high school came I could count on one hand the people that I considered close friends or even my best friends. When we’re young, we have a sense of oblivion to the world, and especially to the people around us. We haven’t been around long enough to see that not everyone is as honest and kindhearted and loving as they should be. We grow up and spend some time out in the real world and we see that not everyone is aspiring to be the same thing. People lie and they cheat. They can be greedy or backstabbing. We see that we can’t trust everyone and we see that we can’t count on everyone like we could when we were in elementary school. I wish that we could have that sense of trust and belief in people like we had when we were younger, but we soon realize we can't.

I was scared to go off to college. I went to a small high school and I felt safe in my little bubble of friends and the familiarity of everyone and everything just by walking down the halls. In that moment, I was set. I didn't want anything different, I didn't want to make new friends or spread my wings so they say. But I did. And now I couldn't be more grateful for the people I have met along the way.

Sometimes it can be sad to lose touch with the people that you went through twelve years of school with. But sometimes that’s what happens and in the end, you’ll be glad it worked out that way. The saying “You’ll find out who your true friends are sooner or later...” is something that has rang true in my world. In order to live a happy successful life, we need to surround ourselves with people who will pick us up not put us down. Our college years and the years that follow are some of the most important years of our lives. We’re going to find our career paths, find our special half that we eventually hope to marry and live happily ever after with. We will be faced with challenges and succeed and fail and then succeed again. And the people that we want along on that journey with us are the people that tell us we can do it when we think that we cannot. The people who will make you laugh when you think you don’t have a reason to. The people that will stand by us when they know we were wrong but they're not going to turn their back on us.

I’ve met so many beautiful and smart human beings on my journey through college and I couldn't be more grateful for them. They have lived totally different lifestyles than me and have a different way of looking at the world, but that’s exactly what I needed. We need a variety of people in our lives to help us become better people. To push us, to make us try new things. To face challenges with us and stay up till 2 AM studying for an exam. To drink a whole bottle of wine with and regret it in the morning. And to climb mountains with, literally, if you're into that.

At one point in my life, I didn’t want to take this journey and try new things. I wasn't ready to leave my little security bubble in high school and meet new people. But now, I am so glad that I did. I have accomplished so many things thus far. I have tried new things and met so many great people. One person specifically I consider one of my best friends and I don’t know how I could live my crazy life without her in it.

So I dedicate this article to my college friends that I met at North Country Community College as well as SUNY Potsdam that I didn't see coming. You’ve made my journey so far worthwhile. And what a journey it has been.

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College As Told By Junie B. Jones

A tribute to the beloved author Barbara Parks.

The Junie B. Jones series was a big part of my childhood. They were the first chapter books I ever read. On car trips, my mother would entertain my sister and me by purchasing a new Junie B. Jones book and reading it to us. My favorite part about the books then, and still, are how funny they are. Junie B. takes things very literally, and her (mis)adventures are hilarious. A lot of children's authors tend to write for children and parents in their books to keep the attention of both parties. Barbara Park, the author of the Junie B. Jones series, did just that. This is why many things Junie B. said in Kindergarten could be applied to her experiences in college, as shown here.

When Junie B. introduces herself hundreds of times during orientation week:

“My name is Junie B. Jones. The B stands for Beatrice. Except I don't like Beatrice. I just like B and that's all." (Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus, p. 1)

When she goes to her first college career fair:

"Yeah, only guess what? I never even heard of that dumb word careers before. And so I won't know what the heck we're talking about." (Junie B. Jones and her Big Fat Mouth, p. 2)

When she thinks people in class are gossiping about her:

“They whispered to each other for a real long time. Also, they kept looking at me. And they wouldn't even stop." (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 66)

When someone asks her about the library:

“It's where the books are. And guess what? Books are my very favorite things in the whole world!" (Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus, p. 27)

When she doesn't know what she's eating at the caf:

“I peeked inside the bread. I stared and stared for a real long time. 'Cause I didn't actually recognize the meat, that's why. Finally, I ate it anyway. It was tasty...whatever it was." (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 66)

When she gets bored during class:

“I drew a sausage patty on my arm. Only that wasn't even an assignment." (Junie B. Jones Loves Handsome Warren, p. 18)

When she considers dropping out:

“Maybe someday I will just be the Boss of Cookies instead!" (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 76)

When her friends invite her to the lake for Labor Day:

“GOOD NEWS! I CAN COME TO THE LAKE WITH YOU, I BELIEVE!" (Junie B. Jones Smells Something Fishy, p. 17)

When her professor never enters grades on time:

“I rolled my eyes way up to the sky." (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 38)

When her friends won't stop poking her on Facebook:

“Do not poke me one more time, and I mean it." (Junie B. Jones Smells Something Fishy, p. 7)

When she finds out she got a bad test grade:

“Then my eyes got a little bit wet. I wasn't crying, though." (Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus, p. 17)

When she isn't allowed to have a pet on campus but really wants one:


When she has to walk across campus in the dark:

“There's no such thing as monsters. There's no such thing as monsters." (Junie B. Jones Has a Monster Under Her Bed, p. 12)

When her boyfriend breaks her heart:

“I am a bachelorette. A bachelorette is when your boyfriend named Ricardo dumps you at recess. Only I wasn't actually expecting that terrible trouble." (Junie B. Jones Is (almost) a Flower Girl, p. 1)

When she paints her first canvas:

"And painting is the funnest thing I love!" (Junie B. Jones and her Big Fat Mouth, p. 61)

When her sorority takes stacked pictures:

“The biggie kids stand in the back. And the shortie kids stand in the front. I am a shortie kid. Only that is nothing to be ashamed of." (Junie B. Jones Has a Monster Under Her Bed, p. 7)

When she's had enough of the caf's food:

“Want to bake a lemon pie? A lemon pie would be fun, don't you think?" (Junie B. Jones Has a Monster Under Her Bed p. 34)

When she forgets about an exam:

“Speechless is when your mouth can't speech." (Junie B. Jones Loves Handsome Warren, p. 54)

When she finds out she has enough credits to graduate:

“A DIPLOMA! A DIPLOMA! I WILL LOVE A DIPLOMA!" (Junie B. Jones is a Graduation Girl p. 6)

When she gets home from college:

"IT'S ME! IT'S JUNIE B. JONES! I'M HOME FROM MY SCHOOL!" (Junie B. Jones and some Sneaky Peaky Spying p. 20)

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It Is OK To Have Guy Friends That Are Literally Just Guy Friends

Some of my best friends are guys and sometimes they are better friends than girls are.


Lately, I have come to the realization that some of my guy friends are better then some girls I call my "friends". Ever since middle school, I have always had many guy friends that have always been just guy friends, and nothing more. Some girls had a problem with it back then and they still do now, maybe because they are jealous, or maybe because they feel left out. However, I decided a long time ago to keep those guy friends for reasons like...

1. They Don't Take Things So Seriously

You can always joke around with them, and they will joke around with you right back. You can be as nice as you want or as mean as you want to them, and they will always take it as joke. I think that sometimes girls have a difficult time deciphering between when you are being serious or when you are joking. Most of my guys friends tend to not things too seriously at least 75% of the time.

2. They Are Always Honest

When I need a blatantly honest opinion I always ask my guy friends (and my mom). I do this because guys do not really care about whether or not their response will make you mad. Also, guys do not think about if their answer will benefit them personally or not before they answer.

3. They Genuinely Listen To You

Not all the time. But when I am upset, they are always the ones most concerned. Some of my guy friends take over the "big brother" role when it comes to some situations. My guy friends always listen to my problems or just the same old rants I give all the time because if something is wrong, or something has hurt me, they want to know, in order for them to try and fix it.

I am not trying to say that my girl friends are not my best friends either, and I really do have the best best friend. But sometimes, it just feels good to hangout with my guy friends. Guy friends, that I have never had a romantic relationship or feelings for and they have not had for me. These guys have always been there, and for that I am grateful.

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