To The Best Friend I Lost Too Soon

To The Best Friend I Lost Too Soon

I'll never forgot you or the words you told me.

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Patrick,

It's been a month since you passed and it still doesn't seem real. I constantly wake up expecting a cheesy snapchat or asking me for help on homework or reminding me how important I am to the world. Sometimes I'll go to pull out my phone to message you about things happening at ECU or to ask you how home is, but then I remember.

I don't know what happened that day. No one knows. All we know is that a part of us is missing now. Your picture is watching me as I write this, and I can't help but think you're watching over me, too.

Things are different without you here. My mom and I can't joke about our future wedding or you proposing to me with those humongous earrings- which by the way- will never make sense to me. I wish I still got to see your shining smile or play with your hair until you fell asleep in class, even though I told you that you needed to pay attention. Our late night FaceTime calls while I helped you write a paper right after I finished mine will forever be in my memory. Nothing is the same without you here, Patty.

We met in the sixth grade. You were goofy and annoying and I was quiet and shy, but we somehow managed to become really close. Seventh grade came and went, we had a few conversations, but not nearly enough. When eighth grade came, we had every class together. We grew closer than ever before and I am so thankful it happened. High school came and went but we still talked. You would ask me for help with homework, or when we had classes together, you would sit beside me and ask me what momma packed you today.

Eventually, mom caught on and started packing me extras so I could feed you during Biology, even though I'm pretty sure your mom would always try to get you to eat something before you left in the mornings.

I wish I had more time with you to tell you everything I need to say, but this will suffice. I want to thank you for always keeping a smile on my face, even when things got bad. You never gave up on me and I am forever appreciative of that. You were such a genuine soul and I know you did everything in your heart to make others happy, even if you didn't realize it. Without you- there's no telling where I'd be. I miss you so much. We all miss you. You were a light for so many people and you impacted our lives greatly.

I'll never forget you, or the words you told me. "You're a big light in a small world, you just don't realize it yet." These are the words that drive me to do the best that I can. I want to make you and everyone around me proud. I want to make a change in the world, just like you.

I never thought that I would be writing this for you, but I guess that's how life works. No one tells us as young people that we might deal with the loss of our best friends, but the harsh reality is that it happens more often then we realize. It's something we don't want to face, but we have to. Just know that even though you're gone, you are forever in our hearts.

Take care of my Grammy until I get there. For now, I've got to make you both proud.

I love you forever.

Nyah

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A Letter To My Best Friend On Her Birthday

Happy Birthday to the girl I was so lucky have met in this lifetime.
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Hey You,

It is your birthday, and I don't know where to start. There are so many things I'd like to say on your special day that I literally could not fit into this article. So let me start by saying the most obvious thing: You're my best friend. (Duh)

Since the moment you walked into my life, we got along just perfectly. You were like the perfect piece to my puzzle. Not that anything was missing, but you became a part of me and you made me better than I was without you. I know you're probably laughing right now thinking this is super corny. Sure, me too.

One thing that amazes me is your unconditional form of giving. Anytime I need something, you never hesitate to offer and even more. If I happen to have a bad day, you listen to my problems and you reassure me that it will pass. And when I need your shoulder to cry on, you never hesitate to snap me back into reality and tell me to stay strong. You give me so much strength and you've taught me to make this my lifestyle.

Everywhere you go, you light up everyone's day. You really are a sight for sore eyes and you know it. You are thoughtful, compassionate, and your vibes are nothing but happiness. I know you don't have a boyfriend right now, but the day someone is interested in you, they better be damn great. You're the prettiest, the sweetest, the cutest, simply the best and more.

Not only are you the best ear, the best supporter, but you're also my perfect fit for the most important reason: You don't judge me when I say "Whataburger?" at 2 am. Whatever it may be that night; Taco Bell, McDonalds, Canes, your response is always "YAS," and I love you for that. I can't even count how many times we've just sat in the car eating without even talking to each other. It's the best.

We know our deepest fears, our greatest hopes.

I honestly don't know what I'd do if you'd never walked into my life. You've made me a stronger woman, a better me. I don't know how I got so lucky that we ever crossed paths. I guess it was just destiny that decided the perfect moment.

It's been only a year since I met you. That sounds so crazy to admit. Every time we hang up the phone or leave for a class we always say "I love you." That's the kind of friendship everyone hopes for. The sweet, "You're so hot! No, you're hotter! No, you are!" friendship that is mildly annoying, but so great to experience. You are without a doubt the Christina to my Meredith, the Michael Scott to my Dwight Schrute. You're the Elliot to my Olivia, the Poussey to my Tasty.

If I had never met you, I wouldn't be the person I am today.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that I am so thankful for your life. Especially on a day like today, we celebrate your life and wish you so many more years to walk this crazy world and sprinkle a little bit of happiness into everyone's life. Thank you for being you, babe. You are my person. Happy birthday to you, special girl. You've changed my life and you inspire me every day.

Love,

Your Best Friend.

Cover Image Credit: Raquel Torres

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No, I'm Not In A Sorority

At a big university like Syracuse, Greek life is a normalized life style. When you're not involved, it can feel isolating.

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Warning: Do not read if you are easily offended by slight criticism on Social Greek Life.

Upon meeting a new person at school, the conversation-starter-questions go as followed and without fail: "What's your name? What year are you? What house are you in?"

As a non-Greek life affiliated girl, this quick assumption that I have to be in a sorority is, frankly, annoying. The assumptions made about you when you reveal that you don't pay absurd amounts of money to meet others and have scheduled parties figured out for you are even more bothersome.

I am automatically viewed a certain way. When I tell girls I am unassociated with Greek life, a look of pity takes over their face.

A short and shocking statement: Not everyone wants to rush your, or any, sorority! I could if I wanted to, but I simply do not. The notion that my college experience is immediately less fun or valuable is a crude assumption.

I understand the fact that everyone feels a need to find "their people." If your way is paying thousands of dollars and becoming "sisters" with the girls that treated you less than human during your pledge process, by all means, have at it! That being said, do not judge or automatically make assumptions about me because I chose to find my people and passions in a different way.

There is a certain exclusivity many members of Greek life possess. For those uninvolved, it can be isolating. You see your friends go off to planned parties with others that were hand-picked by the members the year above them. They are handed a group of girls and immediately have this set of "sisters" they flock to.

That being said, I'm sure sororities do have their pros. That doesn't mean everyone wants to join one. That doesn't mean I am any less of a Syracuse University student because I am not involved. In my opinion, your identity should not be synonymous with a "house."

Girls: you are more than those letters.

Boys: you are more than the greatness of the parties you throw on Friday nights.

Do not make anyone feel less because they don't feel the desire to give a part of their life to a sorority or fraternity.

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