This Is What It's Really Like To Be An Only Child

This Is What It's Really Like To Be An Only Child

Many people even say that they wish they were in my place and sometimes I wish I was in theirs.


What is it like to be an only child? The stereotype says that we don't know how to share, we are lonely and our parents spoil us rotten. There are stereotyped perks, however, to being an only child as well, like a single room, lots of attention and always getting what you want. But how true are these stereotypes?

In my personal experience, my parents do spoil me because I am all they have and that is why they tend to be overprotective and value me more. Therefore, they try their best to give me the world, which I greatly appreciate. However, I feel that I never felt that lonely because my parents were always asking about me and talking to me.

When I got older and made friends, that was when I felt like I wanted someone closer to my age to spend time with at home. As a result of this, I tried, even more, to make close friends, giving more and being kinder so I could be accepted. I wanted a connection with someone that my friends had with their brothers and sisters.

As I grew up, I began to understand that being alone sometimes is not a big deal and having friends and family that genuinely care about you is more than enough. It is definitely a different experience than growing up with a sibling and I would not be who I am if I had one. Many people even say that they wish they were in my place and sometimes I wish I was in theirs.

The truth is that neither is better than the other. What really matters is who you have around you and if they make you feel cared for. The stereotypes come about because of the way people raise their children, so I don't think it really matters how many siblings you have, but how your parents treat you based on that number.

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15 Things You Know To Be True When Your Sibling Is 10 Years Younger

Being a big sister is the best job.

Growing up with one other sibling I had always grown to want another one. I mean, who wouldn't? When I was nine, my brother and I begged and pleaded for one.

Little had I known my mother was already a few months pregnant. When she made the big announcement though, I was certain she was going to tell us our family was going to Disney World; so hearing I was having another sibling didn't seem as exciting as I had originally thought.

However, having a younger sibling so much younger than I am has been so much fun. Granted, I changed so many diapers, gave bottles, and entertained him as much as I could over the years, I wouldn't trade him for the world (well, maybe another trip to Disney).

Here are some things that tend to happen when your sibling is 10 years younger than you:

1. Growing up you turned into what your parents loved to call the "free babysitter."

Let's be real, that was such good practice for being a babysitter for other families. I mean, at 10 years old I was already a pro at feeding babies, changing dirty diapers, and pretty much knew all there was to know about dealing with a baby.

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2. People give you weird looks, thinking you're the mother.

I'm just his sister, I promise!

3. They get away with more stuff than you did as a kid.

Mom definitely didn't let me do that when I was little... not cool.

4. Sometimes you slip and act like the mother.

"If you don't do it, I'm taking this from you and you're in big trouble!"

5. During Christmas you're up at the crack of dawn because they're so excited to see what Santa brought.

But seeing their face when they walk downstairs makes it all worth it.

6. You still fight and mess with each other.

Of course you win. Age is definitely a factor.

7. You start to realize they're not a baby anymore and they know how to do pretty much everything at this point (including knowing the password to your phone and playing on it).

Now I'm understanding why my mom would yell at me to stop growing up.

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8. You start to see all the wonderful qualities they got from you.

Honestly he's pretty much a mini me, and great at basically everything.

9. Then you start to see, not only is he good at what you're good at, but he also excels at things you suck at.

It's okay, he makes up for all the things I didn't do well. You're welcome, Mom and Dad.

10. You always have a little buddy to hang out with and duet with in the car.

It's crazy how many songs he picks up from the radio, that or kids-bop.

11. They FaceTime you at college telling you about their day in elementary school.

This is honestly one of the best parts about being a big sis, its precious.

12. You're not ashamed an 8-year-old is one of your best friends.

He would be yours, too, if you knew him.

13. You've done the math several times in your head about how old you'll be when he graduates from high school (almost 30). I don't want to talk about it.

It's okay, don't freak out, age is just a number.

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14. Your friends even think he's cool, and he is basically friends with all of them.

He might be more popular than me with them.

15. You wouldn't trade them for anything and know how much of blessing they are in your life.

I love being a big sister to you, dude.

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13 Benefits Of Having A Big Sister, Or Better Yet, Two

They might sound like a pain, but they are a pain you can't help but love.


You may be the eldest sister or have no sisters or you're the youngest and you can't seem to imagine what I could possibly be about to list in this article. It may not be roses and dandelions all the time, but a sister has much more pros than cons. You will fight, bicker, and annoy the crap out of each other, but what do you expect you're siblings?

It's normal and all those things get outweighed by the reasons below.

1. An extra closet for you. 

You will always have a second closet to search through when you get sick of yours because we all have those days where nothing you try on is working. The only downfall is she might just reciprocate and search through your closet as well.

2. She can teach you all those maturing girl things. 

We all have gone through it. Those awkward years when you transition from being a child to being a teenager. She will teach you everything you don't want to ask your parents about, especially not your father.

3. You can always count on her brutal honesty.

No matter when, where, or what it involves she will always tell you like it is. She won't be a friend who is too scared to overstep. She isn't one of your parents so you can't pull the "You have to say that cause I'm your kid" card.

4. Side kick at all family events. 

You know those long, sometimes uncomfortable or tiring family events? She is always there to help you get through them. Basically, you can suffer together.

5. She knows you better than you know yourself. 

While you think you know yourself the best or maybe you imagine it must be your mother who knows you the most. Sorry to break it to you, but it is most likely your sister because she's watched you grow up your entire life and she knows all the dirty secrets you would never tell your mother.

6. You get Maid of Honor rights. 

This one is a lot of work, but definitely a winner. I just got to experience this one and it's like nothing you've ever experienced before so look forward to it and take it all in!

7. She will always help you through everything. 

Almost everything you go through she's already had to deal with, so she might just save your life. She will be your number one person for your life and all life experiences

8. Hand me downs - may not sound like a pro, but they are. 

Hand me downs sound like a killer, but it kind of just means you get a hell of a lot more toys, clothes, and goodies.

9. Growing up, it was a sleepover every night. 

You practically grew up in a house of sleepovers because you always had a friend to go swimming a night with, eat ice cream with, or watch movies with every night.

10.  She helps you defend yourself to your parents. 

She will always be your partner when your parents crack down on you. While there's two of them and one of you, jokes on them because she helps level the playing field.

11. She's always there to master your hair or makeup. 

When your eye shadow won't blend or your hair is curling wacky – your sister will come to the rescue.

12.  Practically twins. 

You'll never be alone because you are as close as twins. You can literally depend on her to always tag along for whatever you wish to do whether that's a trip to Publix, a movie binge watching night, late night ice cream, run outside or a tanning buddy – she's your gal.

13. A second mother. 

While she's your best friend, she will also be another mother for you when you need it.

Hopefully, this gave you an idea of just a few of the wonderful reasons you should call your elder sister and tell her you to love her right now. If your as lucky as me and have two sisters, meaning double of all the reasons I listened above then call both. If you're luckier than me and have even more, you might need to settle for a well thought out group text or start dialing now.

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