Anyone that watches Grey's Anatomy knows every character has had their fair share of relationships, and relationship problems.
Spoiler alert ahead.
With Cristina's abortion of Burke's child, him leaving her at the altar, her finally finding love again with Owen but then being suffocated by his need for a child, then having another abortion with Owen's child, being cheated on then asked for a divorce from Owen, she has her merry go round of bad relationships.
She has won every dog/pony show and got every t-shirt. She is one of the most developed characters on Grey's; going from an independent, egotistical, naive intern, to a skillful, slightly less independent, strong cardiothoracic surgeon everyone knows and prays will come back.
1. "The problem is estrogen."
Yes, half the time in arguments of relationships, it's the women's fault. Whether it's hormones, that "time of the month", or the fact that women are generically stubborn, the problem may well just be the woman herself. Not saying this is the case all the time seeing how men are just are stubborn as women and think they are always right.
2. "Somebody sedate me."
Sometimes the problem in relationships is the other isn't getting enough sleep. A good old fashion nap could be a good way to relieve the tension and stress between a couple. Whether it's from working hard at work, taking care of the kids, or simply housework. Don't judge your significant other on if they have actually reasoning to be tired. DEFINITELY don't play the "who is my exhausted/who works harder" game.
3. "Shut up."
Some people just don't know when to quit. Know in an argument when it's time to stop. Whether it's to save the other person's feelings, not saying something you will regret, or knowing that is is better to lose the argument than lose the person. A good rule of thumb is to think about, "is this argument really going to matter in a few hours anyway?".
4. "What is wrong with you?"
Sometimes simply asking what is wrong helps so much in relationships. Even if nothing is genuinely wrong, it shows the other person you cared enough to ask. You should want to know if the other person is okay or not. Happiness when in relationships should stem from the happiness of your significant other. Their happiness makes you happy.
5. "Shut up. I'm your person."
Most people want to know they are significant in their partner's life. Not necessarily do they have to be the priority but, they should know that they fall high on the list of priorities.You should know your partner to the point of knowing their needs, and knowing how much attention they need to receive to be okay on an emotional level.
6. "I don't want one."
You both need to be on the same level on whether or not you have kids. There can be a compromise on when the having kids can occur, but you don't need to be with someone who doesn't want kids if you want 3-4. Catch my drift? Another problem with today's relationships is most people already have kids. This is not necessarily a problem in itself, but if you come into this situation, you have to know if you are okay sharing your S/O for the rest of your life (and their kid). That's holidays, birthdays, emergencies, or just random days of the week that can be altered with parents.
7. "This is just my face."
Most girls struggle with a common life symptom known as RBF, shortened for "resting bitch face." Having this does not necessarily mean we are a bitch, and it does not mean that we are mad. It's just our face. Now, you reoccurringly asking if something is wrong and if I'm mad or irritated, IS going to irritate us.
8. "I don't speak girl."
Understand your man is not a mind reader and is not a girl. He doesn't know our language, our feelings, or our actions unless you DISTINCTIVELY explain it to them. Be very clear, leave out no details, because boys are oblivious to when something is wrong.
9. "Nobody cares."
Know what needs to be said, and what doesn't. Sure, Tina at work may have pissed you off, but your S/O doesn't know them, and probably honestly doesn't want to hear about it. Not because they don't care about you as a person, but because they know it won't matter to you in a few hours. Sure you may need to get it off your chest, but just think of another way to get the stress out instead of ranting to your spouse about it.
10. "Life is hard."
Understand relationships don't come easy. It's a lot of work. Most people say "oh it shouldn't be hard, it's should be easy." But that's not necessarily true. When you both have work, one may have school, you have a house, animals or kids thrown in the mix, it damn sure is not easy. It's a lot of time management, budgeting, understanding, and communication. It's not easy to be with that person, it's easy to love them. And that "the days you only can put in 20% effort, I'll put in the other 80%", isn't how relationships work EFFICIENTLY. It should always be 100% from both sides.