Women  from all different continents and centuries have challenged themselves repeatedly by trying to change the bad boy into their prince. There is nothing wrong with that- I have definitely played my fair share of games with the opposite sex. It’s a learning experience to say the least. I encourage you though, to take time to get to know the good guys and even give them a chance. 

Despite the title of this- it isn’t about dissing the good guys in or lives, it is only a reminder that if it doesn’t work out with one great guy to not revert back to old ways…  But to stick with what you deserve. Because of past relationships I am guilty of easily self sabotaging myself and any chance of a relationship worth my time. I know I’m not the only one to struggle with this. However, I still strongly suggest taking a leap of faith, not overthinking things, and trying something new while being open minded. You never know where it’ll take you.

This past year, I have learned a lot about myself and even more about what I want and deserve from my future husband. I took a chance on someone- one of the best friends I ever had. It wasn’t easy, it was actually the complete opposite, because as humans we bring past problems to current situations. Things can get complicated easily, if we let them. I learned that chances are we aren’t meant to be in the big scheme of things- but taking a chance- made me realize a lot. 

I realized what it’s like to care for someone and really open my eyes to getting to know them as more than a friend even if that’s all they’ve ever been or will be. I was able to witness traits I loved but never thought I’d find all encompassed in one person. It gave me hope for my future relationships and the man that I am meant to be with. Although that is great, it actually isn’t the purpose of this article.  The most important thing about not settling and trying something out was that I learned that I need to work on myself.

As women, we say it all the time, that we need to work on ourselves or take time for ourselves. Sadly, at some point we just let that become an excuse for people to leave us alone. Spending time with someone you see everything you want in- really makes you reevaluate who are and who you’d be in a relationship. So I make it a point to say whether it takes a good guy or you can do it on your own- take a good look at yourself. Examine who you are and your goals for who you want to become.

I read once about a mother showing her daughter the passage in 2 Corinthians about love, but instead replacing the word love with the boy’s name she showed interest in. I thought that was so cool and really put things into perspective about people. Even though, it is a good way to see how a man would treat you… I ask you, what if you replaced the word love with your own name? Would the passage still make sense and be accurate? I think about this often and it really encourages me to be the best version of myself that I can be. 

As I stated earlier, the nice guy isn’t always the right guy. There are many nice guys and you’ll probably meet and even get to know a few. But the important thing is being the nice woman. The woman we strive to be should only get better each day. Whether your favorite example of love is Thomas Rhett & Laura Atkins or Chip & Joanna Gaines- remember you have to strive towards greatness even before you meet your “Mr.Right.” Take time to become who you want to be and the rest will fall into place just as it is meant to.