As we welcome another Lenten season, those who participate are looking for things to sacrifice in solidarity and remembrance of Jesus' sacrifice on the cross. Often, though, people choose to give up things such as candy or social media, which I myself am guilty of doing, too. While giving up these things may be difficult and is great in the sense that it sheds at least a small amount of light on what sacrifice means, it doesn't necessarily bring us any closer to God. So, I've made a list of some things that you can give up this Lenten season and beyond that will truly bring you closer in your relationship with God.
1. Judging others
For a lot of people, judging the way other people dress, act, talk, etc. has become so second nature that they may not even realize that they're doing it. This Lent, make a point to notice the positive aspects of a person rather than criticizing them for what you perceive to be negatives. Being kind towards others will not only strengthen your relationships with those around you but also your relationship with God.
2. Taking time for granted
Many people, especially those who work or are in school, tend to spend their days waiting for the weekend, their next break, or any other moment that will be "better" than the present. This Lenten season, try to live in the moment and be content with everything that you have right now. Don't take time for granted by spending it waiting and wishing for the future. If we remember to be thankful for the present moment, we will be able to see God's beauty and grace in everything around us more clearly.
3. Thinking pessimistically about yourself
It's easy to get down on ourselves or feel bad about our current situations given the accessibility that the Internet gives us, showing us all the positive aspects about others' lives through various social media apps. This can cause us to think very pessimistically, but it's important to remember that people will only show us what they want us to see. This Lent, give up thinking negatively about yourself and instead try to view yourself as a child of God, made in His image and designed with a specific plan in mind.
4. Complaining
It's easy to focus on everything that seems to be going wrong in our lives, but this Lenten season, try to shift your focus to all the positive things that surround you. For example, instead of complaining about having to get up and go to school all day, be thankful that you have the opportunity to get an education. Thinking this way will not only make us happier, but also bring us closer to God in that we'll be able to see and appreciate everything that He has given us.
So, this Lent, in addition to or in place of giving up material things like chocolate or candy, try to give up the negative mindsets that seem to infiltrate our daily lives. Shifting toward a more positive outlook on yourself and others will make you happier and help you grow in your relationship with God.