I may have only started this endeavor of potential adulthood roughly a year ago, but it hasn’t taken me long to figure out what a majority of this decade is going to be like. I'm hoping by 25 I'll have more of this stuff figured out, however until then I must endure the enlightening and confusing period that is my early 20's.
While I work out the kinks and slowly transition over to the woman department, I've started to notice some things that have become my constant reality.
People put less effort into helping you solve your problems.
One person I've always relied on in my times of apparent need was my mom. I still need her to help me with 2/3 of my life, but her involvement in my everyday decisions has started to dwindle.
Whether I can't find something or I'm having the moral dilemma of deciding which event I attend or decline, my mom has been giving me more and more free reign to come to my own conclusions. Like that? Make these decisions myself? What does she think this is? Make them for me gosh darnit!
Adults expect you to have an idea as to how adulting works.
I don’t know what it is, but once real adults find out you’re in your 20’s they think you have your s**t together. They just give you all these responsibilities like going to the doctors by yourself and budgeting your (insufficient) funds. Then they ask you real life questions like, "What are you doing after graduation?" and "So, is there anyone special in your life?" I can't even figure out what I want for breakfast, let's slow our roll here.
Things cost money.
I've always known that you need some sort of currency to acquire the things you are looking to purchase. However, the older I get the more currency is required to purchase said items. And you don't just buy things you want anymore. Now I have bills, gas and textbooks to pay for. And don't even get me started on tuition *shudders*
You apparently can't have a good time if you're sober.
This is the prime age where alcohol is allegedly a necessary tool to enjoy your life. If everyone isn't trashed then we're not having a good time, and I am pegged for the psycho who doesn't want seven shots of Jaeger –– or one for that matter. I have a bunch of friends that say "Oh, I can't dance sober" or "I need to at least have one who before I go there." Like why? All I'm tryna do is have a good time, take some pics and not feel like crap the next day. Is that too much to ask?
Teenagers are idiots.
Even though we speak about our teenage years as if they happened decades ago, our times of being annoying pubescent organisms lurk just around the corner. However, now that I'm no longer one of them, it is so easy to recognize all the highly annoying and idiotic things they do and roll my eyes in disgust. Then five seconds later ask myself if I was that annoying as a teen and soon a montage of horrible flashes through my mind. Better to pretend that never happened.
You will makes mistakes.
I like to think of this as our free trial period of life. This is where we test a lot of stuff out to see if we like it. Some stuff we can give back, others you can't return even after you decide it's not something you want to continue with. We're gonna make a lot of mistakes. We're gonna mess up dozens of times. We might make our parents upset, our friends mad and ourselves frustrated
. We may be able to fix some things we broke and have to live with the consequences of those we can't. The good thing about now is that this isn't forever. We have so much room to change. And we will.
