1.) It’s okay to change your “group”
Friend groups change, and that’s okay. Sometimes it’s just a gradual drift, but other times you have to make a conscious decision to reevaluate the friendships in your life in order to live your best life. It can be hard to completely abandon what was once comfortable, but for me it was something I had to do. Recognizing when you are no longer happy is the first step to improving your life, and your friend group. Friends come and go, but after all the changes I have made I can say that I am happier than I have ever been in my second year of college.
2.) Last year doesn’t stick
A new school year means a new you; you are not who you were last year, so don’t be so hard on yourself. Coming in to college as a freshman filled me with fear, anxiety, and a sense that I would never be good enough. For me, last year was tough both mentally and emotionally, but luckily every day is made new. It took me this summer to realize I don’t have to experience the feelings I did as a freshman. This year I feel more confident and comfortable in who I am. Maybe it’s the changes I’ve made in my mentality or maybe it’s by the power of God. Whatever the case, who you were and how you felt last year does not dictate who you are now and who you will become.
3.) Don’t take yourself too seriously
Another thing I have come to realize at the beginning of my sophomore year is not to take myself to seriously. College is a once in a lifetime experience and it is a privilege. So take responsibility for your assignments, but also have fun. Go to that soccer game, go to concerts with your friends, and go get those tacos in the fancy part of town. Take time to get to know your suitemates and invest in someone other than yourself. Don’t take yourself too seriously, because eventually we all will be busy with own lives and careers and we will never get these moments back.
4.) Alone time is valuable
With a roommate, two suitemates, and my friends down the hall, alone time can be a rarity. Now, I admit I spend a lot of time with these girls because they are some of my best friends, but I am coming to the understanding that alone time can be just as important as building relationships. As an introvert I believe that spending hours by myself is where I can recharge, think clearly, and find my peace of mind. Making time in your schedule for these quiet moments may almost seem impossible with the busy schedules us college students face. However, the times I have to myself are the most crucial and the most valuable.
